We are having issues with bedtime. This daughter is a morning person who napped until kindergarten. She is a solid sleeper who wakes up in the morning (between 6 and 6:30)ready to go, but craters every afternoon and evening when she doesn't get at least a good 9 hours of sleep. We've set her bedtime at 8:30 (she's a 5th grader) and we usually get her to her room and in bed by 9. She reports laying awake until 9:30 or 10 sometimes, and has argued non-stop for months that she needs a later bedtime.
For me the biggest thing is that I really need a break from this child by 8:30 at night. She was a very attached baby/toddler/little kid and remains quite focused on attention from me. Even though I work out of the house her need for mom-time gets exhausting in just the two or three hours of contact we have in the evenings (I'm pooped from my day, too).
Every night she drags her feet at bedtime. This behavior has been with her since she was born, really, but it is really getting on my nerves. Tuesday night she managed to spend 1 hour "getting ready for bed," and needed to
- tell me how she was improving her cartwheels (she doesn't do gymnastics)
- ask me about her costume for a school event (that she'd already figured out over the weekend)
- ask me again about a possible change to her costume
- complain about her hair
- come to me to ask me another question
At this point I just told her I was done responding to her and she needed to go to her room. She argued with me that it was just a "5 second question" but I refused and told her if she argued again she'd lose TV priviledges starting with the next day. She paused for a moment and blew me a raspberry (which lost her TV priviledges) and then stalked off to her room.
This all came to a head yesterday because she wanted to watch TV even though she'd lost her priviledges the night before. I reminded her of the sequence of events, which led to her screaming and sobbing hysterically for an hour. Not kidding.
I'm ready to implement the "Love and Logic" bedtime lesson where the kid stays up to whatever time they want and then has to get up in the morning and go to school. DH is with me on this one. I guess I'm looking for support and BTDT because I'm miserable today after all this drama last night.