Oh mamabell, I am so sorry.
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We're outdoorsy, nature geeks at our house. I'm a fan of Western medicine and am planning an OB-attended birth at the hospital, probably with an epidural. That's the way the last one went and it was pretty fabulous. But other than medical choices, I'm pretty similar to other moms here.
This is similar to me, too, although I am having a midwife-assisted hospital birth this time. Not sure if I'll have an epidural. I had one last time and it was definitely the right choice, though I had gone into it open to whatever seemed right as it happened. The hospital now offers water births, so I will see how far I get with the tub (last time, sittng in the tub/shower at home did WONDERS for contraction pain).
Hi ladies! I cannot believe I am joining a DDC actually. Some background: I'm a single mommy to a wonderful almost-6-year-old boy. My ex-husband and I struggled with infertility procedures for more than a year before we ended our relationship (for unrelated reasons). Since then one of my biggest struggles has been the grief over the possibility I wouldn't have more children. I'm 32 and while I get that 35 isn't the "magic age" where fertility dies, I'm also aware I'm 32 with no relationship prospects and a deep deep desire to have more children. I decided to take the "choice mom" plunge and I honestly still can't believe I'm here. I'm due Jan 10th, in between thrilled and terrified of doing all of this on my own. This pregnancy has been nothing at all like my last, I have had absolutely no pregnancy symptoms at all, while with my son I was vomiting for weeks, growing out of my clothes at 8 weeks, having strikes of hunger and faintness etc etc all in the first trimester. This pregnancy is so different, I actually went to my first prenatal appointment firmly believing that my baby had died but my body just hadn't passed it yet. I was more than shocked to hear a strong, healthy heartbeat and see a very very active bouncing little one on my ultrasound at 11 weeks.
I am honestly still in shock. And I haven't told anybody at all yet!!!!! My family has known I've considered using a donor, but they've never commented about it. I think they will be really sad and upset about my decision. I have no idea what my ex will think (he remains very involved with our son, and I would consider him a friend now), and worry he may be angry or worried about how this will affect him or our financially support for our son.
To make things even more complicated, I'm running all the numbers, and while I knew I could afford this, things will be tighter during the infant-in-daycare time period than what is comfortable for me, so I'm considering renting out a room to another single mom locally and/or changing jobs to something with higher pay and better hours. I did talk with the prospective employer (someone I used to work with is doing the hiring), so he is aware I am pregnant and went to great lengths to assure me financially this could be done (I would be eligible for short term disability for maternity leave, but no vacation time yet, which means part of my maternity leave would be unpaid ---- EK!) I think, though, with the increase in pay and the better insurance coverage and retirement package, I would not only be able to save enough to cover my expenses while on leave, but it'd be an overall better long-term situation for me raising a baby on my own. So, my interview for the new position is on Monday!
I've done a tad bit of maternity and baby shopping so far, usually i'm such an avid shopper/thrift and deal finder, but now that I know I'm the solo provider, I'm trying to majorly tighten up the purse strings. I am so thankful I kept most all of my baby gear from my son... I had heavily debated getting rid of the majority since I wasn't sure when, if ever, I'd use it again.
About me: I'm a psychotherapist, attachment-parenting, still-part-time-cosleeping mom and I *cannot wait* to start cloth diapering again!
Hiya I'm 41 and due #3 on 24th of Jan (at least that's the date I was given, though I think it's more like the 18th). I am married to a wonderful hubby and daddy and have 2 DDs, ages 15 and 3. Both my babies were long labours. You know those jokes about women who talk about being in labour for a week? Yeah. The first was a week early and natural, second was 2 weeks late and ended in an emergency ceasarian. I had a very early mc a couple of years before I had my eldest and one about a year and a half after my second.
