Help! My DD, 5, has made several comments about how she thinks I love her brother (3) more than her, that I talk to him more (?), cuddle him and am always "busy" with him. It breaks my heart into pieces when I hear this and I don't know how to repair this damage. I think she truly feels this way--not just saying it invoke a reaction. I admit, once her brother was born, life changed drastically for her as she was so young and he was a difficult baby and although he's a lovely child, he still proves to be quite demanding, has health issues that consume me at times, etc. And he does often think that he deserves my lap, or my undivided attention and rather than "put up a fight", DD just walks away sadly.
Since she first made one of these comments, I have stepped up my efforts to spend time along with just her, but honestly, it's so hard because he no longer naps and that had been our special time together. I often take her on the weekends to coffee, to a park, or something just the two of us, but it's not proving to be enough to make a difference in how she's feeling. DD is also a highly sensitive child and I worry that perhaps I am giving her the vibes that I prefer her brother?! OMG I hope not..it's not true, it's just that he's younger and has always been more demanding.
Does anyone have experience with this issue and can you offer some ideas, suggestions, etc.? I'd appreciate it!