~Weekly Chat Thread for April 26-May 3~ - Page 5
Ah, thank you! I learn something here every day.
QOTD: I'm still loving my stretchy Old Navy maxi skirt. I wore a black flow-y dress for the first time the other day that someone gave me, I have a feeling once it stays warm for good, that thing will be in constant rotation as well.
100 days to go for me and Bees second birthday. Good day since my parents are visiting. My mother asked where all the cleaning stuff was and cleaned my bathrooms and dried and stuffed diapers then chased the kids around the garden while I sewed a birthday dress for her.
BH are really getting to me and stairs kill me. I keep needing to lie down.
I was really introverted when pregnant with DS, especially 3rd trimester. I was also working a lot and when I got off I just wanted to be with my DP. This time though, we are relatively new to the area and I still don't know that many people, and I am at home with DS. So, I am feeling more isolated than introverted... But now that the weather has been pretty nice we have been out and at parks and we are meeting some cool people! However, I still don't have the impetus to make plans with anyone, I just take it as it comes!
Lol. My midwife only writes down "medical" stuff. The rest is chatting. I'd think it was weird too.
This has always happened to me after sex while pregnant and I was told long ago that it was due to normal increased blood flow to that area during sex. Your blood volume increases quite a bit in pregnancy, so makes sense.
It's fine as long as don't do anything upright after DTD, but it makes me a little uncomfortable after sex in the morning or during the day
Sometimes sitting in a hard chair helps.
Thanks, ladies. You all are funny. I guess I just see some things as sort if chit chat and then to see it in my chart as though it's a medical issue or something is weird. And she doesn't write that much to begin with. I mean, damn, this is a hyperemesis pregnancy. It's not like she doesn't have plenty else to write about!
Anyway, got a late start on dinner tonight, so I'm about to finish that up. Starting to feel slow in general. Hey-- something else I'm starting to feel that I don't remember from previous pregnancies is a strong desire now not to deal with anybody but my nuclear family. I think if I could get by without leaving the house til August, I would. I have friends who sort of dropped off during my rough first tri and I haven't heard from them. And I'm totally okay with that. I just don't feel like dealing with people. I'm doing this sort of retreating inward that feels right right now. Anyone else experience this?
Re:midwife, I had a similar experience in my first pregnancy where I had this horrible rash called PUPP and also kidney stones and my MW made some comment advising me against induction and not to beg her for one, which I had never mentioned and I was like: that's what you got out of that? I changed to an OB the last day of my 42 week pregnancy. She was always being mean like that and I couldn't take it anymore.
Ok, this is totally in the TMI category but is anyone else experiencing an uncomfortable vulva area??? It's not painful...more like heavy or slightly bruised feeling....I think I remember this feeling close to DD's birth but definitely not this soon!
My cankles are starting to show up too.
The fun part of pregnancy is starting lol
I am having this too and it seems like it started earlyish- like maybe up to 6 or 8 weeks ago? It's not all the time, but it really hurts and is so tender. I wish I had a team walking in front of me holding the baby up and off that area. Ha!
QOTD: I am kind of hating most of my maternity stuff. I really just want to wear some non-ugly shorts or regular jeans or a button up shirt, but I just keep wearing the same stuff that I am SO over. That said, my Old Navy stuff tips my list, too. I have a blue t-shirt dress with white stripes that is so comfy and I can wear more if it EVER stays warm here (weird thing to say in TX in May). And a 3/4 sleeves Old Navy Henley that's blue and green stripes. They fit without being- what was the word of the day schlump-a-lumph? Yeah that!
I had a minor little setback today/last night. My part-time assistant who is a work-a-holic left me am abrupt and bizarre voicemail last night at 7pm saying the job wasn't working out for her and she'd give her written notice on Monday. I was really surprised by the tone, the timing (I hadn't even seen her since Thurs b/c she doesn't work Fri and she kept asking to work late!), and the unprofessional ism of a resignation voicemail. So I took it as a personal indictment of my management style and worried all night with it, agonized more this morning, called her, then SOBBED for two hours over it. Honestly, she wasn't even a very good assistant and I probably needed to fire her, but I took it SO personally and cried to my husband that probably everybody hates me, etc. I feel a lot better after the breakdown, but my husband is worried this goes way beyond the actual situation because of how emotional. Do y'all think this level 5 meltdown was just hormones and stress or are y'all all secretly reading going "OMG, get to counseling immediately!" I am in favor of counseling and all, but was this just a pregnant lady's deal? Thanks for reading if you got this far!
Crafty- Sounds like (my) regular-old-pregnancy-hormones to me. I can be going through my day fine, not even crying at sentimental things I see or hear, then suddenly, out of nowhere... tears streaming down my face, maybe some choking sobs, sniffles and snorts. Most of the time I can't tell where it came from, although I can often feel my emotions building before I cry. Then after a minute or two I feel SO much better. Weird. Sorry about losing your assistant though! I hope all goes well.
Crafty, your reaction sounds a lot like what comes over me with my 2 year old's tantrums. I take it personally, can't detach and just can't shake the inadequacy. I don't think it's much beyond pregnancy hormones but if you start noticing it affecting the quality of your life, it can't hurt to consider counseling. I actually referred myself for counseling because there are a lot of stressors in my life right now and there are days when I simply can't cope. I think the best approach is to be aware of your vulnerability and keep track of whether you're starting to shut down and not enjoy the things that usually give you joy. I think every pregnant mama has moments of being tearful or anxious but not all go on to need outside intervention to function. I can definitely relate.
sounds like pregnancy hormones to me, but skycheattraffic had good advice.
Crafty, I agree it's hormones. I broke down over nothing last weekend and what happened seems like something anyone would get upset over anyway pregnant or not. But yeah, hormones are exaggerating ALL of my emotions.
AS far as maternity clothes, I wear a lot of "hippy" clothes with elastic and drawstring waistbands but it is mostly dresses and skirts for me too. Strangely for the south it is still cool here and has yet to stay above 70 for more than a few days. I am ready for warmer weather too so I can expand my wardrobe a little!