Probably overthinking this, but I'd rather ask then have to troubleshoot problems later!
We bought some Rockin Green detergent to use for our cloth diapers, which have not been through their initial wash yet (baby due in 4 weeks). This stuff is too expensive to use on everything, so I went to the http://www.pinstripesandpolkadots.com/detergentchoices.htm site to look for something that was cloth diaper safe but not as expensive. Fortunately, my parents have military privileges and they're happy to get me the ALL Free & Clear Military that does not have optical brightners (rated 5 stars on the chart). The plan is to use ALL on our regular clothes and the Rockin Green on the diaper stuff. The thought is that if for some reason we goof and items get mixed up it won't affect the cloth diapers. It's also likely that at some point we'll get tired of paying for the Rockin Green and just use the ALL.
But what about other stuff? Sometimes I use oxygen bleach on our clothes, or scented Mrs. Meyers detergent on blankets and bedding. Do I need to run an empty load to rinse the washer before washing the diapers? If I use dryer sheets on other things, will that coat the dryer and cause problems for the prefolds? I know stripping is probably inevitable, but I'd like to cut down on potential problems before they happen. The cloth diaper manufacturer website said specifically not to use dryer sheets and oxygen bleach. I suppose I could give all that stuff up, but having pretty smelling blankets makes me happy, and Mrs. Meyers has essential oils and not synthetic fragrance.
Also, do you all wait for there to be a problem before you add vinegar, baking soda, whatever, or do you just routinely add it to every wash? Our water is *supposed* to be soft - we bought a RainSoft water softner a few years back and we've been pleased with it, but I haven' actually had the water tested since. We're usually able to cut back on the amount of detergent we use (by half) and haven't had any problems.
I tell my mother frequently that she did not do me any favors by drilling into my head that you HAVE to follow instructions or else all hell will break loose. If there is anything else along the lines of what I've asked here that I've forgotten about, please feel free to share. I feel pretty good about the basics (standard washing / drying / line drying / sunning).