I'm pretty sure what I'm asking for is impossible, but hopefully not.
I'm wondering if there is a polite way to tell friends and family that I do not want visitors the first day after the baby is born. I would prefer not to have them the first few days but H thinks that's mean and his family won't understand. So we compromised in saying that I don't want visitors while I am in the hospital, whether that is 1 or 3 days who knows.
My reasoning is that I feel that the first days are very important for bonding. I've read that most of that having too much company passing the new baby around can overwhelm both baby and mom causing harder BF, post-partum depression, hormone release issues. I've read different things saying this can occur within the first few hours to the first few days. Also, I don't know visiting in the hospital just seems weird to me. I always waiting until my nieces and nephews came home, in a place that's more comfortable and energetically stable. At least once I was able to drive and make my own decision e.g. my first nephew was born when I was 8 so I went to the hospital with my parents.
I don't mean to push my ideals on other people yet at the same time I don't want to feel overwhelmed more than I already will after LO is born. Thoughts? Suggestions on how to "break the news?" Or just tell me I'm being super selfish if that's you're opinion :)