esenbee2, I second the urging to call your kiddo's doctor. Please.
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Esen: about breastfeeding - I don't know your specifics, but unless there were serious concerns with growth***, we just send kids home on breastmilk or formula and encouraged breastfeeding as much as possible and have the home care nurses (who follow up for 6 weeks) and their pediatricians follow up on weight gain. I'm sorry, it sounds like you got kinda crappy support in the NICU (which breaks my heart). What are they corrected now? They're over 40 weeks corrected aren't they? If you want to go rogue, breastfeed them as much as you feel comfortable doing, watch for their poopy/pee diapers. The transition from bottle feeding to more breastfeeding can be kind of rocky until the kids figure it out.
***usually the babies with growth issues are microprems or kids with lots of gut issues who have had part of their intestines removed due to necrotizing enterocolitis, which is an issue affecting prems almost exclusively.
about the apnea - Holy jesus, terrifying!!!! A healthy kid who chokes should not turn blue, they should be able to compensate quickly. The boys are old enough that their gag reflex protects their airway from milk (babies have very special throats that specifically protects them while breast/bottle feeding, and why we as adults can't drink anything comfortably lying flat on our backs). It's exceptionally common in prem babies learning to bottle feed, but I rarely see it breastfeeding because the milk flow is not as intense as with a bottle. I even had a term baby (who was a microprem) pull this yesterday because he has never learned to pace himself (breathe WHILE feeding, not just sucking until they go blue). This is worth getting checked out FOR SURE, and if it happens again go straight to the ER.
The yellow is interesting..... they don't look particularly yellow in the pictures, what's their ethnic background (I ask because if their skin undertones are yellow, then the yellow you were seeing was actually your baby turning white, and then they become cyanotic).
That being said, if it's a one off, there's no permanent damage done either and you are not a terrible parent!!!!!!! I'm an experienced prem feeder and it still makes my heart jump when one of them desaturates while feeding (and they're hooked up to monitors and I've got emergency equipment and all the staff support I could ask for if something were to go really sour).
I'm sure everything checked out normally, but very scary to have happen!! Big hugs to you guys!!!
They are 1/2 Filipino, so have yellow undertones. I wasn't concerned about the yellow part and knew it was him turning white before the blue. I did go in to see the pediatrician. He thinks it was related to reflux, as he had some spit up a little earlier the incident and when he was using the pacifier, he had two large, what sounded like, burps and then had gulping sounds. The pediatrician thinks that when I switched him to breastfeeding, and he took that first breath, he breathed in his spit up. It was an isolated event and seemed to have been fine afterwards. If there had been a second episode, I would have taken him in to be seen right away. He's still been doing okay, but I've been paranoid every time I feed him!
I'm attempting to jump back into posting on here. I enjoy being part of the MDC queer community, but I've been having a hard time keeping up.
Esenbee: I'm glad that your pediatrician was reassuring. I hope soon you feel less concerned when you feed them!
Cananny: What sweet little guys!
Wishin: It's interesting to hear how preschool changes the flow of your week. We've been talking about putting our son in 2 or 3 day a week preschool next year, but I'm not looking forward to how that will change the structure of our days. I'm super impressed that your little guy is sleeping at night so well!
Bigfoot: How are your adorable young people? How is your teenager?
Hi to everyone else!
AFM: I'm in a bit of denial about the fact that our son will be two in a month and that we'll have a second child in two months. Our son is suddenly talking in phrases and short sentences, and it is a lot of fun to hear more about what he is thinking.The pregnancy is still going smoothly, although my wife is definitely starting to feel big and somewhat uncomfortable. Our son's birth was long and challenging, and I'm more nervous about this birth than I had expected to be. Any suggestions on how to feel better about the safety of birth in general or home birth in particular?
Escher--as much as preschool presents its own challenges scheduling wise, we have found overall that it is something that our son very much enjoys, it gives him time to be 3 with a bunch of 3 and 4 year olds, and it gives him a break from having to organize his life around his brother's schedule (or having me organize his life around his bro's schedule). The major issue is the 2 days of the week when the baby's naps are messed up from having to take/pick up big bro from preschool. We finally buckled on that one and got our first bucket car seat ever--the hope is that when the baby falls asleep during the 15 minute drive we have on Friday, I can take him into the house without him waking...which would mean he could get his standard 45 minute nap rather than a 10 minute nap. We've been soooo anti-bucket, but between the need for naps and pending winter (and a detached garage) we decided that it made sense.
Wishin: How is the bucket seat working? I'm anti bucket seat in general too, but I think that a situation like yours is exactly when they are useful.
Any favorite second birthday present ideas? Our little guy is going to be 2 in less than a month!
Escher--ROCKING HORSES! That's my fave 2nd birthday present, if you don't already have one at your house. I'm planning a play kitchen for Christmas, and E will be almost 2--we have a bunch of awesome play food that she got for her first birthday, but she's only starting to notice it now, really, and we need a place to put it. Other than that, I think we're planning to ask for books for all of the next year's worth of holidays. I can't believe he's almost 2!
As for fave 2yo birthday presents, H is turning 2 on Wednesday and he's been very vocal about wanting a few things lately. We've been telling him that he might get them for his birthday, and he's pretty excited about it.
He's most excited about the backpack!
Max: Balance bikes seem neat! I wonder if 2 is old enough for one. I'll have to check it out!
Starling: Happy birthday to H! Our little guys have similar interests. Our son loves his little backpack, and he is also consistently excited about umbrellas and tools. What tools are you getting for H?
Isa: I hadn't considered a rocking horse. Thanks for the idea! I can't believe he is almost 2 either....
H has been riding his since about 18 months, but he's way big and very physically intuitive. H is ready for pedals at nearly 2 years old. He's also super skilled on the scooter (3 wheels). If we didn't have a bike for him already, we'd be getting him one for sure.
E wouldn't touch her run bike until she was about 3 years old, and likely won't be ready for pedals until next summer, when she'll be 5.5 or so.
So dependant on the kid!
About run bikes ... We did ot like the lovely wooden ones. They chipped and broke on impact, more than once.
We like the light-weight metal framed ones, a la Strider and such. We have random brand hand-me-down ones, but they've been great. Super tough and durable!