I am sorry to hear the negative reactions that some of you have gotten from family. So sad.
Since I am the oldest grandchild on both sides of my family, didn't get married until 2010 (when I finally found the right man), waited a year for his immigration to the U.S. to solidified (i.e. he had a green card and a job before TTC), and then finding out he had an ultra-low sperm count, my aunts and uncles have always been hounding us about when we are going to have kids. They don't know about our fertility struggles, although a year ago I had told me my mom "when we are pregnant, you will be the first to know. We need medical intervention to make it happen so it might be awhile." When we called her with my bfp news, she was ecstatic. My sister had just had the first grandchild for the seven of us kids (yep, big families are great!). My sister knew about our IVF cycle since she is the guardian of our frozen embryos if DH and I were to pass away. We called DH's parents next. His parents were happy but not over the top so. My SIL, DH's sister, was never into having kids and it is just the two of them in DH's family. They have warmed up to the idea. We told the rest of my siblings who were all really excited to be aunts/uncles and a few of our closest friends (some over the phone, others in person). For my more extended family who I am fairly close to - aunts, uncles, cousins - and friends - I want to create a card where my DH and I are each holding a Christmas present, then the next picture we open the present and pull out 2 little baby outfits. Then a caption that says, "Guess what Lilac and guru are getting for Christmas? Twins! Due 12-19-13 Want more info - call or text 555-555-5555." We are thinking of sending them out the week before Mother's Day.