It took practically a miracle to conceive my first, they had started fertility tests and during a vaginal ultrasound to check my tubes discovered I was pregnant.-since I hadn't had a period for 3 months (very irregular periods) and was only a few weeks along it meant that somehow I had miraculously hit a random ovulation in there. I was so grateful, and fraught with anxiety, it seemed almost too good to be true. After that I had pretty much accepted that I would probably only have one (although I had had several weird premonitional type experiences that indicated I wasn't done having babies). So it was an amazing surprise 10 years later when, one month after becoming engaged, we discovered I was pregnant. This one has been an even bigger surprise, considering my age and the fact that my health hasn't been great for the past year and a half or so (actually, I've had fibromyalgia since I was 20, but this has been a relly bad time with it). It's ironic in a way, that when I am supposed to be having more trouble conceiving I suddenly seem to get more productive. LOL
I am actually very thankful for that, as my first marriage was abusive and, though my eldest daughter was an amazing gift and gave me the will to fight and get out for her sake, I am so sad for the emotional scars she was left with from those years. It is such a blessing, not only that she now has a loving and supportive dad, but that I have a loving and supportive partner in having these children.
With my first two pregnancies, I was so sick that I was hospitalised with #1 for 5 days on a drip because of severe dehydration and had to be medicated with the second before I suffered the same fate. I could not be anywhere near a lot of foods and could not cook at all. This time, I am feeling lousy 24/7 but on a much milder scale.-just do not put any garlic or onions near me! My 3 year old keeps coming home from preschool with onion breath. What in the name of all saints are they feeding her?!?
This time I am actually keeping a good amount of what I eat down (although I did throw up in the middle of a supermarket parking lot the other day ), and I am drinking sparkling water, and some hot lemon and honey drinks and occasionally decaff coffee, For about a month I could only drink Dr Pepper, which was worrying, but I'm over that. *Phew* Even the pregnancy vitamins are staying down. I was worried with the first two that they would be harmed by the fact that I was practically starving, this time I get anxious just because it's almost too good to be true! Oy! I had some bleeding after a bout of intense vomiting one morning at around 8 weeks, which I think caused a small tear or something like that in my cervix, but thankfully it stopped quickly. The Dr checked with an ultrasound and saw the heartbeat. I am still a bit nervous until my check up next week when they will scan for potential Downs, etc., but feel positive inside that it will be ok.
I am very much for AP, but have to strike a balance with how much my hubby can take, It's very much not what he was raised with. Both my babies were BF, first one weaned at 20 months, second at 3 years. My 3 and 3/4 years old has rediscovered an interest in "Mama's milkies" since I became pregnant, which is interesting. I am wondering if she will want to resume BFing for a bit when the baby is born. I am prepared to allow for that, if that's what she needs. I have learned a lot about circumcision in the last couple of years and am now totally anti.
I have a few challenges coming up still with this one. I will probably share more about that when I get there, as I am trying not to worry too much about it right now and just concentrate on giving my kids and hubby the strength I have while keeping the delicate balance of food and sleep going. So far, this has been my best pregnancy yet, and I'm just about 12 weeks (between fibro fog and baby brain, I got totally confused this weekend as to whether I am 12 weeks last Friday or next....doh!) so I am much encouraged. There are also a few marked differences in symptoms, which is another reason I think this one might be our boy. One way or another, I think this has to be my last. I don't think I have the strength to do this again.
This got a lot more wordy than I intended, I guess I was just trying to share the journey so far. I am thrilled to be a part of this group! It's so cool to have people to share the experience with. (Thanks Molly for pointing me to it.)
Edited by MyKittysMew - 7/7/13 at 10:28pm
MyKitty- Ok so this is kind of funny. With my first I hadn't had a period in three months as well! My husband and I were trying but negative test after negative test. I finally went to the doctor thinking something was wrong with me but I found out I was pregnant! Crazy huh?! They didn't know how I ovulated without periods.... I was only a month along when they did finally figure out that nothing was wrong with me and I was pregnant. Kind of a cool way to find out. At the time I was only 24 but have always had very irregular periods and is why it had been taking awhile for me to get pregnant. Also, I can't take onions and garlic either right now. My husband will come home smelling like it and just grosses me out. And so glad you are in a better relationship this time. It will make a huge difference to have someone supportive and loving!
