I have posted on this board a few times, but mostly I lurk. Now I desperately need some feedback ASAP.
My partner's relationship with his ex-wife is very contentious. He has had to fight tooth and nail for every hour of parenting time he's ever had with their son. The schedule now is close to 50-50, with mom having slightly more time. It took A LOT to get to this point of nearly equal time. Mom is extremely manipulative and will stop at nothing to "win," and we have always said that it's only a matter of time before allegations were made.
Last week at a counseling session, SS said that dad squeezed his leg and left a bruise. That absolutely did not happen. Dad will occasionally squeeze SS's shoulder or leg to get his attention or get him to stop doing something, but has NEVER left a mark, let alone a bruise. However, the counselor was required to contact CPS. We took SS to his pediatrician as soon as we found out, and the doctor concluded that the bruise was new (which means he wasn't even with us when he got the bruise, based on the parenting schedule) and was not consistent with a fingerprint-type bruise. CPS went to mom's house last night, and SS reiterated his story, and then to add insult to injury, told them that dad spanks him as well (absolutely not true).
Where does a 5-year old get the idea to tell a counselor that dad left a bruise on his leg when it's NOT TRUE? Where does a 5-year old get the idea to tell CPS that dad spanks him when it's NOT TRUE? I have my suspicions, of course, but SS is extremely loyal to mom would never admit it if she "helped" him come up with these ideas.
Now CPS is coming to our house tomorrow afternoon, and will be interviewing my SS and my 5-year old daughter. I am freaking out, to say the least. How the hell did I end up in this mess?
We are not perfect parents, but we do our best and are NOT abusive in any way. We've attended Love & Logic classes, we are involved at our kids' school, we sit down and eat meals together, we read books on positive parenting, we do enriching things together as a family, and we have sought counseling our kids when they've needed it (both have been through a lot).
Can anyone offer any advice on what to expect and how to prepare for a visit from CPS?
Thanks in advance...