Queer parents - Page 16
Hi Mandarie--welcome! I hope we'll see you over in Queer Conceptions, too!
I have a quick question--when and how did you transition your kids into their own non-crib bed? E is in a minicrib (all her room can really accommodate) and it's getting a little tight. But she's only 16 months old, so it feels a little soon to let her have free run of the place after dark. DP does not want to just put her on a mattress on the floor (she's afraid of imaginary bugs) so we'd need to get a toddler bed (or something). She doesn't try to climb out of her crib yet, so it's not pressing, but she does end up against the walls of her crib every night and we just think she could use some more space. Any tips?
Isa--we transitioned DS1 to a toddler bed with a rail (from Ikea) at 21 months--the rail goes about 1/2 way down the side of the bed. We made sure the room was safe and put a baby gate up in the doorway. We kept our bedtime routine exactly the same but since he was dropping his nap at that point (yes, cry for us) he was so dang exhausted at bedtime that he didn't wander. Now (age 3) he sleeps in a twin bed in his room (it was SUPPOSED to be the parental desperation move bed option...and he was supposed to stay in the toddler bed...but apparently he got wind that the mattress on the big bed was better). Moving him into a bed is on the list of the few things in parenting that were easier than we thought they'd be (other things have been harder!).
Isa.. when we had foster kids we had a mini crib set up and often DP nanny kid napped in it and slept over night a few times in it.. he was 2 and big.. i think they learn and usually take comfort in the small space.. if she seems happy in there and is not climbing out.. I suggest letting her be.. 16 mo in a bed is early... our ped suggests cribs as long as you possibly can.. that being said are u sure a bigger crib wont fit? we have a small room and fit 3 full cribs.. the ikea crib is pretty small.. we have graco laurens ( found at target and such) and they fit snug but they do fit :)
Esenbee.. glad you are home and adjusting to life with 2 tiny beings...your boys are cute!
Bigfoot.. love all your photos.. those boys are to cute as well...
Hello to everyone else....
We are 6.5 months old..and eating food, rolling over and generally happy boys.. August and Finn sleep 7-7 ( sometimes wake up for a pacifier fix) but no eating between 7-7 :) wohoo.. Gage on the other hand sleeps 7-12:30 and then up again at 4 am.. then ends up in bed with us.. hes def not ready to be out of our room or not eat at night..
weights as of today.. August is 15.8 and is 26.5 inches long..... Gage is 13 pounds 3 oz and 25.5 inches long.. And Finn who was the smallest at birth is now the biggest at 16 pounds and shortest at 25 inches...
starting next week I am going to be adding a baby to our days 2-3x a week 8 hrs a day.. its a way to add a little income.. and the baby is 4 months old.. seems to be an easyvhappy baby... hoping im not crazy LOL
Now here are some photos of my little men!!
Bigfoot--oh they are so precious! I can't believe how small they are, too! Hard to remember, already!
thanks everyone else for weighing in! I think we're going to see how long it takes before she tries to make an escape...
I have quite a time with getting them to sleep in the past week... but a few days ago we found what has seemed to work. We discovered it during the day, so tried it during the night. The only way they sleep and stay asleep for naps or between nighttime feedings is unswaddled and on their bellies. Should they only be sleeping on their backs???
Esenbee, as long as they're on a firm surface without anything around their faces (blankets, pillows, toys, etc) they'll most likely be fine. Keep up the breastfeeding, you're doing a PHENOMENAL JOB!!!!!!!!! As for post feeds, since they're still quite small, can you tuck both of them into a wrap and then you can at least have your hands free while they snooze? I missed the whole section about why they're on fortifiers (I'm assuming it's for growth?), but if you are able to keep them skin to skin with you as much as possible and nurse on demand, they'll catch up plenty quick (this comes from oodles of research that was done in countries without NICUs, where prems are kept skin to skin 24/7 and often finger fed expressed milk or breastfed and they do extremely well!!).
I cared for 2 tiny twin girls last night and tucked them into a next together for some sisterly bonding time (they can't be co-bedded due to CPAP, twins tend to pull it off the other's face) and enjoyed just watching them try to suck on each other's heads/elbows in the face/holding hands/touching each other/etc, ugh twins are just the SWEETEST!!!! The girls are 34 weeks corrected now and just tiny (1800g a piece). I find swaddling them tight (and keeping the blanket under their shoulders up quite high, above their ears) helps in making them less floppy as I'm moving them around, or using a thicker blanket (like a towel) will help stabilize their neck/core. They're now too big to put in my pocket (DARN!).
Seraf, after all your demos with sheets/fabric for wraps, I pilfered an adult flat sheet and used it as a sling for a big kid (uhh, 4 months old) who was NOT happy with being left by himself at 5am when CLEARLY it was play time!! He *loved* it and my co-workers all thought I was either completely insane or a genius, but it kept us from losing our minds at 5am (he's the loudest screamer I've ever heard in my life).