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LET'S CHAT! April 22-31

post #1 of 65
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Feel a little weird starting the chat thread when I've been doing so little chatting and so much lurking, but hey, lol

How are our Feb mamas and little ones? Doc visit updates? Fussy/sunny weeks? Developmental changes you've noted? Your pp hormones? Relationship issues?

I've got myself a little drool machine! She's been at it for a little over a week now, when sucking her fists, my shoulders, arms, collarbone, any part of me really lol. One thing she's decidedly not slobbering all over is the paci I tried to give her. Not.having.it.

She's still all about mama, which is still bruising DH's feelings a little... I am fine most of the time but sometimes it is a little overwhelming to be the only one that can keep her happy most of the time. I cherish it, yes, but sometimes I wish she would be cool with her Dad more...

Are any of your LOs having fussy periods in the mornings? DD has been so difficult to put back to sleep between 5 and 7ish, nightmare!
post #2 of 65
Sometimes we have fussy morning periods. It just depends in the day.

Had our two month doctor visit today. What is everyone doing for vaccinations? We got the first round but I'm looking into doing delayed schedule once I have time to research it more. She cried but I put her on my boob right away and she was ok after a minute or so.

She's also drooling a lot and chewing on her fists. We had a rough weekend I tried adding in dairy again and it didn't go well. Not sure if it was just coincidence but I have a feeling not. So she is feeling better today finally and slept a lot since she didn't sleep to well for the two days after I had the dairy. Gas and reflux was back full force.
Edited by Jenny01 - 4/23/13 at 7:39am
post #3 of 65
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In the same boat over here re vaccinations, it'll be interesting to hear some perspectives from u mamas.
post #4 of 65

Hey ladies-

there is a great forum about selective and delayed vaccinations here on mothering..... 

 

We did all of the research and found that no vaccinations were the best choice for us.  I think it is such a personal decision and there are different risks...... I am really comfortable with our decision though.  We are not die hard anti-vax, but for our family, we dont do any.

post #5 of 65

we haven't done any yet and we're delayed vax. she's not high risk for anything since we both work at home and have no other children. plus we just couldn't stand to see her get shots yet. i'm in charge of the vax schedule, hubby supports it. 

 

 

we had our first restaurant experience sunday for a family dinner. i hadn't planned on going with naomi but she had just happened to wake up for a nap as hubby was getting ready to go, so i put her in the boba wrap and walked there. she fell asleep right when we got there and slept most of the time. woke up like where the hell am i and was passed to grandma then nursed and it was time to go. it was really nice, but i won't/don't make plans to go out, it's all very spontaneous. she cries so much when she's in her carseat so i walk everywhere with her now. it's HEARTBREAKING to see her crying and looking at me like why aren't you picking me up? then i start crying. ugh

post #6 of 65
Ugh I know how you feel - the carseat is evil!
post #7 of 65
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Thanks Chloe'sMama, I'll check it out.

DH and I went to a couple's event last Saturday and DD slept on me in her wrap the entire .evening - she gets some of her best sleep in there. I walk or get.the bus most places with her and she loves it - only thing is that as she's getting heavier I find it hard on my back to wear her for long periods. Going to look into some back carry positions and see if that helps.
post #8 of 65

My decision making process goes like this: I feel like choosing not to vaccinate her against something is saying that I would rather take the risk of her contracting whatever the vaccine is for, so if I could not live with myself for making that choice then I should vaccinate against it. In Canada, all standard vaccinations are single-use, limiting the number of preservatives (i.e. heavy metals).

 

We're not into the double whammies though, so she's not getting more than one vaccine per month, which my doctor is respectful of.

 

Mila is also Drooly McGee these days! She's starting to get really fun these days too, where she's starting to be interested in toys. She also plays with her hands all the time now, touching them together so it looks like she's working on some devious plot to take over the world. I melt into a little puddle regularly.

post #9 of 65
Hi feb mamas!!!! I feel like I haven't been around here in a month ..

My little guy is smiling and laughing and fussy and clingy as ever .. Ok not really, but this has been a extra bad few days so it seems like ill never be able to put him down ... He pretty much lives in the ring sling..

