Queer parents - Page 2
Put me down under parenting a little child. My daughter just turned 4. We also just started trying for a second child.
QOTD - we have a good mess of critters around our house. A border collie/springer spaniel dog, 1 cat, 1 rabbit, 2 chickens, and 24 or so Tilapia. The tilapia are being raised for food, not pets, but it's taking them way longer to get big enough than we expected.
Self-serving question, how long does night yelling last, as a developmental thing? Our smallest, who just turned 1, has been yelling "Ball! Ball! BALL!" In his sleep many times every night for the past week (I'm pretty sure he's saying ball and not calling for me). It's waking us all up. I don't remember the other kids doing that. They're all sleep talkers now but I have more memories of them practicing physical skills at night. Oh, this kid is totally throwing me for a loop, but does anyone have experience with a baby biting one mom while nursing but not the other?
QOTD: What do you do for fun? Individually and as a family. Games, sports, hobbies?
heart-n-bones: do tell more about your tilapia set-up! My partner's dream is to do aquaponic farming in our basement. I keep reminding her that we have to clean the basement first.
QOTD: My partner and I each have our own creative activity (and "sacred time" during the week). My passion is contact improvisation & I have a weekly jam on Sunday afternoons that is my lifeline. DP does African drumming and she gets Wednesday nights for practice with her drumming group. They are starting to get regular gigs, so that is fun for all of us!
The tilapia are in an aquaponic system. It was on the front porch, but we moved them inside for the winter. It's actually a rain barrel cut into 2 pieces. 2/3 is the fish tank, 1/3 is the grow bed. It sits next to our very sunny front window. It's really too cold for the fish to grow. So they've been holding steady at about 2 inches for months now. We're hoping once the nighttime temps stay above mid 50's we can move them back outside and they'll start growing. CI Mama tell you're partner that depending on the type of fish you want to raise, the basement might not work. Tilapia, for instance, are tropical fish and really need a temp above the 70's, which can be challenging in a basement. And, you also need a source of light for the plants - to make the whole aquaponics system work.
QOTD - I do triathlons for fun. I just did my first Ironman in March. Taking a little break from triathlon now to try having another baby. But I'll be itching to do another one once baby making is done.
Hi all ...
Not sure that I can keep up with another thread when I can't seem to keep up with the other one. We had it separate before, right? Ah well, I'll give it a try.
We have two children; a 4yo and an 19 month old.
QOTD #1: We're outside every blessed day! Either at the park or playground or beach. Love this spring weather! We only come home for the little one's nap time, and then we go out again. I think we'll go camping before the month is out. I've been biking everywhere with the kids in the trailer. And walking in our very walkable neighbourhood with the kids on their bikes. E rides her run bike or scooter, and I 'steer' (or attempt to) the baby on his tricycle. He is a LARGE and very physically adept child!
QOTD #2: We have a very agreeable cat, and an even more agreeable dog. The cat came first, before the kids. We had two big geriatric dogs when E was born, but they died by the time she was 5 months old or so. We got a cockapoo puppy when E was eight months old. They are best friends. The dog pines when E isn't home, and they are attached at the hip when she is home. The cat has fallen in love with H and follows him around and sleeps with him during nap time. H loves being the one to let the cat in and out. That's probably why the cat loves him best.
QOTD #3: Neither of our kids have been night screamers. Not so far, anyway.
QOTD #4: Travel! Camping! Outdoor festivals! More travel!
Depends on the weather. If it's not raining we get outside as much as possible. Parks, beaches, playgrounds....and lately our new yard! DP and I used to play ball hockey with a group of 4 friends most weekends in the spring and summer but one couple bought a cabin and we don't play anymore. We love having people over for dinner or just to visit. Markets and live music. We all love swimming and camping so try and do that lots too.
Sorry to back up a little, but do you sage queer parents have any tips for getting your pets used to a new baby? We have a cat who is 13 and he isn't aggressive, he's not too bright sometimes, but he needs lots of attention at certain times. He will cry and cry when he wants love.
