Hello everyone. I'm new to Mothering.com and to this thread. I really need support. I'm 32 and 16w pregnant with my first child (so excited.) I wish I could focus on the miracle of it and enjoy my pregnancy but I'm worried so much about my weight. I was a size 12 before I got pregnant (but currently wearing my size 14 jeans with a belly band) and pretty active (running 10ks and training for a half marathon until morning sickness knocked me off my feet.) I've gained 10lbs so far and I'm freaking out. My doctor has not mentioned my weight at all and has not told me how much I should I gain but I've read that if you're overweight you should gain less. Even though I didn't exercise much during the 1st trimester, I've gotten back into it. I can only do a walk/jog combination now because I'm just so tired! I also do yoga. I've only been exercising about 3 times a week but I thought, it's better than not doing anything at all.
A few years ago I lost about 50lbs (Weight Watchers and exercise) and have been able to keep it off. I had an unhealthy relationship with food (emotional eating, overeating.) I guess I'm scared to lose control again and just eat anything and everything in sight. I haven't done that but I have been eating things that I normally would only eat every once in a while. I've tried really hard to choose healthy foods but my DH loves to go out to eat so it's harder to control portions and to NOT get things I'm craving like french fries. Also, I'm really hungry! I eat at least every 2 hours. I try to eat small meals but if I wait too long to eat I feel sick.
So, needless to say I am self conscious about my weight right now. To make matters worse, a co-worker yesterday (whom I actually really like) walked past me and said "you're getting fat" and laughed. She said it in front of another co-worker and we just looked at each other like "I can't believe she said that." A few minutes later she came to my office (where I was with the other co-worker) and she asked me if I was still exercising and I told her yes then she said "I guess the baby is healthy." I know I should just let it go but how can you say to a pregnant woman that "you're getting fat?!" To make matters worse, she's a dietician so I feel like she's judging me. She's also petite and a healthy weight. Anyway, I'm probably overreacting but it really hurt my feelings. My DH keeps telling me that I'm beautiful blah blah blah. I guess I just need support and want to know how everyone else handles comments like that. Is there anyway I can slow down my weight gain?!? I think I may go back to calorie counting but I'm not sure how many calories I need right now.
I just needed to get this off my chest, thanks for listening!