Weekly Chat ~ Apr 29 - May 5
I'm super behind on this thread! Just jumping on to say I am getting induced on Tuesday. I feel fine about getting induced although I really wanted to see what going into labor on my own was like. I don't really need to be induced but it is kind of a compromise with my doctors since they have been pushing for a c-section in a hospital with a level 3 nursery an hour away "just in case" but without any hard evidence or any statistics or anything and that just doesn't work for us. We talked about that with a scheduled induction only 3 days before my due date that they could at least plan on having their "a team", as they called it, already at the clinic/hospital that day "just in case" we would need them (since it would be during normal business hours). They are being extremely flexible and gracious to us and really giving us a lot more options and choices than I think they would normally give a patient so I figured at least we/I could compromise, and it made sense anyway.
Overall, being so close to the end (4 more days!!) I have mixed emotions. I want to get a bunch of outdoor projects done, but I also want to just bum around and take it easy, part of me wants to have MIL watch DD Monday so that I can rest, but then I feel like I am abandoning her on the last day she will be an only child. Ugh! Dang hormones. Then I also feel like I want DH and DD to just go about their normal days during my induction and I will let them know when I am close, but then I think I want them with me through the whole time in case it is a fast labor, but it is obviously probably not ideal to have a 2 year old with you during labor. I guess I just can't quite picture how the whole day will go. When I got induced with DD all they had to do to start active labor was put in the first dose of cytotec. No pitocin or anything. That labor was about 12 hours total. I am way more effaced and dilated this time than I was then so I am expecting/concerned that it might be a lot faster. I think I def need this weekend to sort through all these emotions and thoughts. Maybe I just need to sleep and stop worrying about it all and just play it by ear. Either way, I am for sure excited that baby girl will be here so soon!
Bailey, Good to hear from you. I'm glad they are at least working with you some on the induction. Here's hoping your body gets going on it's own before then!
Sure is getting quiet around here. I think we're all doing that internalizing that tends to happen toward the end and just trying to get ready.
My shower is this afternoon which should be nice. My MIL is doing it and it should be low-key which is great. Just snacks and hanging out, a little craft but no games (thankfully). Then she offered to watch the girls so DH and I can go on a date! Probably our last one for a while.
I pre-registered at the hospital yesterday and made all of my appts for the remainder of the pregnancy. Just 2.5 weeks or (hopefully) less! Woot!
Bailey - good to hear from you, I'd been wondering about you! Sounds like you have the best possible scenario planned, I hope it goes great! Baby girl is coming!
Becky - hope your shower was awesome and the date too! I agree its been quiet, we've all got a lot to do, I guess. I am afraid I will be hanging out here for a while...I feel almost prepped, so will have little to do if baby takes a bit more time. 3 weeks to go to EDD here.
Katie - I hope things are going great with the babes and nursing is tuning up for them.
I did a whole bunch of preparing this weekend, shopping for last items, finally got my nursing bras, washing all the baby clothes and dipes, organizing every last thing in baby's room...getting closer! My hips still make sleep a bit sucky, but I am getting some, and I realize that if I don't move around a lot during the day, its harder to do things, so I'm trying my best to work out and walk and not sit on my bum, which often sounds just lovely. I am looking forward to not being pg anymore, and meeting baby. Soon enough, I suppose.
I'm not going to attempt to catch up on previous posts because it's totally overwhelming my mind- but I will from here on out :)
I'm 35 weeks now. Shower has come and gone, and in less than two weeks, baby is fine to be born anytime.
It's amazing me that I'm almost 'done' with this pregnancy. I'm wondering if I didn't savor it enough, and I'm wishing DP and I had used our time to become closer- we're going through a rough patch right now, mostly (I think) because I am such a bitch. I can't seem to soften, and I'm just full of nags. So I'm going to try to take these next couple weeks and make a serious effort to 'bring' us closer- because I want baby/new family to be born into the best possible emotional climate.
