Our wedding was mostly child-free and I don't regret it. The one child was my niece, my flower girl.
I have a very large, extended family. We had well over 100 guests. In order to include just aunts and uncles and close family friends, as well as our own circle of friends, I had already slashed the guest list. I left off some friends whom I really wanted to invite. Even if I could have afforded several more guests at the dinner (and we couldn't), I just didn't need the extra task of figuring out how to keep a bunch of kids entertained during a long ceremony and a long reception. We were planning for a wedding in my hometown but living a couple of hours away. It was a late afternoon wedding and evening dinner/dance reception. There was a lot to organize from a distance.
If I was organizing a wedding today, I think I would probably chose a different kind of event. I'd probably go less formal with an earlier ceremony and a wedding brunch. In that case, it might be a more child-friendly but I would still be looking at a guest list of about 200 or more people, since if I was going to include children I would first have to expand the list to include all of the adults who were left off of the list.
We've attended weddings with children present. It's been fun. There have been meltdowns or over-excited reactions from worn out kiddies, not to mention a few meltdowns and over-excited reactions from worn out parents too. Personally, I'm not fazed by it, I just feel sympathy in that situation.
We've also attended child-free weddings while we left our children in good, caring hands for an afternoon/evening. It's been fine for us.
Ed. for typo. I'm sure there's more that I missed, lol!
Edited by ollyoxenfree - 4/24/13 at 7:48am