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post #41 of 229
Thanks, Starfish! What a lovely thing to say :-). I LOVE that knitting baby clothes means we're not stuck with pale pink or blue. My goal is to set up an Etsy store and sell knitwear but I need more practice first as I've only been knitting for a few months. wink1.gif

I would just die if I were throwing up 3-5 times a day. I can't even imagine. Stay strong, mama!

I just made guacamole the other day. I didn't enjoy it as much as I thought I would, so DH ate most of it.
post #42 of 229

Starfish: Sorry to hear you are still throwing up! Hopefully it ends soon!!!   And strep on top Yuck! Speedy healing vibes to you!

 

What a shock to hear about your admin. It has to be hard on your emotions even more so since you are pregnant. I am emotional tear factory and cry over the slightest thing lately.

 

I will have to buy some prunes when I do my next Tierra bulk order... might help with keeping me more regular.

 

I wish I could give in and drink wine... maybe a sip or 2 after 12 wks. I am hoping I feel more brazen. 

 

On another note: Does anyone not want to DTD with their partner/spouse? Or is that taboo to talk about?

post #43 of 229

Starfish - So so sorry you are still throwing up! And here the rest of us and excitedly talking about how we are starting to feel better. So so sorry.

 

Re alcohol/wine: I have absolutely no problem with people having a bit of wine or beer during pregnancy. Especially towards the end to aid in relaxation and sleep! To me however, wine just sounds absolutely icky right now. Maybe later on...

 

Meksmama- Lets talk about it because I have been wanting to ask too. We have sort of a "premium pregnancy" because we went through fertility treatments in order to conceive. At my 2nd positive beta my RE gave me a booklet about the 1st trimester that listed all these do nots and something along the lines of "we know these are super strict but we also know what it took you to get here". Anyways, he said absolutely no sexual activity. Nothing that could cause uterine contractions. Basically no to anything that there could be a .00000000001% chance of anything going wrong. I was fine with it at first because I felt so sick and I have been going to bed at 8:30 or early. I'm really trying to listen to my body and do what is best for me. I eventually reached a point after those early early weeks where I was fine with DTD again and let DH know. But by then he had become paranoid and was worried to. I told him I would just wait until he was ready and we finally DTD for first time almost a wk ago around 10wks. Hasn't happened again yet. My pregnancy with DS my sexual desire was very low and it seems to be again. But, I know it is really important to our relationship and I enjoy those benefits of it!

post #44 of 229
Oh, I am happy you all are doing better! Truly!! Makes me focus on the light at the end of the tunnel.

Meks, I bawled in the auditor 's office. Just cried and cried and cried. She was supportive of my outburst.

Wine/alcohol: I would/ have not had alcohol during my pregnancy. But! I don't judge and I do drink caffeine and a weekly diet coke both of which I am sure are on some folks absolutely not list.

Sila, premium pregnancy is cracking me up!

I have lots of urges to DTD with DH but I can't muster up the energy to do anything about it. Around 1 pm every day I feel frisky and make ambitious DTD plans for later when we are both home. By the time that happens and the kids are asleep I can only fight the fatigue long enough to tell DH about it.
Edited by Starfish11 - 5/7/13 at 6:10pm
post #45 of 229
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Originally Posted by Meksmama View Post

Starfish: Sorry to hear you are still throwing up! Hopefully it ends soon!!!   And strep on top Yuck! Speedy healing vibes to you!

What a shock to hear about your admin. It has to be hard on your emotions even more so since you are pregnant. I am emotional tear factory and cry over the slightest thing lately.

I will have to buy some prunes when I do my next Tierra bulk order... might help with keeping me more regular.

I wish I could give in and drink wine... maybe a sip or 2 after 12 wks. I am hoping I feel more brazen. 

On another note: Does anyone not want to DTD with their partner/spouse? Or is that taboo to talk about?

