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post #481 of 577
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Thanks, granite, I really like my sleep.
post #482 of 577
Oh I have to check in more often! So many posts to catch up on! smile.gif

Those of you dealing with PPD, good for you for reaching out and getting help! I have bipolar disorder, and am really thankful I'm not having severe ppd, but it's the time of year I struggle a lot with mood swings and especially depression. I'm definitely dealing with having disturbing thoughts and anxieties about awful potential "worst nightmare" situations. But I have been practicing meditation and mindfulness and grounding techniques that have really helped.

About cosleeping while side-lying nursing: I never swaddled, but amadora is always right next to me so she didn't startle herself awake bc when she was that young and did starle, she was always against my body with my arm around her. Sort of swaddled by mama. As for pets, they were kicked out of our room at night until Amadora was strong enough to turn her head I'm case they were laying too close, just as a precaution in case of suffocation, but it also helped that by the time we let them in the room, we knew how they each react to her. Now our dog and cat sleep in bed with dw and dd and I. The dog sleeps down by dw's feet bc he gets touchy if he's startled awake sometimes. The cat is great, only sometimes I have to stop her from stepping on Amadora so she won't wake her up. Ama can pull her fur and she won't even react. The dog we have to be more careful about.

I got Amadora an amber teething necklace, and she is having fun experimenting with eating food a little bit. So far squash and avocado, but she isn't eating regularly yet.

Pets while cosleeping
post #483 of 577
Love it, Seraf! I missed yr instructional photos!
post #484 of 577
Hey just wanted to see if anyone has some ideas for names for parents to be called still trying to come up with ideas for have our baby to call us
post #485 of 577
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My kids have a mama and a baba.
post #486 of 577
Any tired and true tricks for a bad bad diaper rash caused.by excessive pooping from teething ? We've tried everything , every cream every oatmeal bath air time fungal cream cornstarch , Finn is so un happy his bum is raw and blistered ....
post #487 of 577

Sorry to crash but Cananny have you tried bag balm? I used to nanny back in the day and it was the only thing that worked for the little guy when he got blisters. We used to also let him go diaper free as much as possible to let it breathe. 

post #488 of 577
Hi, @new n young, welcome! We have a thread on parent name ideas here, which you may find helpful:

Sorry, @Cananny, I don't have any specific advice... But I can attest to bag balm as being great on my own chapped hands.

I'm jealous that your dog stays at the end of the bed, @CocoBird... Mine is more of a head-on-pillow type :P

We dropped by our midwifery clinic today to weigh Z, and though we didn't speak to a midwife at the time, she left a message later in the afternoon: Turns out Z isn't gaining weight fast enough. I still haven't talked with her so i don't know what the full story is, and am trying not to worry. He was 9 lbs 4 oz at birth, then went down to 9 lbs, and now at 12 days of age, is 9 lbs 2 oz.

Still, everything else has been going so well! And he seems fine, though he does have a noticeably tight frenulum... Despite this, breastfeeding hasn't been a problem at all. It's possible that he not getting as much milk as he should, I suppose. Sigh. I guess we'll find out tomorrow.
post #489 of 577
Annnnnd some pics, of our boy at 11 days old:

post #490 of 577
@granite having read a great deal about weight gain when I brought home a 4lb and 5 lb baby with serious breastfeeding challenges, that doesn't seem worrisome to me. Your midwife probably wants to make sure the bf-ing is going ok, see if your milk came in, make sure he's eating frequently enough and making enough wet diapers. But from my experience, it is worrisome if they don't gain their birth weight back by 2 or 3 weeks, and he certainly seems on track to do that. Do you feel like breast feeding is going ok? Are you monitoring his output, so to speak? He's a lovely baby. You did a fantastic job growing him!
post #491 of 577

So cute!  I love those newborn facial expressions!  I thought they expect them to be back at birth weight by 2 weeks too, so it sounds like you are very close.  I hope all is well.

post #492 of 577
W was 8lbs 7oz at birth, and 8lbs 6oz at two weeks, and there were no concerns about weight gain. I agree with m&m, they probably just want to be extra careful and check your diaper counts, etc. Love the pics!
post #493 of 577
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Sphinxy, that doesn't sound worries one to me, either. S was a 9 pounder and dropped to 8-4 the first week and then gained an average of a pound a week for the next 12 weeks before slowing to half a pound a week for a while to be a 27 pound one year old.
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they said in the hospital that losing up to 10% of their body weight was OK in the time before mom's milk comes in. more than that is worrisome. and then, of course, they gain it back as they get better at breastfeeding. keep us posted, granite. do you have access to a baby scale you could use on your own to assuage any concerns you have? we got a hand me down scale and it has been wonderful (for my anxiety) to see the boys gain their textbook number of ounces every week. 

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Thanks so much, all! I'm so glad to have you to talk me down from my anxiety...

I hadn't been writing down his nursing or "outputs", which made it harder to answer the midwife's questions... I mean, he nurses like all the time & goes through at least 10 diapers a day, half of which are poops, which seems totally healthy & normal. I started keeping track now, though, including which side I nurse on & for how long.

I heard back from the midwife & we're going in tomorrow for another weighing & an exam. She said they want to see at least 1/2 oz of gain a day at this age. The clinic is literally 3 blocks from my house, so I could bring him in daily for weighing... And I might!

A different midwife on the team told me a few days ago that sometimes babies who start out big & don't lose much to start with, just don't gain weight very easily at the beginning. I'm liking this theory right now!
post #496 of 577
I have a little piece of paper from back when E was born, with maniacally tiny writing recording all the friggin' weigh-ins, due to her 14% weight loss after birth and being so tiny to being with. Cue the onslaught of feeding/gaining struggles.
Epically long, tedious story made short, so long as you've got healthy output and baby is meeting milestones and isn't lethargic, then carry on, Mama!
You, my dear, are doing AWESOME! thumb.gif
post #497 of 577
Oh man, keeping those "diaries" were my life's work for the first 4 weeks. To this day, I keep an app on my phone so I know which twin nursed which side how long ago. (I switched to the app after the paper diaries) There's just too much to remember with the sleep deprivation. It's interesting that they didn't suggest you keep track of that, but they still asked you about it. You're a first time mom, you should get a lil more guidance and support. There are a lot of good templates online you can print or useas inspiration to design your own. I would say that weighing him every day might have an overall negative effect on your life, though. They have big days and slow days, they gain and lose through the day as they pee and poop. I think once a week would be plenty to tell you that he's moving in the right direction unless the midwife is really worried about him. Don't drive yourself crazy, just be aware of what's going on with him. How often and how long and what side he eats & how many diapers he produces are all important info. What you are describing sounds very much within the (wide) range of normal.
post #498 of 577
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post #499 of 577
I *did* notice the new avatar, starling&diesel! Congrats on getting this project off the ground, it's so exciting!

Ha, I'm glad I'm not the only one who has kept notes on a newborn's inputs/outputs...! And DP just said to me like a minute ago that there's got to be an app... Glad to know there is, @mrsandmrs; I'll go look shortly. Yes, it is weird that no one suggested tracking this data from the beginning... It certainly didn't occur to me to do it.

Of course, today turned into an incredible day of marathon nursing, with Z only taking a couple of 45 minute naps in the past 12 hours. Huh... Maybe he knows he's on a deadline to pack it on!

Thanks again, y'all... I'm feeling a lot more calm. I'm glad to know your kids have thrived, despite being smaller or losing more than Z did at the start! I think my midwives are just being conservative, which I'll do my best to appreciate.
post #500 of 577
@granite we've been using an app called First Year since the day W came home and we love it.
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