Starfish - Scary! Glad all is well! DS will turn 4 when I'm 37wks. He now knows about the baby but we aren't going to hype it up too much over the next few months because time just goes so slowly at that age. So I have not asked him yet if he wants to be there. I want him there and I want him to have the option of seeing the actual birth if he desires. If he's unsure or could care less we probably won't wake him in the middle of the night until after delivery to see the baby. Here's the thing, I need to have an adult there specifically responsible for him and I don't know who that is yet. At this point I'm not really comfortable with my MIL being there (whom DS is very comfortable with) or my SIL who both live in our neighborhood. If it was my mom or sisters or even other SIL I would be fine with that. But they live states away. Possibly a best friend and have him become more familiar with spending more time with her over the coming months. It's just something I really have to think about.