THANK YOU for bringing up the dtd thing. I'm feeling like I want to dtd but like starfish just no energy (especially because we just moved and he works from 9-8 daily). Sila- that has to be so difficult going through so much for a pregnancy then feeling so blah and having restrictions on what causes little ones in the first place!!
But yeah. I have got to figure something out because I've been a horrible person lately anyway to my husband for no reason besides being exhausted and hormonal. Pregnancy is emotionally draining too and I have to be in the right mind frame to dtd anyway (not that it's difficult when I'm not pregnant) but I'm really really glad I'm not the only one and that this was brought up.
post #46 of 229

I have to say I'm envious of you ladies who have even the smallest iota of "desire". Between being tired, nauseous, uncomfortable (I'm having the ligament stretching pains these days) and feeling like a total whale, there is no way I am letting DH look at me, much less touch me. I'm hoping that goes away; and even said as much on the day he sent those two nice ladies and four nice men over to clean the house, beautify the yard, and till my vegetable garden. There is nothing sexier to me than a man who makes all of my chores disappear!

 

Maybe soon....

post #47 of 229

I am glad I am not alone! DH keeps asking but I tell him its 11pm I have barely enough energy to make it to bed and you want to do what??  

 

We have only DTD 3 times since we conceived the first time is how I knew I was pregnant since it was uncomfortable and felt different to me. The 2nd and 3rd time I was afraid it was going to be uncomfortable again.  Hoping the feeling goes away and some sort of desire comes back soon cause I don't want it to damage our relationship.   Maybe I do need some wine to relax and open up... 

post #48 of 229
Re. DTD I'm with all of you on not being that interested either. I had constant nausea up until week 12 or 13 and now I'm at that point where I feel fat not pregnant. However DH has been really busy with work so it hasn't been an issue. But I do feel like we should be taking advantage of our last months just as a couple...
post #49 of 229

I'm in the same club re: DTD. I was sooooo paranoid until a few weeks ago, and we've still only DTD twice since.  LOL

 

 

Different topic......seeing the 'say no to circ' smileys made me think about how relieved I am that when I brought it up to DH, he said he supports my position on no circ if this LO is a boy!  WHEW!!!!  joy.gifWhen I had DS, I was single, so it was my decision and I've never regretted not circing.  In fact, when he had his hearing test in the hospital as a newborn, they were doing the circs in the next room and I will NEVER forget the poor baby boys literally screaming at the top of their lungs. I asked a nurse about it and she said it usually takes a lot to calm them down.  It just broke my heart for them. Anyway, I feel like I should add that I also believe each parent should be able to make that choice for themselves and for their child.)

post #50 of 229
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I'm in the same club re: DTD. I was sooooo paranoid until a few weeks ago, and we've still only DTD twice since.  LOL

 

 

Different topic......seeing the 'say no to circ' smileys made me think about how relieved I am that when I brought it up to DH, he said he supports my position on no circ if this LO is a boy!  WHEW!!!!  joy.gifWhen I had DS, I was single, so it was my decision and I've never regretted not circing.  In fact, when he had his hearing test in the hospital as a newborn, they were doing the circs in the next room and I will NEVER forget the poor baby boys literally screaming at the top of their lungs. I asked a nurse about it and she said it usually takes a lot to calm them down.  It just broke my heart for them. Anyway, I feel like I should add that I also believe each parent should be able to make that choice for themselves and for their child.)

That is great you DH is on board! got ours on board with our DS so if we have a boy this time it won't be an issue at all.

post #51 of 229
I just want to cry hearing about those poor boys screaming while being circed. greensad.gif DH is European so he is intact and neither of even considered circing. I'm so grateful that this wasn't even a discussion for us.
post #52 of 229

On the same page with dtd...I think maybe 3 or 4 times? DH is super hopeful after hearing that a lot of pregnant women in their second trimester regain desire...I am just starting the second trimester and no such luck so far!

As for circ, it was an amazing coincidence that I happened to be in an online cultural anthropology class when I was pregnant with ds, and there was a mandatory discussion on circumcision here and in other countries. Before I just figured circumcision was the normal, healthy thing to do...so glad I did the research for that class, decided not to circ, and never looked back!

