My 1st grader has formed a friendship with another boy in the neighborhood. At first, it seemed like this was a good match. They have a lot in common. My son is an only child and enjoys being around older children. His 4th grade friend is the youngest, with a teenage sister. I encouraged the friendship in the beginning, scheduling playdates and such. Now I'm not so sure how to handle this.
DS is a skinny fellow, roughly 50 lbs at 4'. His friend is closer to 5' and 90 lbs. They sit together on the bus and sometimes the friend likes to rough house by pushing, shoving, punching. It seems like typical boy behavior. But I wasn't too thrilled to hear that my son gets punched and hit by a much bigger kid, even if it's "all in good fun". This morning, I saw the older boy try to grab a pencil from DS's hand and he wouldn't let go of DS's hand until he got the pencil, then he proceeded to fake stab DS. They were laughing so I know it wasn't done with malice. I walked over and didn't want to be confrontational so I told my son to stay out of the street. I don't know if I should have said something to the other kid about grabbing DS. (Would this be parenting someone else's kid if I did say something to the older boy?) Should I call his mom and tell her what I saw? If yes, what should I say? I don't want to step on any toes, not wanting to cause waves in the relationship. I'm sort of friends with the 4th grader's mom. We talk when we see each other at the bus stop. She rarely come to the bus stop.
What would you do if you were in my place?
My main worry is safety. With DS being so much smaller, I worry about him getting hurt rough housing with an older bigger kid. Also, DS doesn't understand the size and strength difference. When I've mentioned that DS shouldn't rough house with his friend, DS said, "I'm tough, I take karate". Also, the 4th grader doesn't realize how much stronger he is than DS. DS doesn't stand up for himself when he needs to, thinking he should take care of it himself.
Any input is greatly appreciated! Thanks!
Edited by NorthernVAMom - 5/3/13 at 12:05pm