I realize these behaviors are developmentally appropriate, but what I've tried to do lately hasn't been working too well, and I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for me.
1) the concept of NOW:
Everything for DS (who will be 2.5 in July) is NOW. He demands things all day, and if I say just a minute, or yes, we can do that after this, his response is "No...NOW". He is quite persistant with it too. I don't try to bargain or reason with him, so what I usually do is repeat, consistently, what the parameters are, and when he continues with his NOW and tantrums, I ultimately stop responding to him and eventually he'll sort of give up. Just wondering if there's a better alternative? I have a newborn so of course this could be an adjustment as well, since I'm less able to get to him when he wants to. It's a very annoying behavior, but the next one I'm more concerned about:
2) running away from me/tantruming/refusing/fighting me when an activity is over
When time is up, or we have to leave an area like the playground, I usually give DS a countdown- 5 more minutes, 2 more minutes, 1 more minute. No matter what, 99% of the time he fights me, or runs away, when it's time to go. Yesterday, he ran from me at the park and I was wearing my newborn in the wrap. I tried to make it a game of "chase" in the moment so it would be less of a power-struggle. But, when I caught up to him and picked him up, he kicked and screamed and fought me for a few seconds and ended up headbutting the baby (shes OK). Clearly I don't want that repeated.
Currently, he's been in the bathtub for 1.5 hours because he refuses to get out. I've given up. Talking him out of the tub isn't working and I refuse to try to physically lift him out because I'm wearing the baby and don't need any more potential head injuries in my future. I've just been running hot water every half hour or so so he doesn't freeze, and I'm trying to enjoy a little peace.