One thing though is that dh is circ, and now that ds is 5, dh wants to show him how to pee standing up (he always just sits down), but he doesn't know how to show him what to do with the foreskin? There is probably another thread on this site where I could ask about that but still kinda new here. 

post #53 of 229
I have a question for you ladies. My doctor wants me to bring a urine sample to every single appointment. I wouldn't really have a problem with this except that I got a bill from the lab where I had my initial bloodwork done for $134 for ONE urine test! My question is, do most OBs require this? I really don't want to be stuck with $800 in bills just for urine cultures! Ugh! I need to call my insurance and see why the charge was denied but I am just sooo irritated.
post #54 of 229

Our DS is 3.5 and always pees standing. He doesn't have to do anything with the foreskin. He can just hold his penis and aim! When he is older and can retract his foreskin he may choose to do so before peeing (unless he can retract already, then I'm sure he'll figure that out). DS knows to grab a piece of toilet paper if he got a few drops on the toilet or a drop is hanging on the end of his foreskin.

post #55 of 229

jjh - Woah! My midwife has me do a urine sample every time but just uses those pH type strips like for testing pool chemicals and reads it herself or even has me take the bottle in and compare it and just let her know if anything wasn't normal and throw it away! Easy peasy. You can even buy those strips yourself!

post #56 of 229
Sunkistmoth - I don't think it's 100% necessary for an intact boy or man to retract while peeing. My DH doesn't, anyway.

Jjh- my midwife has asked me to bring a urine sample to each appt after 8 weeks. I think she just tests it for protein, sugar, and bacteria. Personally I don't mind doing the tests because I don't believe there is any risk to it and I don't have to pay. But I would really think that routine urine testing during pregnancy would be covered. Maybe there was a problem with the way it was coded or something like that?
post #57 of 229
Ok thanks guys. I don't have a problem doing it, I just have a problem paying for it! This was from a lab that I got billed that much and it was sent to my insurance but I'm so annoyed! Wouldn't you think that would be a routine part of initial pregnancy bloodwork? I'll call them today smile.gif
post #58 of 229

Jjh I'd definitely follow up with your insurance. It is actually a vital part of your prenatal care, to assess for spilled protein and sugar in your urine. It should certainly be covered in full.

 

AFM 14 weeks, 1 day. Officially in the 2nd trimester joy.gif Had my appointment with my MW on Wednesday afternoon. Got to hear the baby's HB, which was amazing!! Nice and strong in the 150's heartbeat.gif They didn't have my Harmony Prenatal test results, which made me really anxious, but we finally got them late yesterday. Everything looks perfect. SO, so relieved and excited! They somehow did not add the Y analysis portion of the test, which indicates sex and tests for Y aneuploidies. Kind of frustrated, as my MF spent literally hours on the phone with the lab to assure that everything was ordered correctly and that the full test, Harmony Prenatal with Y Analysis, would be completed (this was their first time ordering the test) after I spent hours myself with the lab trying to figure out what they needed to do and who to contact to get the test. So irritating. But that has been pretty much overshadowed by my immense joy at being reassured about this LO's health. 2nd trimester anatomy scan scheduled for June. Can't wait to see baby again, and for DH and DD to see too!

post #59 of 229

Wow - at my midwife clinic they just have the pee jars and those strips in the bathroom and ask you to test yourself at each appointment and let them know if there's anything abnormal. It doesn't get sent anywhere.

 

As for DTD - I guess I'm an odd one out who has been have lots of loving with my DH. Less than before I was pregnant, but still pretty regularly. I've definitely turned him down a lot more but when we do it's been AMAZING - so it's much harder to turn him down lol. I don't remember it being this good my last pregnancy so I'm enjoying it for now!

 

I do have one weird thing going on though - I seem to have broken out in a rash over the last couple of days. Over the tops of my thighs (by my hips) and up the sides of my tummy. I read online about PUPPS (sorry if that's not spelled right...) but it usually doesn't start until 3rd trimester and I'm only 15 weeks today. I really hope it isn't that because it doesn't go away until you give birth! I'm hoping it's just heat rash from the crazy weather we've been having. I haven't changed detergent or anything recently so not sure what else it could be. Anyone else have any experience with this? I'm seeing my midwife on Tuesday so will ask her about it then.

post #60 of 229
? About the rash- were you weedinv or anything?

Pee- my mw has us use a cup each visit and they use those strips to test. The very first one they send out for bacterial infection along wit the prenatal bloodwork.

Dtd- once and I could not relax. I was so scared to cause bleeding. But now heading into week 13 I'm staeting to feel the urge and relax more. I think once I getpast 15 wks I'll be ok with bd.

I've been feeling odd with food. Finally done being sick and last week I was real hungry, but now feel like I have to make myself eat. I feel like I should be worried about that.
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