I'm feeling pretty good overall. They're doing the Group B Strep culture next Tuesday, which hopefully will be negative so I don't have to make any tough decisions :) I'm feeling strongly about preserving baby's natural health, so I'd really want to stay away from antibiotics ...
I'm going to try to have DD go with someone fun this Saturday so DP and I can spend some time together. Also need to get some baby-related shopping done, and plan some fun activities for DD. So happy we found a PP doula who is basically volunteering her time for free ...
OtherMother- I totally relate to where you're at with DH. My hormones and emotions have been going crazy lately, and I haven't treated DH as well as I should have. :hugs to you and I hope that your Saturday plans go well!
AFM- Friday I started having cramps every time I got up and moved, they continued through the weekend and again today. I still don't know what a BH or a contraction feels like, but I'm guessing it's not them. If I'm sitting down I'm fine, but if I have to get up and walk anywhere the cramping starts. Not too painful, but enough that I notice. Anyone else experiencing this?
Hi everyone! Thanks TJ for starting the new thread. I'm sure Katie has her hands (literally) full. :)
Can you believe we're getting tiny new May babies every few days now? I swear it seems like we were all just posting about morning sickness and feeling the first tiny movements. But we've been pregnant for most of a year! Ahh!
I really enjoy hearing about everyone's little signs of impending labor. I had like 2 seconds of menstrual-crampy feelings and was all OOOH but I think I just had to go to the bathroom. I'm just now full term, so banking on, frankly, another month of pregnancy.
Today I got 2 diaper covers in the mail, had the birth pool delivered, and also our new mattress, which is huge! I felt ok spending more on the mattress since we're not doing a nursery, so didn't spend on a crib, decor, etc. The mattress is going to sit in the guest room with the window open and offgas for the next week or so ... although I think they're at least a little stricter with textile/foam toxins in Europe. Still. I also finally got the changing station set up in the bathroom and it is *melting* me every time I go in there.
OtherMother and TJ - ditto here with these micro-mood swings that often end up aimed at DH. Fortunately I have gotten better at saying sorry right away and he's being understanding and not making a huge deal of it.
I was lurking in April earlier and admiring all their babies. They have a gratuitous cute baby photo thread - I think I'm going to go start us one even though I don't have any pics for it myself yet!
BaileyB-hope everything with the induction goes well! You will soon meet your little one, how exciting!
Othermother-I think we are due around the same time, I'm 36 weeks on Wednesday! Seems crazy to me how fast this has gone and how close I am to the end! I've really had to try hard to keep the relationship with my hubby at a good place. Pregnant hormones take over sometimes! Hope your date goes well!!
TwilightJoy-I notice that when I'm more active, so are the BH's. I also notice that if I have a full bladder it makes the BH more frequent as well. As far as knowing if its the real thing or not.. I wasn't very good at determining that I was In labor with my first, I had bloody show and went to the hospital not even thinking about labor, when I was hooked up to the NST machine I was having contractions every 5 minutes and had no idea. I couldn't even feel them at first. I think I'll recognize them this time around, because I know what they are like now. Hopefully you will know!
Mariewalter-I saw that you created that new baby pictures thread, great idea! Pictures all in one place! Glad that you are getting lots of stuff done before baby comes! I also got my water birth kit from my midwives today. Exciting!
As for me- I had an appointment today, they are every week now. Now that I'm almost 36 weeks I can have my water birth at the hospital in town here with the midwives I've been seeing. Something that is worrying me a bit though, is that I'm only measuring 32cm. Not sure whether I should be worried about it. The MW's keep saying baby is low, except for a student who measured me last week at 35cm. She said "generally 2nd babies don't drop" but now I know her measurement was probably wrong. So I'm just hoping baby is low, and that's accounting for the 4cm discrepancy. They said they would watch it and if I'm still off by a lot they will consider a growth ultrasound. We will see what happens. Really trying not to worry! Now I have to wait another week. Baby is moving great though! And me and my husband are small people, so I know I wouldn't have a big baby. But I measured right on with my son the whole pregnancy. Just a little worried but praying everything is normal!
