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post #101 of 229

Hippy- I'm not looking forward to the "touching" phase. I'm 14wks and not really showing yet (I can tell, and I could dress in such a way that others would be able to tell, but for now I'm just dressing like I'm bloated). I am an abuse survivor who doesn't get massages because I can't stand strangers touching me. My plan is to scoot out of the way if someone tries to touch the bump, and scream if they manage to make contact, explaining that any unwanted touching is technically illegal (falls under assault/battery in most jurisdictions). People need some freaking boundaries. I will say, though, that I know my friends know my comfort level with being touched and will not be the ones reaching for the bump without an invitation. I'm the last of my rather large group of friends to have my 1st baby, and I was polite to each of them and waited to be asked before feeling the baby move- same as I waited to be invited to hold their newborns. Just because I'm abnormally large doesn't mean I want to be prodded and patted.

 

Jjh- me too. I thought it had mostly passed and then I woke up today feeling rotten. Ugh. Maybe next week.

 

-MQ

post #102 of 229

Had 16 week midwife appointment today and heard heartbeat again, baby was wriggling as she listened - so reassuring as I do still get so anxious. Happy! 

 

I find it so weird that people touch without asking - I cant imagine ever doing that - i'd feel so cheeky. Love it when ds and hubby touch though.Especially ds - he's so excited to start feeling kicks etc.

post #103 of 229

Yeah, I also couldn't imagine going into someone's personal space like that.  How rude!

 

MQ, I could make you a shirt with some sharp pokey spikes pointing out right over your belly so people are too scared to touch it. winky.gif

post #104 of 229
Yeah, Sienna! That's such a great feeling smile.gif

I haven't had anyone touch without asking but I'd be r. eally mad if they did!

AFM Some cramping and spotting this morning a few hours after DTD. MW insists I can relax, as no bright red blood or significant cramps. I still feel pretty scared. I left work and I'm resting. Spotting has completely stopped but I'm feeling a little crampy (though I might be imagining it... possibly). So much for DTD a lot!
post #105 of 229

SparkleMaman - that must be worrying, glad midwife was reassuring and that you're resting, and spotting stopped, understand you feeling nervous though. Hope the cramping stops very soon too (imagined or not) its for that reason im too anxious to dtd hug2.gif

post #106 of 229

Sparkle - That would freak me out too! Your feelings are understandable. I hope it resolves itself. I actually had a dream that happened last night and now I'm freaked out about DTD again.

 

Sienna - So exciting! Can't wait to get there!

 

I'm not a touchy person. Don't touch my belly! Don't even hug me haha.

post #107 of 229

Sparkle, that would give me a bunch of worry too, even though it's totally normal at this point in pregnancy to have a little bit of spotting and cramping after intercourse.  I doubt you're imagining your cramps.  Orgasm sets them off.  These are harmless but I still freak out every time I have them, even with how much I know about how safe baby and I are when this happens!

 

Me: I'm 13w.  My daughters ask me every day if they can hear baby's heartbeat (doppler) and I tell them baby doesn't like it, and we've only listened twice so far this pregnancy.  My 3yo has started talking about her friend "Invisible Baby."  She can take out Invisible Baby and put him/her (she changes her mind) back in when they're done playing.  Invisible Baby likes spinning in my office chair and fits in DD's pocket.  It's all very strange if you ask me (none of my other kids have done anything so odd while I've been pregnant with their siblings), but she's having fun with it.

 

I'm still slogging through my hyperemesis, although really at this point the Zofran and Unisom and B injections are working so well that I'm only vomiting every few days.  I'm only down about 7lb from my starting weight, which is SO much better than it's been in previous pregnancies. I struggle through my clinic days a little bit and have really rough evenings where most of the time I just need to be in bed after about 7pm.  It's hard to sit in front of a computer for too long (and as soon as all my faxes are sent, I'll be back off the computer for the day).  And my gardening is suffering big-time, although I did manage to get a new chicken coop built a couple of weeks ago (with a LOT of help from my eldest).  I'd basically much rather sit outside and read than actually work on anything.

post #108 of 229

Thanks, Mamas. Having a little more spotting tonight (very light brown) and definitely crampy. I am trying not to totally freak out (which I did this morning when I saw the pink spotting) as I know rationally that there is absolutely nothing I can do at 15 weeks to change whatever will be. I just need to relax and rest and have faith it will all be okay. That's not to say I am not totally scared to death. Just trying to talk myself down and breathe. om.gif

 

Sienna Yeah, I think this puts the kibosh on DTD for some time. I'd be too freaked out to enjoy it. We enjoyed DTD lots when I was pregnant for DD. And only at 39 weeks 5 days did it seem to cause any cramping (I'm pretty sure that's what put me into labor).

