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post #21 of 68

I had a dream about a month ago that has stuck with me.

 

In my dream it was a gorgeous September day, I had doors and windows open, the sun was shining bright & warm. My daughter was napping in our room and I was in the living room. I was in very active labour and had called my husband & doula, telling them both to get here now because things were progressing very quickly! I was leaning against the doorway from our living room to a short hallway where the bathroom and bedrooms are. Suddenly I felt the urge to push and I thought, shit I'm doing this on my own. Okay well keep your wits, no time to panic. I started pushing and a few dream pushes later out popped a big, beautiful, healthy little boy! He was smiling and seemed so peaceful. he didn't even cry! Minutes later my doula & husband come in to find me sitting on towels n the ground, little boy snuggled against me with a blanket covering us. 

 

I just found out we are having a boy so now I'm like OMG! what that dream was a premonition!" I told my midwife about it and she said, "Well you obviously didn't need a hospital anyway and you don't need to cut the cord. If it happens just keep yourselves warm!" 

post #22 of 68

Another cuckoo dream last night:

I'd had the baby and he was tiny, like 12" and I was putting his clothes on and changing his diaper and then we were going to put him back in the womb!

Then later on he had grown quite a bit and even though he was only a week old or so he was the size of a 9 month old and behaving like a toddler, putting himself to sleep in some weird plastic rocking crib that was adjustable for size. He hadn't adjusted it right though so his head was rocking at a different pace than his body and it gave him that bobblehead look.

Then I was at a friend's house and inquiring about a babysitter and my friend gave me a weird look and pulled me aside and said she was sleeping with this other girl so I couldn't use her as a sitter anymore. Then the same thing happened when we went to some other guy's house and I kept being annoyed at the fact that she was sleeping with all my potential babysitters.

post #23 of 68
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I like listening to the dreams some of them are quite weird!

 

last night or this morning I dreamt that I had two babies like twins except one was much bigger than then the other. I was trying to breast feed one and change and care for them while many people were around putting in their two sense and advice and it was all making me feel very overwhelmed. I had the feeling that if I didn't do well in their sight they would say I was not fit to take care of my children. I didn't want anyone trying to help me because I was afraid that they might take them away.

post #24 of 68
I keep having dreams that this baby is a girl. Our matenit21 test said boy, but I can't shake the girl "feeling" and the dreams are either an expression of that or feeding that feeling- or both! Tomorrow is our 20 week us, so I guess we will get confirmation of the gender then.
post #25 of 68

I dreamed I had the baby last night.  Cute bundle of chubby joy - nothing too weird about the dream, but it focused a lot on breast feeding.  Mostly my anxiety that it wasn't working right...  I kept checking and rechecking how he was latching on.

post #26 of 68

Lilmamita; I had a very similar dream last night. The two times I've dreamt about him, it has involved worrying about breastfeeding.

post #27 of 68
Anyone else struggling with nightmares? They're pretty much all about being abandoned, losing DF, or people trying to kill me. I notice the nightmares are getting worse when DF is not hugging me in my sleep. I feel super needy asking for this, but it's the only thing that helps right now.
post #28 of 68

I don't know if it qualifies as a nightmare, but last night I had a very distressful dream where I kept waking up in my bed with really painful swelling and pain in my ankles and wrists.  I have had some swelling in my ankles (but not much pain) and my wrists have been perfectly fine.  But in the dream I was freaking out, thinking I had some major complication.

post #29 of 68

i'm struggling with dreams containing graphic violence. disturbing images. i sometimes wake up in the middle of the night afraid to go back to sleep.

post #30 of 68
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i'm struggling with dreams containing graphic violence. disturbing images. i sometimes wake up in the middle of the night afraid to go back to sleep.


that certainly sounds distressing, vc2013.  Have you struggled with these types of dreams in the past or are they new with your pregnancy?

post #31 of 68
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i'm struggling with dreams containing graphic violence. disturbing images. i sometimes wake up in the middle of the night afraid to go back to sleep.

 

I've had a few like that. I had them with my DD too. 

post #32 of 68
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that certainly sounds distressing, vc2013.  Have you struggled with these types of dreams in the past or are they new with your pregnancy?

 

my dreams have changed with the pregnancy. i didn't really have these kinds of dreams before.. i used to know my dreams really well. now it's a mix of mostly nightmares and just completely random trippy dreams. 

post #33 of 68
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my dreams have changed with the pregnancy. i didn't really have these kinds of dreams before.. i used to know my dreams really well. now it's a mix of mostly nightmares and just completely random trippy dreams. 


I've also had some really crazy dreams since becoming pregnant.  I used to really not remember my dreams very often, but now I do.  Sometimes they are pretty clear anxiety dreams, though they are often about things I shouldn't really be anxious about.  I've had a couple dreams where the baby that is born clearly came from a different father than my partner (which is completely impossible but totally freaks me out, nonetheless).  Other times they are more straightforward anxieties about being a good mother and being able to breastfeed (I feel like breastfeeding just kinda generally represents being a good mother to me).  And I've also had scary, gruesome dreams, too....everything from violent shootouts to my partner having a gross, festering wound.  I just chalk them all up to a general heightened sense of anxiety around becoming a mother.

I feel like dreams can often provide symbolic clues about what is on our mind, but that they are almost never literal.  So if we can't easily figure out the symbolism, it isn't something to get too hung up on.

post #34 of 68

lilmamita, yes i have those other anxiety dreams too. like DF going to jail for something he did or didn't do, and leaving me and the baby alone and stuff like that. it's the graphic violence i'm struggling with. it's also completely pointless.. i'm good at dream interpretation, but it just seems to me that my system must be out of balance or maybe completely overloaded with hormones or somatic changes.. so maybe that's why i'm having these "physical" dreams that cross boundaries. that's the most sense i can make of it all. 

 

i've noticed i don't have so many nightmares when DF is holding me in my sleep.

post #35 of 68

another bad night with a series of nightmares. first an abandonment dream, then two dreams about me being unable to get myself out of a bad situation because of pregnancy brain. i was so shaken up i came into work an hour late this morning. i'm actually having regular coffee this morning (only half a small cup, but still) because i can't keep my eyes open.

post #36 of 68

I dreamed that my bellybutton had popped but instead of just a little button it looked like an appendage, a mini tail about the size of a finger...

post #37 of 68

First baby dream, and it had to be a not so good one.

 

We forgot to feed the baby because we're scatterbrained and the baby didn't complain, and neither DH nor I could remember the last time baby ate.

post #38 of 68

Chsipita; I have that sort of dream a lot, I think because of my worries about breastfeeding.

 

Last night I dreamt that I was watching him moving in my tummy, except my skin was thin and stretched over him, so I could see all the details like his nose and face. It was really weird. He was being very active yesterday and I was watching my belly moving about as he kicked. So that probably had a lot to do with it!

post #39 of 68

You know how sometimes someone will liken birth to "pushing a bowling ball out one's vagina"?

Last night in my dream I gave birth to an actual bowling ball. It didn't hurt at all and was alive but it was most definitely a bowling ball. Somehow in the dream I wasn't surprised at this at all and promptly wrapped it up in a blanket.

post #40 of 68
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First baby dream, and it had to be a not so good one.

 

We forgot to feed the baby because we're scatterbrained and the baby didn't complain, and neither DH nor I could remember the last time baby ate.


This is very similar to most of the baby dreams I have been having.  Most of them, unfortunately and kind of embarrassingly, have to do with us not taking very good care of the baby.  I'm chalking it up to anxiety about not being a good enough mother.

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