Bethann- Hope you start to feel better soon!
tspencer, that is so cool! I've never heard of anyone else in that situation, so it's really nice to hear your experience. I was 25 at the time as it happens. I couldn't kiss my hubby for about 3 days when he ate some pizza with garlic on it last week. Poor man. I am so smell sensitive, he practically has to go outside to use his deodorant and I have to shop for soaps that don't smell like flowers or chemicals. Gaaah!!
I'm Rae, 38, & expecting #4!! Our due date is 1/03, but given my history, I'm not expecting LO for at least 5 days beyond that! I have an 18 yo son, 16 yo son, and a 7 yo daughter~ this baby was concieved just 6 days after my dh & I were married so needless to say we are feeling so very blessed!! (This is his first child) My first child was born 7 days after his due date, in a hospital after an uncomplicated delivery- I had an epidural that worked exactly as they are "supposed" to, I pushed for 45 minutes & recovered wonderfully enough to be home within 8 hours, my second, I decided to push my luck a bit- scheduled an induction 10 days early for convenience sake- banking on that epidural to make things run smoothly yet again... fail.. I had as much pitocin as they could possibly administer, had to re-do the epidural because it was not working, was given a "deadline" in which I had to deliver "or else".. I'd need a c-section. Alas there was a shift change & I was lucky enough to have the nurse walk in that wonderfully assisted me deliver my firstborn, I think the relief of tension from her simply walking thru the door made all the difference in the world- I did progress, & I did deliver within their "window"... However- by now I had no pain meds on board, & no knowledge of what I might do to handle the pain! Fast forward to my daughter's birth- I had decided early on in pregnancy that I was NOT messing with mother nature this time around, I had a doula, and studied everything I could get my hands on regarding natural unmedicated childbirth. I labored a comfortable labor at home with my doula and my daughter's father, arriving at the hospital just 13 minutes before her birth!! It was a wonderful experience & amazing recovery!! So here I am, blessed with baby #4, I could not be more excited for the remainder of this journey! I have a wonderful Midwife, who is a friend and member of my church, my husband and & could not be more thrilled to have her by our side! We will be delivering in a hospital, but I still have curiosities about having a homebirth .. We shall see!!! I'm 14 & 4, & Lord knows my mind could change!!
I look forward to getting to know you all, & absorbing as much knowledge as I can!!
I had two losses last year (the 2nd one was a chromosomal/trisomy loss & not sure about the first) and I had to bid my DDC farewell both times so I determined to wait this time to be sure! Hate getting my hopes up to be dashed and also am sensitive to bumming other expectant mamas out too.
I am Viviene. I'm 42 and together with my husband Matt, am parent to two children. Our son Jasper is 4 1/2 (I still am best pals w mamas from our Oct 08 DDC//we have a FB group now!) and our daughter Tallulah is 3.
We always wanted to have a third and now we are. Found out on Monday it's a girl so that makes it even more real somehow. I am now 14 1/2 weeks and am due Jan 11.
We live in Southern California and our kids go to a Waldorf school which has been wonderful for our family due to support and the strong community.
We have a kitty, had our first crop of heirloom tomatoes this year in our first ever attempt at biodynamic organic gardening. We love to go camping and spend as much time outdoors as possible.
With my son, I had an emergency c after a 30 hour labor then complications from that. I determined to have a VBAC w my daughter which I did! It was an incredible experience. Going for another VBAC with daughter #2.
We cloth diaper and I am a big diapering geek as well as being into woven wraps. Love to talk about that!
I consider us to be lightly crunchy. I try to be open minded to how others see things.
Excited to be here and happy for all of us 👏❤