My 4 year old cries about EVERYTHING! His feelings are hurt so easily and he takes everything so personally. If another kid looks at him cross eyed, or someone pronounces his name wrong, or I flushed the toilet when he wanted to, or a different song came on the radio when it wasn't "supposed to" (according to him anyway) he is sobbing and whining and just can't get over it. He will talk about it the rest of the day and the first thing when he wakes up the next morning.
He has no trouble figuring out what is wrong, or using words to explain why he is upset. He just acts like everything is life or death. All I can find on the internet is advice about time outs, or walking away from this behavior, or the like. I want to TEACH him how to calm himself down. Walking away leaves him to figure it out for himself(and is not working), and dismisses the feelings he is having. I want to give him coping techniques and thinking strategies that will help him work through his emotion and lessen the intensity he is feeling. I'm afraid if I tell him to just "Stop it" that he will just be bottling it up to explode later, or internalizing it causing low self esteem.
Anything worked for you- techniques, strategies, role play? Any book recommendations? Will he just grow out of this?