STBX and I are in agreement about most everything for our separation agreement and custody (at least at this point we are, but nothing is signed yet).
I did end up hiring my own lawyer to write up the SA instead of going the collaborative law route, because I wanted to make sure that I was being wise.
He basically had taken everything we said we wanted and is supposed to be putting it into the SA. I've met with him twice. The first time right was last October when I paid him 1/2 the cost.
We met back in January to finish up things and then he sent me a bill for the second 1/2 of the fee. I didn't pay it at first because I figured it wouldn't be expected until after the SA was finished.
When I hadn't heard back by February, I called and his office said it was expected to pay the bill before he finished. So, I paid them.
But now it is two months later and I still haven't heard back. I did call his office about 4 weeks ago and when they checked they said it was done and they would be in touch.
I guess it is partly my fault for not being a squeaky wheel, but I really would think that they would be more on top of things than this. Overall I like the lawyer. He has been very helpful when we have talked in person or by phone. The trouble is it is so hard to actually reach him.
I've had a lot of other things to juggle and, since STBX and I aren't in disagreement about things, I haven't been feeling in a hurry to wrap up the SA. But it is something that I want to get in place in case STBX decides to change his mind about things. Right now the SA is really in my favor. I get 50% income from our business, I have 100% custody, he pays child support, I keep the house, etc. I don't want him to start second guessing things before we have it legal.
Probably I just need to apply more pressure to the lawyer and start calling up more often. A friend thought I'm not getting much attention because we aren't going to court. But I'm just wondering, is that standard to pay the full fee before we've gotten the SA signed?