Hi lovely ladies :)
I just have a brief question and call for info or examples or advice.
My childrens father and I are just at the beginning of the court process though we have been split for nearly a year and a half. We have three children, two together one is his. Our youngest is 31 months old and still nursing. The schedule we have been doing since January had her staying two overnights a week at his house. I would go down to his house to nurse her once in the morning and once in the evening but that is no longer feasible as he has been cornering me in his home and making me feel unsafe and insisiting on talking about really innapropriate things and arguing in front of the kids. So on my lawyers advice I told him she would not be going overnight until our daughter is weaned.
Today I got his reply and affidavit to the courts stating that as our daughter is healthy, eats lots of solids and drinks milk from a cup there is no need for her to be nursing. So we go to court next week and I am just afraid of getting a judge that is all about mens equality and against extended nursing. My daughter needs it so much, more than anything emotionally for the connection with me as she is in daycare and these extra overnights have been hard on her. She turbo nurses and is super high anxiety when she comes home from his house. Like she literally nurses all night and if I roll over or try to get up to pee she clings to me. I had been trying out this schedule to placate him and try to keep things out of court but it just was not working.
Anyhow, my question is... anybody have any legal precedent with this? Or facts, like good scientific stuff to give my lawyer on the benefits of nursing toddlers? It would be so bad for her if I was forced to wean her. I know the WHO recommends 2 years min breastfeeding and the world average is four years old but is there anything else I can use?
He wants 50% of the time with all the kids and he is so unstable and a really scary person. And so manipulative, I am pretty afraid of him pulling the wool over a judges eyes. He is good at playing the poor caring father that just wants time with his beloved children.
Thanks for any input,