Anyways, just have a few more things to do before baby comes. Which I'm hoping is early around 38 weeks like my son! I have to go through all the girl clothes that I was given from my Sister in law. Can't wait to go through them. Just waiting for my hubby to get some help moving up a dresser from downstairs. Hopefully that will happen soon.
We are also dealing with our well behaving son being well.. Not so well behaved. I think he senses the baby coming and is really starting to not listen and talk back a lot. He's 3 and a half. I hope this is just a phase, I know I won't be able to handle it without flying off the handle, with taking care of a new baby at the same time.
TJ, Thanks for starting a new thread! I was thinking I should but hadn't had time this morning. Sounds like your body is gearing up for labor! Practicing of sorts.
Sheryl, Glad things are shaping up for you-It's nice to feel ready. I am so ready to not be pregnant any more too. I had a little breakdown the other day, just feeling done. I keep having pain in my hips that keeps me from getting things done too. Ready to be done with that part for sure!
OM, I feel like I am not very fun for DH to be around either. Poor guys and all they put up with. They don't get enough credit sometimes.
Marie, It fun to hear what everyone's body is doing. Congrats on your new mattress-it always seems like sort of a big deal and soooo nice to have a good new one.
Mama4L, I hope everything checks out ok for your measurements and you can avoid stressing too much. It sounds like everything else is checking out fine so I wouldn't be too worried. It seems like second babies would drop sooner.
The shower was nice on Saturday. We are pretty much set. I need to get a few more cloth diapers but we will use some disposables at first so i am not feeling rushed. I went and exchanged some things we didn't need for some things we did this morning so I am feeling pretty well set. I finally made myself buy the stinking granny panties. oy. Hate those things but they are a necessary evil. I got the carseat installed on Sunday. I'm feeling very ready to be done and keep making up labor signs. Silly me. I am feeling a lot of pressure today that somehow feels different but I am not sure if I am just imagining. (grossness alert) DH had some yucky stuff from his nose (allergies) that he spit in the toilet and I went to the bathroom then thought it was maybe some mucus plug and got sort of excited. It was not. The weather is prefect this week so I am hoping to get some walks in.
I am hoping to get stocked up on groceries and do a big Costco run this week and then sort of hunker down and hide until baby comes as much as I can. I think I am done going to church until baby comes too. ( I sort of feel bad since DH is one of the pastors but he thinks it's fine.) I love our church and no one is being rude, I just don't want to talk about how many weeks anymore and I don't want to be touched. I hardly had anyone touch my belly for my first two pregnancies and this time everybody is very hands on for some reason. I'm not hugely offended by it but I just don't love it.
OM, obviously my h and I are having our issues too, and I'm wondering how much it is all exacerbated by my insane hormones. Can't help anything.
M4L, I had heard that second or subsequent babies don't drop either? And yet this baby is sooo much lower than my first was at this point? There has been a noticeable drop. So I kinda think its bs.
Co, I am so done with public appearances as well! I'm at that point of constantly being asked if I'm still there! It's like um yes! Obviously!
AFM, surprisingly, things are going pretty well. H (feels too weird to have the d on there at his point) has been gone almost a week to rehab. They haven't decided what his course and length of treatment will be yet. I miss him some and I'm lonesome a bit, but things had become so awful and strained that it is honestly relieving to have just me, dd, and the dog in the house. Sad but true. I have no idea if we will be able to work things out, but he needs to focus first on his sobriety before we can even get there.
39 + 1 today. Lots of strong bh, some full contrax, but nothing regular or very painful. No blood or mucus. Lots and lots of low backache and pressure. So we are still hanging in there. My bp has still been up, but my midwives are sticking it out with me. At this point if I get referred to the hospital I might just wait it out and go in when I go into labor, you know? (Of course provided no other troublesome signs of pre-e.)
