So as the title reads, 2 of my 4 children do not get along. When I say do not get along, I don't mean that they bicker every now and then - I mean that one child really does not want *ANYTHING* to do with the other child.
Miss 8 and Miss 6 have always gotten along. They were BFF/together with no one else for 2 years before Miss 4 came along. Miss 4 was like a third wheel when we bought her home.
Miss 6 was not ill towards Miss 4 at all when she was a baby. In fact, I used to comment on how I had never had to deal with sibling rivalry when a baby came along. Fast foward to the last 2 years or so.. Miss 6 can't stand Miss 4. In fact, she has a very nasty tone with her (only), ignores her and gets jealous/angry when Miss 8 makes an effort to include Miss 4 in their games. Miss 8 and Miss 4 have no issues.. They are not "BFF", but Miss 8 is well aware of the gap and is making a huge effort to include her baby sister in everything.
Miss 4 is a trying young lady. She doesn't listen - period. She has given her sisters a fair amount of greif. She is one of those kids who will do things JUST TO GET ON YOUR NERVE and smile while she is doing what she knows she should not be doing. I never knew such a child could exist.. I thought it was due to poor parenting, but let me tell you, it's all personality. I've done the same thing with all 3 and she is the only one who consistently challenges everyone. I think she lashes out in part, because she has always felt left out of the clique that is Miss 8 and Miss 6. She also has a baby brother Mr 1 who is too young to appreciate her antics. She often ends up being too rough with him and her sisters lash out at her for hurting their "baby boy". She is a sassy and bright girl, wise beyond her years from an social standpoint and knows how to push everyone's button. Miss 6 on the other hand is shy, quiet, very stubborn/quick to anger and very emotional. She doesn't appreciate Miss 4's attitude.
Now, it has come to be that Miss 6 doesn't even want to answer Miss 4 when she asks her questions. It took me 10 minutes of pleading with her today, to get her to answer her sister's question. If they're only 6 and 4 and acting like that now, what is going to happen when they are older? I don't want them to drift apart and have a toxic relationship.
What do I do? What can I do? All help is appreciated. Please help me understand what is going on with Miss 6 and Miss 4. I find myself getting very angry at Miss 6 for her nastiness towards her sister and I'm close to ripping my hair out at Miss 4's constant challenges. Oy, she gives me a headache. They both do actually.. I was secretly thrilled today when both Miss 4 and Miss 6 had a nap and it was just me, Miss 8 and Mr 1 together for an hour. I don't want to feel relieved at the thought of not having to deal with two of my kids - That's awful! :(
I don't know if this helps, but they are all homeschooled and share a room.