Can some mamas tell me they faced gender disappointment also and maybe how to cope better. Also maybe some happy endings of how much you love your baby and it worked out.
I'm having baby #4. I have two girls and a boy my youngest. I always wanted 4 kids. My husband was very set that we would stop at 4. I found getting pregnant with #4 bitter sweet. It's sad to think this would be my last and move into the next stage of our lives, but part of me is really excited to MOVE to the next stage of our lives. The number one reason I had this baby was to give my son a brother. My girls are best friends. He needs someone to share in boy stuff with him. We did everything they say to make a boy. Even iced my husbands balls! I had no doubt I would get a boy. I even gave away all my girl clothes.
Well I had a ultrasound at 16 weeks and got the "think" it's a girl. I knew it was. I had dreams and I just knew. I was OK until I corrected my son that the baby was in fact a girl not a boy. He cried so much. I cried more. I had to confirm with a second ultrasound that it is indeed a girl.
I know I will love her of course. I already do. But I feel like all my plans have gone to crap. I went to get baby clothes for her yesterday and though I would feel better. My son picked out all boy stuff and it was actually cute (boy stuff is never cute). I felt so sad seeing him be excited by boy clothes and boy toys knowing he's not getting a brother. I know he will love the baby and it will be OK. I do. But I am disappointed. I feel guilty I'm disappointed. Some women can't have babies and would give anything for 4. I feel guilty and sad thinking -would I of gotten pregnant with her knowing it was a girl? I was SO content after my son was born, finally a boy. Should I of stopped at 3? Now I don't know what the future holds (I hate that!). My husband (after seeing me weep uncontrollable) has since agreed to more. I don't like odd numbers and think can I really care for 6 kids? What if they are girls too and my son never gets a brother? And the age difference. I waited to have this baby because I'm overwhelmed. My son will be just shy of 4yo when she is born. I'm getting old too. I didn't want to have any babies past 34. I'm 33 now.
Tell me it will be alright. Tell me I'm being selfish and silly.