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Plus Size and Pregnant - Page 8post #141 of 24511/22/13 at 5:16amLilacvioletiris thank you! I will keep that in mind. I'm in metro detroit. Sadly right now I may be experiencing a miscarriage I woke up in the middle of the night to pee and have blood. I now have to wait to call my doctor to get in and get a ultrasound done to see if I have miscarried. I am very sad and worried now. I know there is a high possiblity at 6ish weeks.post #142 of 24511/22/13 at 7:49ampost #143 of 24511/22/13 at 2:06pmThank you! They did an ultrasound and for now the baby is okay. They think it was just spotting. So I'm happy and stress free now. Ima try my best to not over worry about the baby. Thank you for your concerns and hugs. I cried of happiness and got to hear the baby's heartbeat for the first time. It was so wonderful.post #144 of 24511/22/13 at 2:16pmpost #145 of 24511/22/13 at 2:51pmpost #146 of 24511/22/13 at 4:14pmpost #147 of 24511/23/13 at 11:24amThank you everyone. .... its tough being a first time mommy. .... my family doesn't know yet due to they are super religious and I am not married and I don't want them knowing until I'm about 12 weeks. So its tough because I don't have family to comfort me yet. Its hard to explain why I am acting the way I am wo them knowing yet. But I will do anything to keep stress out and have a healthy amd happy baby.post #148 of 24511/23/13 at 12:35pm
Journey fan that is a tough place to be. Do you have some local support that do know your pregnant but aren't associated with or know your family? When I had my unexplained bleeding and spoke with a couple close friends about it, I learned that both of them had experienced miscarriages. It is something people don't talk about much but happens often. I hope you can be in a state of good stress as you continue your pregnancy. So many things change hormonally that it can be quite the upheaval emotionally to be pregnant. I hope you find this thread and others on mdc encouraging as you get off on the best foot with your pregnancy.post #149 of 24511/23/13 at 3:01pmI have a few ladies at work that help out which is great. Just can't call them at 4 in the morning. .... lol.... yea my doc warned me about miscarriages at this stage. So that makes me stressed but I know your supposed to keep the stress down. Its great to have all you ladies talk to that can give me advice. .... its great to be on such a supportive site. Thank you all ladiespost #150 of 24511/25/13 at 1:24am
Journeyfan I am in a similar situation! Pregnant and unmarried afraid to tell anyone especially my family. I'm not even with the father, it was a brief 'thing' so I will be doing the single mom thing. This is my second child, I already have a 10yr old also. I'm 13 weeks and haven't told anyone at all yet. I was planning to tell them sooner but then overheard my mom talking to a friend saying 'if any of my daughters were pregnant right now I would cry' so now I'm even more nervous about telling them. I don't know how much longer I can keep it a secret as my stomach is growing. With Christmas time approaching I wonder if that is a good time, or bad time to reveal it... I don't want to ruin that time of year for anyone.
I'm drinking a lot of chocolate milk lately, it tastes really good to me and maybe doesn't have the calories of a food snack.post #151 of 24511/25/13 at 11:39amSnowydays I'm there with ya...... I am with the father but he is unemployed.... so its all on me right now.... I have been wondering if I should tell my family near xmas or not also..... I would only be 10 or 11ish weeks. ..... I debate telling them when I am farther or near xmas bc maybe family will be in a good mood. Not sure.........I dont know when a good time is. Have you tried telling your babies father to see if he will help you at all? He should still know or forsure het child support. .....post #152 of 24511/25/13 at 6:51pm
Journey, I know how you feel. The father and I are "friends" and see each other one to two times a week. He has made it clear that although he cares for me, I am not "the one" for him forever. It is ok, he is not the one I want to spend the rest of my life with either and I would not marry him if he asked me to. (But I am not happy with his decision to distance himself.) I know I will be pretty on my own with this one - I don't see him hanging out with me for the whole pregnancy. It is just not on his agenda. I come from a VERY religious family who will completely freak out. My sister and the people I am close to know who the dad is but are confused by my relationship with him. My mother and other family lives several states away. I am actually going to lie to them and tell them it is a donor baby and imply that I did AI. My sister did that 5 years ago so it is believable. (As long as my mother and my aunt believe it, I don't care who else does. Mainly I am trying to give my mother a chance to save face with her family and church.) I am 40 years old with three older kids (my youngest is 10) and have been a single mom for over 2 years. I have never made it a secret that I want another baby. My family thinks I am completely crazy for it and many may condemn me for having a baby now without being married but I love this little one and that is all that matters right now. Chin up, you are not alone. You are not the first to be in this position and certainly wont be the last.post #153 of 24511/26/13 at 2:14am
Journeyfan no the father will have zero involvement which is what we both want as we don't want to be in a relationship together. I'm glad I don't have to worry about any custody or visitation issues etc. I'm trying to keep peaceful about it and not be too scared, I keep thinking I have done this with one child already, so I can do it again. I know it will be hard though.
