so i want to open up space and talk about this.
mods i purposely did not put this in the mental health forum because first and foremost it is about teens and i am looking for specifically teen issues.
i have a mature 10 year old who is struggling. is she depressed? dont know yet. but 'down' enough to seek counselling and then see what that leads to.
recently i read statistics that says one in seven teens are depressed. of course i dont buy that stat coz i think it would be closer to one in 3 or 4. coz of the shame factor i am sure there are many whose issues are swept under the carpet.
so if you are willing to talk about this - how are you doing?
what kinds of things help your child.
if you struggled through your childhood, i would like to hear that too.
i have a VERY sensitive, intense child who sees herself differently than the world sees her. coparenting and having 180 degrees differences in parenting styles have created stress in dd's life.
it is really hard for me to see that dd doesnt see her 'talents' or 'positives'. for her that is just who she is and so its not so outstanding for her. i'd like to see her take more pride in herself. humility is good, but acknowledging yourself is good too.
so what helps your child?
while we try to figure out what is going on ...
... i find the golden rule is now so important. enough rest, enough stimulation on all levels - social, intellectual, emotional... as well as a full stomach is so helpful.
what helps you? i am having to learn how to parent my child, how to change what my idea of parenting is now, and do the exact opposite (mostly) of what i have been used to (silence vs. talk and explain).
i am not sure what i am asking here. i just need more moms to talk about this issue so that i dont feel so isolated.