Originally Posted by haurelia
We didn't plan on cosleeping but once DS was born it didn't feel right not to. My DH is 6'2"/215 and we had a queen at the time. We have a king now and he starts in his own room, joining us every night between 2-5am. Lots of DTD happened in our bed during early infancy, then it moved elsewhere in the house during later infancy and toddlerhood. You get creative. Just my 2 cents, but as a first time mama, I'd never have dreamed I'd have sex with a baby in bed, or sleep with my 4 year old, but...just play it by ear. Parenthood has taught me to make very few rules for what I will or won't do.
This. Totally this. We have two kids co-sleeping in our bed right now, so clearly some rearranging is going to have to be done. I'm kind of the mindset that we should move both the 4 and 2 year old together so they both have company in the new bed, but my 2 year old is REALLY high needs (having a total fit if she wakes up during the night and someone isn't there...) But my 4 year old doesn't understand why only *she* is getting evicted. I need to decide something soon. We have enough room for everyone - we have a full next to a queen on the floor, but someone needs to move closer to DH in bed to make room for #3.
I know it sounds like a headache, but I couldn't agree more with haurelia's statement above about not making rules. I didn't start out being a rabid co-sleeping mama, and clearly, since we're on kid #3, it hasn't slown down our sex life at all. Kids sleep deeper than adults and even with more enthusiastic lovemaking both kids sleep like rocks.