thanks kitteh! I use myfitnesspal!! I love it!
pregnancy weight gain - Page 2
That sounds legit to me. I guess I'm just so used to women saying that they don't want to gain weight because it makes them "feel gross" or because they "want their body back" soon after pregnancy. It's understandable that you would feel concerned about weight gain during pregnancy if your genetics pre-dispose you health risks related to weight gain.... stretch marks and flappy skin included. I know those aren't health issues but if you feel that you have a greater chance of getting them then I can see why you want to limit your chances.
I suppose the point that I am trying to make is that it is important to stay in communication with your midwife. Talk to her about your concerns and goals and maybe you two can come up with a game plan together. Try to relax and stay calm and just do the best you can. I've seen too many women get stuck with a number in their head and become attached to a point where they are unhappy with themselves even though they are healthy. Well, attachment in general leads to unhappiness :) My unsolicited advice is that it is wonderful to have goals; however, do not let those goals impede on your own happiness and appreciation of the changes going on in your body and life.
Good luck dear, I wish you the best :)
I'm not even weighing myself.
I am also genetically predisposed to all sorts of weight related health problems. I'm also a recovering bulimic former ballet dancer who has maintained through my whole life that I would kill myself if my weight ever hit a certain number. I was at the high end of my 'acceptable' range when I got pregnant, and now (12w5d) I'm probably at my 'drop dead' number. Even if I'm not now, I will be before this whole thing is over. So I decided to do three things: 1) I am owning the fact that I have no choice but to gain 15lbs; 2) I am reminding myself constantly that it's not my gut making my pants tighter, but a whole other person growing there (will be easier the farther along I get, I think); and 3) I am not tracking my weight.
By not knowing what weight I'm gaining, I can concentrate on the nutrition I'm getting and not on the pounds it is or is not putting on my body. I am concentrating on giving baby what he/she needs and trying not to think about weight related 'side effects'. On days when I'm not nauseous, I track what I'm eating on an app on my smartphone, but on days when I am nauseous I just eat what I can stand. If I start to see non-bump-area weight gain (haven't much other than some water weight that showed up at 5wks and has stuck around), I'll chalk that up to the 15lbs I have no choice but to gain, and all of the bump-area expansion I can attribute to the other person in there. It's all a mind game, but it's working for me. My midwife understands and is totally fine with it unless something goes sideways down the line.
I've also become a bio-oil addict 😜. It may or may not actually help to keep stretch marks at bay, but it makes me feel like I'm doing something instead of just waiting for the inevitable.
All this to let you know that you're not alone in your concerns. Take care of yourself ❤
Now is the time for you to trust your body to know how much weight it needs to gain. Obviously you've got the healthy lifestyle thing under control. That's all you can do. If you end up gaining 30lb then there's nothing wrong with that. The placenta plus all that extra blood and fluid AND baby weighs a lot! Don't set a goal for yourself that you don't have control over.
Eating when your hungry until comfortable is important because like the posters before me said, it will affect the size of your baby and your milk supply afterwards. I'm not saying this to scare you but perhaps to shift focus from this short-term weight-gain to the long term: low-birth weight is correlated with health-problems in adulthood. Plus, if you're not getting enough nutrients, your body will leach them from you and give them to the baby (a reason a lot of pregnant and breast-feeding women get dental and bone problems)
Do you have a source on this? I find this interesting but before I quote it to someone else I should probably understand where it comes from. Thanks for sharing!
inconditus- I'm concerned about gaining weight because my mother gained 50 pounds with me (but that was working at a desk job and not exercising) and then 40 with my brother and sister ... and because she gained so much weight and let her body "go"... My dad died from being overweight, of a heart attack at age 39, so I have always been very concerned with being healthy, having low bodyfat and exercising because I know with my genetics I do have to work a little bit harder to stay the weight that I feel the best at.
I thank you for starting this thread and I give you a lot of credit for being so open and honest here. My perspective would be that it sounds like you have some deep family roots that make this topic important to you, and I would caution you not to let the pendulum swing too far in the opposite direction. No, you don't want to turn out like your mom or dad in this, but you sound like you have a very healthy lifestyle, probably motivated in part by your experiences, and an extra five pounds is not fifty, nor a death sentence.
AFM, I don't weigh myself. I focus on how my body feels and moves, and making healthy choices about what I put into my mouth. It is important to me to set an example for my children that we are not bodies, we are people. Health is important, but numbers do not accurately reflect health nor determine our worth. There are so many studies coming out these days about how our country's "fight" against obesity is misguided, and that the real enemy is a sedentary lifestyle. "Overweight" people who are physically active are just as healthy, if not more healthy often, than the underweight or nearly underweight.
Pre-pregnancy I was a size 12, 5'7" with wide hips/butt, larger boobs, and a narrow waist. The doc is tracking my weight at my appointments and I think at 10 weeks they said I was around 185, dipped down a couple lbs during my nauseous days, and probably back to even or up a little by now. Everything is moving around and changing and I'm just trying to do my best to accept the changes as part of the journey. My waist is fuller since my organs got pushed out of the way by my uterus. It can be a little weird sometimes not looking like "me" in clothes but I'm getting used to it. My goal is to gain whatever my body says is right. Women have been healthfully pushing out babies since long before scales, so if they can do it, so can I.
ETA - And just a thought on weighing yourself daily - scales can be valid when observing trends over time, but please don't read into the daily changes. Unless you are weighing yourself naked at the same time every day, with bowel movements at the same time every day, and consuming the same quantities of food and liquids every day, then daily comparisons are pretty pointless.