Niki Welcome! I think your DD's play is super sweet! Very creative. My imaginary friends only made messes and did things I wasn't supposed to lol.gif

post #109 of 229

Just checking if there was an update from SparkleMaman. Thinking of you and praying that everything has calmed down.

post #110 of 229

Thank you, Sila!! I was still cramping yesterday and decided for my own mental health to go to the ER to be checked out. Everyone was so lovely and kind. Baby BOY looks perfect, very active and continuing to measure about a week ahead. Labs all looked good. I have a small subchorionic bleed, very common and they usually resolve but it needs to be followed. I feel so very relieved and thrilled that things seem to be settling down today. They suggested rest for the weekend and no strenuous activities for a few weeks. They mentioned full pelvic rest until the cramping subsides (ie no DTD) which I laughed at. DD is SO incredibly excited that she's going to have a little brother, she's been really hoping for a boy. Thank you so much for your kind words, thoughts and prayers. They are very much appreciated!! When is your ultrasound?

post #111 of 229

woo hoo congrats on the baby boy and all looking great! xx

post #112 of 229

Sparkle- Good news. Glad everything is good!!!  How wonderful its a boy. Did you want to know? 

post #113 of 229

Awesome Sparkle! I have quite a few friends that have had SCHs actually. I hope yours resolves quickly. Congrats on a BOY! Boys are so so much fun (though I'm probably biased haha). Our ultrasound is Tuesday. It's taking forever to get here! I'm hoping she can give us a guess on the sex.

post #114 of 229
Congrats on the baby boy, Sparkle! So exciting!

AFM I've been completely MIA lately because we had MIL visiting us. She brought a ton of baby clothes for us, which was really exciting generally and also because the stuff she found was cuter than what I've seen here. And, most exciting of all, she brought my Maya Wrap! Maybe we should start a "ridiculous parenting advice thread," and I can share some lovely tidbits from the 1970s/1980s. wink1.gif

I think we're now at the point where people who are planning to find out the sex will start to find out? I'm really excited to hear what people are having and if predictions were correct. smile.gif I'm 16 weeks now and I think I could book a private scan any day now to find out the sex. I'm not going to, but it's exciting to know I could!
post #115 of 229
Thank you, mamas! Just so thrilled to know he's healthy. We were on the fence about finding out and DD desperately wanted to know (she was really, really hoping boy). So it's all good. I will say it feels so exciting and more real to know. He's a he, with a name now, not the baby or she/he. I'm just basking in the afterglow of the good news.

Sila I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, esp on Tuesday. So exciting!!

Jonesies I'd love a good giggle from the previously mentioned parental 'advice.' Do share!
post #116 of 229
Well...she said some pretty inaccurate things about cloth nappies, told me cosleeping would make me more tired, and said that it was okay not to use a carseat in a taxi because you can just hold onto baby. The worst though was that she was told in the '70s to feed baby on a schedule and, if baby was hungry in between feedings, to give a bottle of herbal tea. She wasn't pushy about us doing things her way, but hearing these things did reinforce my decision not to invite family to visit for the first few weeks. If things aren't going smoothly with breastfeeding or anything else I don't want to have to deal with outdated advice.
post #117 of 229
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Well...she said some pretty inaccurate things about cloth nappies, told me cosleeping would make me more tired, and said that it was okay not to use a carseat in a taxi because you can just hold onto baby. The worst though was that she was told in the '70s to feed baby on a schedule and, if baby was hungry in between feedings, to give a bottle of herbal tea. She wasn't pushy about us doing things her way, but hearing these things did reinforce my decision not to invite family to visit for the first few weeks. If things aren't going smoothly with breastfeeding or anything else I don't want to have to deal with outdated advice.

Herbal tea and holding the baby in a taxi... good advice.  Is this there first grandbaby?

 

_Sparkle_  THat is how we felt about finding out when I was pregnant with DS (child #2) Thought it would be easier for DD to adapt if baby had a name and boy/girl status. Since we have one of each we really want to be surprised this time! 

post #118 of 229

Congrats on the happy news Sparkle! :-) 

post #119 of 229

Hello Ladies! I am new to the group I am 17 weeks pregnant and due late October, This is my 4th pregnancy and we are planning a homebirth. 

 

I am looking forward to meeting you all during this sacred time :D

post #120 of 229

Welcome.gif and congratulations everyone!

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