Everything was good at our 2 mo check up almost 2 wks ago - he has. A birth mark on his cheek that is new for us.. And he was 11lbs 13oz and i dont remember how long but he was at thr top of the chart.. And something is going on with his head, our pediatric Chiro has been working on it, he is concerned that the plates in his skull still overlap (causing ridges) and his soft spot is closing very quickly .. Very different from my other kids who had huge heads and huge soft spots .. We are seeing the chiropractor weekly to try to stay on top of it ..

Oh and we didn't do any vaxs yet.. I plan to do a delayed/selective schedule - I usually do 1-2 a month for most of the first year but I just couldn't bring myself todo it yet - I want to be over this super fussy-clingy thing before we mess with this- the pedi is ok with us waiting until 6 mo to start but I don't want to do a lot of shots over the winter - and I do want him to have some of them because we are planning to travel early next year and we'll be exposed to more germs then.. I've also had a kid who didn't react at all to shots and one who reacted horribly (and one in the middle) not knowing which one he will be is stressful
post #10 of 65

is anyone's baby starting to favor one boob over the other?

 

naomi hasn't cared until a few days ago she started wanting the right over the left when it's bedtime. the right nip is also the most sensitive, and a few days ago she clamped down on it real hard between her gums. hurt SO bad and is still a little hurt. 

it's interesting to me b/c the left nip is thicker than the right (she did this...sorry tmi) but she wants the other now. it's like she wants to make that one bigger now. bigeyes.gif

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5-7 am is my nightmare and the worst part of newborn life.  which isn't too bad.  i just hang w/ him and hope i can go back down.

 

w/ my first, i called my Grandpa/Pediatrician and had a couple of vaccines that he thought were important. I chose his most important one, and then asked my Dr. and chose his most important one and had those 2 for the first year.  My older sister has a documented vaccine reaction to the DTaP (TDaP) and so i'm very aware.  my 2nd didn't cry for the first 3 months of life, seriously, she mewed or talked, but never CRIED, so i really couldn't handle the thought of making her scream like my son had.  so she never got any.

 

and so the story goes, now i don't vax, but i'm in dialog w/ my pedi.  so far, w/ a 7, 5, 3, 2(tomorrow!) and 2 month old, I don't see us vaxxing anytime soon.  I'm a stay at home mom, they eat whole, local, organic, and homemade foods (seriously, i cook all day) and haven't had any issues w/ my unvaxxed kids yet except they are very healthy and happy.  i'm willing to talk about it all and address any real concerns for their health, but cannot accept vaccines as a necessary treatment for healthy kids.  we're exposed to the flu multiple times a year, colds, viruses, and we don't even share them when one kid does get sick.

 

i would NEVER ask another mother to make the choices i do, but can say that it works well for us.

 

 

How are our Feb mamas and little ones?

amazing!  i can't believe he's as easy, happy and sweet as he is!  loving this little one!

 

Doc visit updates?

had to cancel 2 months for a mediation.  would rather have argued vaccines.  oh yeah.  so 3 months next. he's huge and happy and healthy so far.

 

Fussy/sunny weeks?

he's sunny most weeks.  i'm so immune to bits of fussiness these days that hubby and i keep raving about how easy and happy he is.  people in our community also are shocked at how happy and social he is for 10 weeks.  he loves a little 9 year old girl that likes to snuggle him.  her mom was floored that i let her carry him.  i guess it's not normal, but she's a very sweet, responsible and gentle girl and he loves her and leans into her when she's in his line of sight.  speaking of line of sight- he can spy me across a room- like 20 ft away and keep focus and then holler for me!  whoa.

 

 

Developmental changes you've noted?

oh- see above!  he's also almost got his thumb.  is lurching all over as if he can almost crawl.  baby sit-ups nightly.  and talking his head off while cooing and smiling at me.  he's got me so wildly smitten i cannot even begin to figure out how!  