It's odd because dd arrived at 39 + 2, but it was because I fell and broke my water and then had to receive pitocin, not because I went into labor myself. So no idea how long she would have gone without that! I don't know what to expect for this one. And I fear I have no idea what early labor is like since I skipped that part too last time.
Installed the carseat today, dd started at her new center and loved it and even took a nap! (Wish she would do that at home!). I'm still working a bit but everyone is super understanding about my current situation and keeps telling me to stay home. Honestly it feels good to get out and think about other stuff a bit.
TJ - I am getting BH's all the time, sounds like that's what you are having. I get them every time I wake in the middle of the night to pee, its so hard to get up and walk thru them.
Bailey - thinking of you today! Next baby is on her way!
Sounds like everyone is getting ready! Anybody have labor/birth anxiety? I am pretty laid back overall, but now and then I have fear creep up when I think of it and I'm trying to figure out how to work thru it. I don't want to be afraid, and I don't think of it as scary, its more the pain and handling it that I fear. I just try to think that I've done this before, millions of women have and its what my body was meant to do...all that stuff, but it still comes back, usually in the wee hours of the night. Maybe its me getting ready, maybe I should do some journaling or something to get my feelings out on paper... Just wondering what others do or have done.
PM, Sounds like you are fairly ready, that's great. I am so glad that people are coming around you and supporting you right now! praise God! Is your sister coming on a certain date or is she close enough to come when you start labor?
Sheryl, I'm sorry you are feeling anxious. I think journaling about it is a great idea. I think that communicating with whoever your support person/team is is also important or at least it was for me. I did not have enough support in my first labor so I wanted to let people know that if things were long and crazy like that again I would need A LOT from them. So for me, just knowing that i would be supported was huge.
I am having some really mixed emotions this week. Part of is so ready to be done being pregnant, like, let's have this baby yesterday-done. The other part of me is panicking a little. I don't feel like our life is crazy-busy but it is full. I'm feeling very unprepared because we are having that "end of the month bare fridge" and I want to have more food frozen and snacks and breakfast made. I feel like my older two need me right now, DHs aunt depends a lot on us, and I am just not sure HOW to slow things down and stop to have a new baby and recover. I know life will go on and everything will be fine. There will be lovely days and hard days, busy days and slow days, a messy house and odd dinners, we will treasure this little one and it will be good. I just can't for the life of me figure out what it looks like right now.
DD1 finishes her swim lessons tomorrow and I am hoping to stock up on lots at Costco and get some things tucked away. DHs Bday is this weekend (When did we get this old BTW?) so I need to figure that out. Then I am hoping to spend next week just wrapping things up and spending some quality time with my girls.
Bailey- how did yesterday go?
CBM- LOL about thinking your DH's nose mucus was the mucus plug. Hopefully you'll actually lose your plug soon!
PM- Any more contrax? How are you feeling?
AG- I go back and forth between excited and completely ready, to thinking how unprepared I am. I think DH and I are as ready as we can be, but really how ready can you really be to go from a family of 2 into a family of 3? Right now I'm super excited and can't wait for this babe to be born. (Plus I'm tired of being pregnant!)
Katie- welcome home!
Pastormama-I agree with you that this baby does feel a lot lower in my pelvis than my first did. I'm really hoping that's all it is!! I hope your hubby can get better soon. Sorry that you're going through a tough time like that so close to baby's birth. Crazy that with your last pregnancy, you fell and broke your water! That must have been scary. Hopefully you don't have too long to wait this time!
