I am just soooooo emotional!
I think being presented a baby boy would be easier than finding out at 20 weeks...but I worry about wishing the baby be a girl the whole time. We'll see what happens! End of July is still a ways away.
I really know how you feel, owl. I felt a lot of wishing for a girl and anxiety with my 4th pregnancy (had 2 boys and a girl then). After a long hard labor and serious pushing effort, out came a 10 pound 12 ounce boy! He is such a bear of a boy- big, loud, always eating! I was disappointed, confused and bewildered as I was sure it would be a girl (yes, I know, totally irrational). When we had the ultrasound with my 5th one and it was a boy, I did cry in the car after and was disappointed, but it soon turned around and by the time he was born I was so excited to meet my new son! We're going to find out again this time, as that really worked for me to have time to get used to the idea before I met him.
I'm finding out as soon as I can. I REALLY hope the u/s place I went to last will honor the freebie I did a video testimonial to earn. I've emailed them but haven't heard back so I'm planning on calling Monday. It will only be a 3ish week difference between the earliest I could find out and the anatomy scan, but I NEED to know.
With my first we wanted to find out, but she wasn't into that plan. Decided it wasn't worth additional ultrasound exposure just for my curiousity. The second time around we went back and forth and again decided to find out, successfully this time. This time I think we are definitely going to try to find out again, the surprise was nice, but my daughter is *convinced* she is getting a baby sister, and I want to give her some time to adjust if that is not the case. And I *really* don't want to pick out two sets of names. One is hard enough!
We found out with DS. I was on the fence about knowing in advance but DH had the opinion that if anyone else was going to know (such as the ultrasound tech) then he wanted to know, too. We will find out again this time around, too. The funny thing is that as we announced the news to everyone over the past week, the very first question everyone had is, "When do you find out the sex?"
Being a natural contrarian, their reaction made me want to not find out!
I know, earthwalker! I'm the same. And every time someone says, "Oh, I hope it's a girl!" in front of my boys especially, it makes me not care about the sex even more. I think having another girl would be fun, and having a boy would be fun too. I think I don't care this time. The only reason I really want to have the 20 week ultrasound is to see the baby's developing normally, and for the kids to get to see it- they've never seen an ultrasound and it's pretty cool, I have to say. And, like your husband, if we're going to be looking then I'm going to find out the sex while we're looking.
I totally hear you owl, its hard not to want one of each at least, and I think its pretty normal. You'll love the baby the same either way, but its just like when I wanted my baby to have my blue eyes, its nice to get something significant in common with the baby.
That said, I want to find out with my next (whenever that is), and not tell anyone we had the ultrasound. It'll be our secret, dh and me. :) My sister had her first ultrasound this time but she didn't find out. I didn't the last two, but my second was more of a echnical not finding out because I learned so darn much researching for my vbac that I knew what she was just a few minutes into the scan. :) So I might as well officially ask next time, just to confirm my guess.
I like that idea. I don't like the friend who just found out and won't tell! If your going to keep it a secret I think you should keep the fact that you know a secret too. lol.
i have been prego before but i never found out the gender, they were either to early or you just couldnt tell, and sense i havent had the chance. my SO and i are gonna find out the soonest we can. :D and that happens to be at the end of the month! i am very excited, its going to be me him and the godmother.