 

Your pp hormones?

crazy but settling.  i've had the biggest drop in libido ever charted.  and i've been charting for 5+ years.  we're down to 2x a week, or once every 3-4 days.  since i'm doing Creighton model, it's only end of day, and we're both so totally and completely and ridiculously wiped by then that it keeps just falling by the wayside.  after almost 12 years of marriage and 5 kids, it's a new thing!  we so appreciate it when we get the time and have the energy to be intimate, but it's really a challenge suddenly.  but night sweats are easing up, i'm only making an extra 16 oz a day, and almost, almost don't feel stinky and slightly crazy all the time.

 

 

Relationship issues?

yes- the lack of time and energy for each other has been very challenging.  we flirt, we really try to be there for each other.  he's on a plane to California from MA right now.  but it's been hard.  baby in bed is great, but does shift things.  charting again after birth leads to some stressors i didn't miss while pregnant.  i love being pregnant b/c i'm already pregnant!  but now we have to decide on next steps.  not today.  so we're trying very hard to adjust- baby number 5 has changed things in a way we couldn't predict.  we're also in a new home, new city, and new job (self-employed, but it changed a bit), so it's all NEW.  thank goodness kids and baby are the easy consistent part of life!  they need food, playtime, snuggles, stories and baseball, and that is dependable!

post #12 of 65
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Your pp hormones?

crazy but settling.  i've had the biggest drop in libido ever charted.  and i've been charting for 5+ years.  we're down to 2x a week, or once every 3-4 days.  since i'm doing Creighton model, it's only end of day, and we're both so totally and completely and ridiculously wiped by then that it keeps just falling by the wayside.  after almost 12 years of marriage and 5 kids, it's a new thing!  we so appreciate it when we get the time and have the energy to be intimate, but it's really a challenge suddenly.  but night sweats are easing up, i'm only making an extra 16 oz a day, and almost, almost don't feel stinky and slightly crazy all the time.

 

 

Relationship issues?

yes- the lack of time and energy for each other has been very challenging.  we flirt, we really try to be there for each other.  he's on a plane to California from MA right now.  but it's been hard.  baby in bed is great, but does shift things.  charting again after birth leads to some stressors i didn't miss while pregnant.  i love being pregnant b/c i'm already pregnant!  but now we have to decide on next steps.  not today.  so we're trying very hard to adjust- baby number 5 has changed things in a way we couldn't predict.  we're also in a new home, new city, and new job (self-employed, but it changed a bit), so it's all NEW.  thank goodness kids and baby are the easy consistent part of life!  they need food, playtime, snuggles, stories and baseball, and that is dependable!

i'm glad my hubby and i are on the same page with things right now. we just don't get the opportunity to be intimate like we used to, but even then we have always been so busy that 2x a week is the norm. i'm not appreciating the birth control (condoms) right now though. it's just not intimate for us. but it's better than getting pregnant. i would not be good mentally if i got pregnant at this point. i get anxiety just thinking about it. 

also, after loving on a small baby all day then giving him hugs and cuddles at night, it feels weird to be nuzzling someone so big. he' not big, but compared to baby nuzzles it's crazy. 

post #13 of 65
Baby is great! She has her fussy days but is now having many many more sunny days than not. She's happy for the most part, so long as she's being held by momma. But heaven help us if we try to dress/undress her or put lotion on her! She tolerates daily walks just fine now, and maybe even likes them- but otherwise she's not in love with wraps/slings/carriers. Milestones? Smiling/laughing when we do something "funny", crazy head&body control, batting at dangling toys, seeing and yelling for momma from across the room. Still up many many times a night and up for good by 6:30-7:30 am... But definitely never had day/night confusion- goes right down at night and only wakes slightly to eat. Overall, things are just fantastic. Can't believe it's been 10 weeks!

PP hormones are totally fine. The only issues I had immediately PP were the dreaded night sweats. I felt so gross! But that went away a couple of weeks ago.