Adventure girl-totally feel you on the birth anxiety. The only thing with me is, that the excitement of finally meeting this little girl I've been growing outweighs the anxiety of birth. I know its gonna suck, but it will hopefully be short-lived and I know I've done it drug-free before so I'm pretty confident I can do it again. One thing I've found that helps me is reading other birth stories. Boosts my confidence a little reading about other women doing it! Hope you can let go of the anxiety a little bit! You can do it
Quinalla-so glad to hear from you! That's awesome that you're home now!! I remember having trouble nursing in the hospital with my son, and the MW's just kept telling me, once you get home everything will be better! So I hope that is the case with you. Not only for nursing but for everything! I know you must have your hands full. But can't wait to see pictures of your beautiful babies!
TwilightJoy-Happy May! Yay! So excited to meet my baby! Hope its sooner than later!
BaileyB-hope the waiting is not too stressful! And I hope your doctors get back to you soon. Good luck!
AFM- still a little nervous about my fundus measurements, but really trying to stay positive about it. As long as I can feel the baby moving lots, I'm convinced that everything will be fine!
Getting anxious to just meet this baby now. I'm only 36 weeks, and I know its dangerous but I'm hoping for a 38 week delivery like I had with my son. I went into labor right on my 38 week day. Which is in 2 weeks for me. Lets hope I won't have to wait much longer than that. I'm really starting to get sore. It's hard to sit, lay or stand in the same position for longer than 5 minutes. I'm constantly moving to get comfortable. I've also been seeing a chiropractor, who's been helping with round ligament pain. It's very painful when she is working on it, but seems to be helping.
Our church is hosting a ladies retreat this weekend, and the chairs are so uncomfortable. I am part of the "help" doing most of the media stuff and I'm trying to think of ways that I can be more comfortable. My husband said he would bring me my rocking chair from home, but I don't want to draw any more attention to myself than there already is. I will figure out a way. Even if I have to get up and walk around, I'll manage.
My son has been sleeping in his own bed (in our room) for the last week. I'm just so glad that he's liking it. I was really starting to worry how cosleeping with a toddler and baby was gonna go. He might change his mind when baby is born, but for now I'm happy that he's doing it willingly and loving it. He says the baby can sleep with him in his bed when she's born. Too cute.
Man I really suck at posting from my phone. I am a spelling and grammer nerd so it bugs me when I see my own mistakes! Anyway....
Tomorrow at 6 a.m. I am suppose to be induced. I don't know why I have to be there so early but I figure at least I will have a baby by noon, FX. I am FREAKING out today. I have to keep myself busy or I just burst into tears. I feel like I did all this TTC and planning and gestating for another baby and now she is coming tomorrow and I feel like I have no idea what to do with a baby. Maybe it is because I am the last in my group of friends that have had there second and third babies lately and whenever I see them with their new babies I just feel I will never be able to do it or something. And we are beyond ready, too, so its not like I feel behind getting ready, I just am lacking confidence today I guess. And also I feel that I know that DD is still dependent on me too since she is only 2, and so I feel the pressure that I can't just have a breakdown if I am overly tired or emotional or whatever once the baby is here. DH is suppose to have a softball game tonight even though it is kind of off again on again raining. I hope they don't cancel it because I think it will help to get some air tonight and see some friends.
Katie - I'm glad to hear from you, and that bf-ing is slowly improving! I went through hell and high water on that with DD, and she was full term and 7 lbs, so I can't even imagine with smaller and younger babies. I hope you recover quickly from the pre-e. They thought I had that last time, but my blood pressure stabilized immediately after birth and we were able to leave quickly. I just get hypertension in pregnancy.
Bailey - really thinking of you! Were you induced with your DD? I completely know what you mean about freaking out about another BABY. Like yes there will be a tiny screaming baby in my house again!
M4L - I hope you can figure out something about your retreat. I totally know what you mean about having to sit and being uncomfortable. I had a haircut today and I was literally praying through it, I felt so trapped!
AFM - I feel good. I have contractions off and on, still nothing regular. Today, like I said, I did have a free haircut (like a training session at a salon for new stylists). I had soooo much back pressure and pain and tightening and it was coming and going and I'm like "crap, I'm in labor during this haircut!" I was freaking out. And it took her FOREVER. Two hours. Finally I was like "I have to go get my daughter from daycare can we finish this later!?" Ha! But once I got up and walked around, the pressure eased off, so it wasn't really labor.
