What worked for us in retrospect was that we enrolled DD at a mom/tot program open to children from 12 to 36 months old at a Waldorf school when she was barely 12 months old. She could hardly walk and other children were at least a year older. Although we got a comment here and there about her abilities from other parents, the teacher who was fabulous in every way redirected the conversation to something else. We felt very comfortable there for the whole year. The following year, most of the older children had moved on to the nursery school and her new classmates were her age-mates and we had a new teacher. We got out of there as fast as we could. It was just a bad fit and we found another program that had academic themes (not skills). She doesn't blend in too well with other children at the new program but she adores her teacher so it doesn't seem to matter much. DD always preferred to play with bright boys who are about two years older. She loves participating in elaborate imaginary plays, she loves their toys, and she loves that she gets her way because their mom tell them to be nice to the "little baby girl." This tendency is something we are actively trying to get away from since I don't want DD to be that girl who doesn't get along with other girls.