Intimacy is really tricky. We're both so exhausted, both from the baby and Dh's crazy student doctor schedule. And babygirl is seriously SO attached to me that even in her sleep she senses whether I'm right beside her or not. Natural birth control! haha. We want lots more kids and don't mind them close together, but I want to give each kid at least a year to nurse and be my baby before getting preg again. We've done NFP before, and are getting back into the swing of it using an app called MyFertilityMD, which uses fertility awareness similar to Creighton but customizable to using temp/cervix/ferning/hormones.
post #14 of 65
And Kellybeth, I feel ya on the condoms. They totally lessen intimacy for us too!
post #15 of 65
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Intimacy is really tricky. We're both so exhausted, both from the baby and Dh's crazy student doctor schedule. And babygirl is seriously SO attached to me that even in her sleep she senses whether I'm right beside her or not. Natural birth control! haha. We want lots more kids and don't mind them close together, but I want to give each kid at least a year to nurse and be my baby before getting preg again. We've done NFP before, and are getting back into the swing of it using an app called MyFertilityMD, which uses fertility awareness similar to Creighton but customizable to using temp/cervix/ferning/hormones.

my baby can tell when i put my arm between us or try to turn my back on him!  he's got to have my knees under his legs and my breasts against his face, or else he wakes right up or snarfles around looking for me.  and i'm w/ Kellybeth that after baby snuggles, he's so so so big!  it's strange!  

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my baby can tell when i put my arm between us or try to turn my back on him!  he's got to have my knees under his legs and my breasts against his face, or else he wakes right up or snarfles around looking for me.  and i'm w/ Kellybeth that after baby snuggles, he's so so so big!  it's strange!  

Snarfles! Oh my goodness! I don't have time (or single-finger typing patience) to respond in full, but ohmygosh, that's such a perfect descriptor for that tiny hunting nighttime noseface sound! Especially when they're stuffed up. Olive's been stuffy at night. Can't pin why.

Anyway - snarfles! Teehee! Made my night, HOP.
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Snarfles! Oh my goodness! I don't have time (or single-finger typing patience) to respond in full, but ohmygosh, that's such a perfect descriptor for that tiny hunting nighttime noseface sound! Especially when they're stuffed up. Olive's been stuffy at night. Can't pin why.

Anyway - snarfles! Teehee! Made my night, HOP.

ditto on the snarfle! perfect description.
post #18 of 65
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DD has had pretty good head control for some weeks now, and she is so attentive to her surroundings! I took her to the library today and she was transfixed by the wall posters and a tree just outside the window against a beautiful blue sky. She was highly amused by peekaboo today too.

Relationship-wise has been v rocky the past few weeks and I've been wondering if the problems have seemeed so much more overwhelming to me because of PP hormones (things have been bad enough that even wihout the hormones I would've still been an emotional mess)... In other relationship news, DH and I finally DTD for the 1st time since she was born last week, and once more since then. Uh-mazing! Lol. I don't know for anyone else but my lube level went to ZERO during my 2nd tri & sex was so different from that point on and not in a good way, so it was great to feel like myself again in ma ladyparts! smile.gif

Kellybeth I feel u on dreading the thought of another pregnancy so soon, DH would keel over!

My snugglebunny has a cold greensad.gif My mom recommended putting a tiny but of eucalyptus oil on DD's mattress so she can inhale it, and mixing a tiny amt into coconut oil to rub on her chest..any other recommendations?
post #19 of 65
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my baby can tell when i put my arm between us or try to turn my back on him!  he's got to have my knees under his legs and my breasts against his face, or else he wakes right up or snarfles around looking for me.  and i'm w/ Kellybeth that after baby snuggles, he's so so so big!  it's strange!  

Haha! YES. She snarfles around the instant I wriggle the tiniest bit away. So cute yet so frustrating!

Poor DH. We've only DTD three times and it required A LOT of lube, we had to sneak it in between Miss Snarfles demands, and it was still tender/painful for me. I didn't tear and I'm totally healed at 10 weeks PP, but I feel so tight/uncomfortable still during intercourse. (Sorry, TMI.)
post #20 of 65
I did saline drops in the nose and the nose frida ( thanks to suggestions from some ladies here). Also steamy bathroom and breast milk up the nose were also suggested. The nose frida is great tho it really sucks out the snot!
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