We had a really affectionate 12 year old cat when DD was born. She was like a dog in that she loved to be with people ALL the time, loved to be carried around, etc. She wasn't aggressive at all either. She did fine with the baby....lots of room for cuddles with kitty and baby at the same time or we'd take turns :)
DP and I got a puppy back in December. She's a Lhasa Apso Poodle mix (and amazing) but hasn't really bonded with any of the kids... though I suppose she prefers my daughter to either of the boys. She really just likes me and my partner and seems much happier when she gets time with either of us, alone. She's fine with the kids.. she just ignores them mostly. I'm sad that it's like that.. my last dog was amazing with my children and I have such great memories of growing up with my family dogs but the kids don't seem super bothered by it.
Our toddler and my mom's dog adore each other. Their introduction was a non-event. The dog is gentle and puts up with baby-lovin'.
Wishin' shall we presume by your silence that you have a new baby? I hope so.
As far as games and hobbies, peek a boo, forts and bike riding are huge around here. The park, museums and grandna's house are popular destinations. Crafting and drawing are hobbies for a few of us. DP and the big kids obsessively play a card game.
Nope, no baby...just prodromal labor hell (which is SO unfair, I had 2 weeks of prodromal labor with DS and having to go through this again--albeit as the NGP--seems just cruel). DW is headed to an induction massage this morning and we're hoping that helps regulate and get things going. Because it may be a positional issue on the part of the baby DW did lots of pelvic tilt/inversion stuff last night and baby was moving in all sorts of uncomfortable ways in response. Hopefully, the movement the baby did was into a better position.
As for pets and intros...we have two cats but had a dog (a dog who was great with babies/toddlers but aggressive towards adult visitors to the home--we re-homed him a few months ago). We had a strict baby and dog will not be unsupervised together policy and did lots of gradual intros...letting dog sniff a swaddle blanket etc. We also made sure to assert baby dominance over dog--dog was not allowed on couch if baby was on couch etc. It went well and the cats, well our girl cat ignored him and we didn't have the boy cat yet.
Hey guys - our fam entered this contest if you have time to 'like' it :) I don't know if it matters to how they choose, but appreciate you checking it out anyways. It is a rare family pic where everyone is looking at the camera :) http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1382508/let-mothering-and-boba-pamper-you-this-mothers-day/20
(we are #36 a bit down the page)
and QOTD - mother's day traditions.
A great friend of ours always manages to make something with our kids without us seeing it - a card or treat of some kind. It is a beautiful thing she does each year. They hide it and we are told where to find it on mothers' day - it is such a sweet gift.
Other than that its a normal day here. We don't have any traditions. Maybe when the kids are older :) I wouldn't mind a breakfast in bed or something. Or a sleep in.
I voted for you, onemommy!
I promise cake and champagne for everyone if we win!
Virtually cake and champagne, that is.
It's been such a long time since I've been around these parts of the interwebs (I have a glorious three hours to myself this morning and I need to use most of it to clean the house which WILL get done...right?). I hope maybe I can squeeze in a little bit more time to chat. Hello to all the new and old folks on this thread.
DW and I have 3 kids. 1 toddler and 2 teens.
QOTD #1 - I hope to have more time to relax in May. This week, I got to read a magazine on my couch for 30 uninterrupted minutes. I don't remember the last time I sat with a paper reading product. It was awesome! We also bought a canoe (DW's parents gave us money for Christmas that came with the stipulation to be frivolous) and we'd love to get in more paddling time.
QOTD #2 - Fun? Well, whether it's fun or not, we try to make it fun? I love photography and yoga and anything outdoorsy like hiking or canoeing. I've been doing lots of travel for work with also involves lots of dinners and events so that's been a LOT of fun. With the kids, we kind of do whatever floats their boats. Often it's usually 4 of the 5 of us doing something because it's really difficult to wrangle two teens at the same time.
QOTD #3 and #4 - Ooops. I don't know where they are!