DD has starting doing the freak-out thing when I drop her off at her new center. Today was still just the third day, and she is always ridiculously happy when I pick her up, so I think she is just adjusting. They said she's completely fine the second I walk out of the door. And children aren't supposed to be manipulative, huh? ;) I'm sure she is also processing some of her emotions about her father being out of the house, mom slowing down with the baby brother, etc. She was also totally dry all day today, and in underpants! Not bad for 25 months.
My bp was actually high-normal yesterday! 138/88. Hallelujah. I haven't seen numbers that low in a few weeks. My midwife did ask me to start acupuncture to try to move things along, even though my due date isn't until Sunday. She just doesn't want the pregnancy prolonged any if I can help it, given the issues I've been having. I feel like she's looking out for me, because the possibility of hospital transfer and c-section recovery at this point sounds almost insurmountable to me.
Bailey- I hope your induction tomorrow morning goes well! I hope you got some rest today and are feeling better emotionally.
M4L- When is your next appointment / fundal measurement?
Also, are you feeling round ligament pain on both sides, or just the right? The cramping I was experiencing (it's mostly gone today) felt similar to RLP, but it was on both sides for me.
Can you take 2 pillows to your retreat this weekend? Maybe one to sit on and one to use as lower back support?
Katie- thanks for the update, so exciting that you're home and that things are going so well with your babes. I hope that bf'ing continues to get better!
PM- sending you peaceful thoughts. If you do a hospital transfer, will your midwife be able to stay with you? If you have a c-sec, will she be allowed in the room?
The RLP I've been having is mostly on my left side, but it has been both. My chiropractor said my left side is tightest, so that makes sense! It's been causing my groin to be sore as well.
As for the retreat, I've found a gel seat that I can bring and sit on and I think I will take a pillow for my lower back! Thanks for the idea!
I think I am about to pull my hair out. Between the back spasms from 2 am to 5 or 6 am, the lack of sleep and the contractions during the day I am about to go nuts! I have called my poor doula 3 times now. Only once was it actually labor but was not progressing. Then it stopped. Start stop start stop, these are my days for the past week and a half. Doula, midwife and OB are not concerned but I am sure frustrated. Apparently this is 'normal' for a 3rd timer...although my first 2 were not even close to 'normal' labors so we have no idea what to expect. 38 weeks tomorrow and I am ready to be done. I am getting to the point where I can't even distract myself. THe pain gets very intense and there is not much to say except that it's not labor...yet...I can't take any pain medication. I have been starting to show many other signs of pre-labor including swelling of my ankles and a mucous plug that seems to regenerate too quickly. I am really resenting the menstration-like cramps though as they increase in intensity and frequency. I would love to believe it means something is actually happening but I fail to believe that after 8 days of cramps!
MIL arrived Saturday, we've had some adjusting and issues but nothing unsolvable. My mother arrives tomorrow...more adjusting. DD is starting to freak about the baby, came down with a stomach flu last night which included projectile vomiting, and tonight utter refusal to go to bed despite being (and admitting) total exhaustion. Not sure what to do with her at this point other then mother her as best I can (tonight was a 2+ hour marathon which culminated in 2 separate 15-20 min cry fests and she finally fell asleep). I feel so sorry for her. By the time we get to the 2 hour mark, I am about at the end of my rope and I get kind of mean at that point. Fortunately MIL did not witness tonight's end (she has opted to stay in a nearby motel which she can walk from each morning - quite convenient actually) although I knew we were headed for a bad night and made a comment about it. She said she thought I was doing exceptionally well. It's great to have a supportive MIL even if she is a bit forgetful and sometimes let's DD run her over.
OK, here come more contractions...going to rest and hope they either start something real or stop in 10 mins...