I wish I could convince DH to get another dog. He's concerned with home safety but doesn't want another pet. I'm partial to Malinois but I understand they're highly intelligent and high energy so they really need to be kept busy.
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My dogs have as many toys as my kid does. And they keep each other busy. They really only need me to open doors and feed them.
OMG the fur baby pictures are so darn cute! My dear old cat died almost a year ago and I've not been able to get my head around getting another pet. We have a little gray stripey who turned out to be so good with DD. She's never swatted at her! I'd love to get a dog if I could just get out of this darn apartment and get into a real house!
Tillymonster, if you have more shirts than you know what to do with you can always try the cloth diaper pattern too. http://www.adventuresinfluff.com/2011/08/how-to-sew-your-own-recycled-t-shirt.html
I've always wanted to do this! I have no washer/dryer, it's coin-op on site in the little complex I live in. So yeah, I'm thinking cloth diapering is going to be out. I didn't start CDing with DD until she was about 3 months so I told DH that's our final deadline to move if we can't before this bebe is born. It's so hard to CD a newborn IMHO. What do you think? Have you ever done it without your own washer/dryer? I'd love to hear about how I could!
I spent my first 15 years in Kansas City and I still have more family than I can count there.
We ventured into the baby section at Wal-Mart yesterday, DH has a diaper party for a co-worker and had to buy a box. He was surprised at how much they cost and how many are in a box. I mentioned that it would be likely that the baby needs a diaper change 8-12 times a day and he couldn't believe it. I said that's why I want to give cloth diapering a try, so we're not throwing away 10 of these a day. Hopefully it got that little CD seed lodged a little firmer in his mind. The birthcenter is having a workshop on it in a couple of weeks but I don't want to cancel my clients to attend though I doubt he'll go by himself...
I've got an easy day today and I plan to fully take advantage of it. I may even work up the courage to go to the Comcast office!
I've made the annoying discovery that kefir now does the opposite of what it originally did for morning sickness! Now if I have any, I feel a bit nauseous for a while the next day which is rather annoying! But I am still keeping up the healthy eating, which I'm really pleased about. My diet is currently 100% primal and sugar free. I've also got really into exercising for the first time ever! Although today is a much needed rest day since I've been walking over two miles a day for the past week.
I finally got some real gardening in!
I discovered that a local community garden has openings for garden plots which is UNHEARD of in this city where waitlists can be years long. In order to get a plot you have to do four hours of volunteer work in the common areas before they'll assign you a plot and I got started on that last night. I missed it so much and an hour of weeding was a bit strenuous on my hips but was actually soothing. I'm going back again this weekend to hopefully get some hours in because I really want to get my plot started.
Anyone else got a garden going?
Katalopolis; that sounds great! I've been doing gardeing, well more clearing a recently felled wooded area next to our garden. All the branches from the felled trees are covering the ground so I've been clearing a large patch of ground. We've been given permission to extend our garden into that area of land. I've been really enjoying doing it. I also have a lot of gardening to get done, but so far haven't done any and am way behind.
Speaking of gardening, I really need to vent:
I got a warning letter from the city about the accumulation of litter in my yard. They're referring to the dead branches and shrubs that are lying about in the backyard because we are cleaning up the yard! And apparently someone called to complain (not sure if it was my yard only or if they just go down the whole street when someone calls). Who the f*ck complains about seeing dead branches in other people's backyards? And my tax dollars are paying this person's salary! AAAAARRRRGGGGHHH!
Well, tonight was our big announce to my fiance's friends at one of his good friend's (since childhood) birthday party. We had to ride two hours to get there, and I got contractions (I refuse to say Braxton Hicks because that implies they are not doing something and my contractions actually do effect my cervix after 20 weeks, in previous pregnancies, and I'm high risk for preterm labor) all the way there and could not find a way to get myself comfortable in the passenger seat of the car in order to somehow convince my uterus to relax. It wasn't nice.
I finally got there and tried really hard to get into the party mode, but when I first walked in, I noticed the hostess right away didn't look at me. She greeted only my fiance, and didn't look at me, much less notice my pregnant belly. Um, we've met several times? I've been to her wedding last year. (Actually I've met several times all the guests at this part, which is relevant for the next part of the story) For the next 3-4 hours I settled into invisible mode while everyone else enjoyed their preference of not speaking English (FWIW everyone speaks fluent English, it's just of course not their preference). I didn't mind that much, I'm pretty used to it so I just focused on trying to get comfortable on the couch to get the contractions to stop. Eventually I felt so bored out of my mind being totally excluded and feeling tense in the tummy, that I asked to go lay down on my side in a bedroom and that helped stop the contractions and it was bliss to rest all my muscles totally lax.
After about 45 minutes I got up and felt like making a second go of the party group. I sat next to my fiance and the hostess came over and in a slight whisper asked him, never looking at me and acknowledging my presence, if we were expecting and many more questions and gave her congratulations. She never looked at me or said congratulations to me in any language. I was just the invisible person sitting not more than one inch away from him, to whom she was kneeling down and speaking very closely to but managing to avoid moving her gaze even slightly to the right or she would have been staring me smack in the face. Another 4 hours of being ignored commenced but I was happy to see that DF was enjoying himself so much so I tried to shrug it off and think happy thoughts.
Later, as the designated driver, I got asked by my fiance if I wouldn't mind running others home before we drive 2 hours home (1am at this point) and I said no, why not (I was happy he had had a good 8 hour party with his friends and didn't mind helping out his friends). We start leaving the party and immediately I'm getting contractions from walking a few blocks and going down stairs. Everyone in the group that I'm supposed to drive home walks ahead and ignores me, chattering away (not in English), and leaving me several yards behind them as I'm not able to keep up. Including my fiance. I'm feeling really left out and slighted and try to make a joke and say, "Hey, guys, you might think you're getting there sooner but I have the car key so you can't actually leave without me!" and they look back and laugh and then immediately go back to their previous behavior. I'm left lagging behind at my pace and they speed walk towards the car and leave me out of the conversation. I felt so slighted and invisible!
In the car I try to take control of the situation and pipe up and insert myself in the middle of the conversation by suggesting to my fiance that we might want to tell the people in the car about our wedding, that we had that day picked a date (we hadn't announced that at the party because not everyone there would be invited, but the present company at the time in the car WAS all on the guest list so it was safe to mention it), and I thought surely now we could all have a conversation in English that I was included in, about my wedding. Sure enough, I was immediately dropped out of that conversation and it went on without me while I picked up most of what was saying, but they were talking so fast I couldn't jump in for how much of a struggle it was to understand. I was almost in tears at this point. (Keep in mind it had been ten hours since we set out from home and the contractions started and I've been more or less uncomfortable and ignored that entire time so things were just piling up and starting to blow out of proportion in terms of how they were affecting me).
So sorry to hijack this chat, I really needed to vent about today, how uncomfortable my uterus is making even small road trips and 12 hour round-trip outings, and how much I'm not enjoying being a foreigner at the moment and being left quite out of the loop when it comes to the announcing and the congratulations regarding the pregnancy happening in my body and my own wedding that I'm planning.
Ok, I feel better that I got this off my chest, thanks for reading!