I know several moms here ended up having unplanned c-sections. Two babies ago, I also had a c-section that was not planned. It was a result of induction-gone-wrong. The whole experience was traumatic and I struggled for a few months with feelings of disappointment and failure and frustration. I did get over it for the most part, but it was hard for awhile.
I got involved with ICAN (International Cesarean Awareness Network) and they helped me prepare for a vaginal birth (VBAC). I've since had 2 VBAC's and I'm still very involved in the ICAN group, some times helping out as a leader.
While I don't think my struggle with my c/s was *that* extreme, there are many moms who come through the group that have serious emotional and spiritual problems as a result of their c-section.
I just want to offer some encouragement in case any of you are having a hard time processing your birth and c-section. If you have another baby someday, you CAN have a wonderful vaginal birth. Having one or two c/s's does not doom you to another. Many moms find their VBAC's to be empowering and healing. I highly recommend checking out ICAN to see if you have a group in your area. You don't have ot be pregnant to attend, and most of the women who go there have had c-sections and know exactly how you feel. They won;t say things like, "Well, at least you have a healthy baby. That's all that matters!" or "What's the big deal? Women have c-sections all the time."
Congrats on your new babies and remember to be gentle with yourselves during this time of recovery!
If anyone needs to talk or vent or sort out their feelings, feel free to PM me. I'd happy to listen!
Edited by cagnew - 5/4/13 at 5:53pm