Bethania, will telling your family you did AI really go down any better with them than if you had an 'oops' moment with your boyfriend? I would imagine mine would be even more angry and upset due to AI clearly not being accidental, and planning a child while not married is completely unacceptable due to religious reasons as well as common sense not having the extra support of a partner there for you, they would think I was mad.post #154 of 24511/26/13 at 8:05pmI am sorry both of you are having issues too. I hope my family will just accept my child knowing he or she was a blessing from God. They know we want to get married but our lives are just a little backwards. Baby...home....marriage. .... lol I guess the exact opposite from what my family wants. I have always been the black sheep in my family anyway. ....my family has always been racist. I am white and have mostly dated out of my race mainly black. So we are having a interracial baby so that's another thing for them to pile up..... I am religious but not the way my family is.... I don't judge others..... I hope is that if everything goes well and I hit 12 ish weeks I am just going to tell my family and they can accept me n baby and if not then me and my bf n baby will be our own family. I just don't know honestly if my child will be accepted by them bc its out of marriage and a mixed baby. I guess time will only tell.
Bethania I think you should tell your family the truth but if you don't want to I understand. Its tough when we don't have open non judgemental families. We always want to be completely honest with our family but the way they act restricts us from doing so.
Snowydays I am happy that you n dad are on the same page. And you have already done this once you can do it again. I believe if you are a religious that if you believe in God he will always provide for you and your children. We all have this wonderful site to talk on to help each other out.post #155 of 24511/27/13 at 3:38am
snowydays, I hope whenever you decide to reveal your pregnancy, that your family can accept it for what it is.
bethania, I am sorry you feel you have to lie to your family about your baby - I wish that people could simply see babies as a blessing regardless of how the baby came into existence.
journey fan, it sounds like you have a good attitude that will do good for the new life you are growing.
AFM, babies still on the inside - 36 + 6 today. I really can't believe I made it this far with twins. My belly itches so bad. My maternity clothes are just barely covering my stomach. I haven't gained weight but my belly has gotten bigger and bigger this week. Family is coming in tonight - so glad there is another house they can all sleep in so they come to my house to play games, visit, and eat, then they can go back to another house to sleep or just leave so I can sleep. I will be adding 8 people to my house for the next few days.post #156 of 24511/27/13 at 12:13pm
Can I join?
I'm Jaime. I'm 37 and pregnant with my 3rd child, 4th counting my step son. I started this pregnancy far heavier than I've ever been. I am almost 27 wks at this point and it's a girl. I'm a nervous wreck this go round. I'm overweight, I'm working 50 hrs/wk, I'm exhausted and dealing with a truly crazy ex. My poor husband is my rock, but I know he is at his breaking point some days.
I had my 1hr GTT today. I'm scared I'm going to fail it. I had a HgbA1C of 5.7 at the beginning of the pregnancy. I did my own redneck version of the 3 hr test a week or so ago and after 120+gm carb load I had blood sugars of 165 at 1 hr, 121 at 2 hr, and 89 at 3 hrs. I'm hoping that that means I will be okay with this today, but I don't know. I do know that I don't want to risk out of a birth center birth. I had a horrible hospital experience with my first and just panic at the thought of having to go back there. I also want the birth center for financial reasons.
Anyway, I was thrilled to find this thread cause I always feel so awkward in threads with all the skinny girls who don't have the same worries.post #157 of 24511/27/13 at 3:13pmThank u lilacvioletiris..... I just stress now from spotting I did again. ..... I just can't wait and pray that the baby is healthy and will not miscarriage. ... that's all that is on my mind.
Welcome haydn's mommy. ..... this place is great. ... everyone is nice and we r not women worried that we look fat in a size 2. Lol.post #158 of 24511/27/13 at 5:49pm
Welcome Haydn'sMommy. I hope you pass your 1 hr glucose screen. I failed it and my 3 hour test, but although I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes, I was able to keep off insulin with diet and exercise and now I am 37 weeks tomorrow with twins. I go swimming 6 days a week for 30 minutes and do a 2-2-2-4-2-4-2 carb diet to keep myself from feeling hungry - morning is my biggest challenge because I wake up at 5 a.m. with my DH. I hope you don't have to deal with gestational diabetes.
journey fan, you were spotting again today? I hope you can get some rest of the next few days and hopefully your bleeding will cease.
AFM, Well, the doctor I saw today just went up a notch higher on the "I wouldn't mind her being present for the birth." She didn't even suggest doing a cervical check today. She prefaced her comments with "I know you are trying to have these babies natural so we won't even worry about taking about induction, unless you want to." Yeah. I was afraid she would push it this week since I am 37 weeks tomorrow. She even said that my pregnancy has been for a former IVF client, "boringly normal". Yeah, that is a good thing! My mom and 2 of my 3 sisters and a brother in law will be here tomorrow and still more on Friday. I will have fun with my family. My mom is all pumped for me to start labor and tell the whole world. I need to get her a little bit more calmed down since I don't intend to tell people until the babies are breathing air. We will see what happens.post #159 of 24511/28/13 at 1:40am
lilac so excited for you, your babies are early here and it's great you have made it so far along with twins! Maybe they will be born while your family is still visiting so they can help out a little bit.
journeyfan I hope the bleeding stops soon, I am almost 14 weeks now and still very anxious about something going wrong, I'm hoping if I reach 16 weeks I might relax a little bit more.
welcome haydn's mom!
I'm still struggling with the nausea during the mornings especially and again later in the day, it sucks! Milk seems to be the only thing that helps it. I felt really sick at work yesterday I had to do the deep breathing exercises to help stop it, that was after midday! It seems to be on and off all day. I'm trying not to get any medication for it and just hope it stops soon.
With regards to telling the family, I am wondering if I can hide my bump until 20 weeks, I might hold off telling them until I have the scan at that point so I can tell them the baby's sex at the same time I tell them I'm pregnant, maybe that will help.post #160 of 24511/28/13 at 3:03am
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