Queer parents - Page 25
Those of you dealing with PPD, good for you for reaching out and getting help! I have bipolar disorder, and am really thankful I'm not having severe ppd, but it's the time of year I struggle a lot with mood swings and especially depression. I'm definitely dealing with having disturbing thoughts and anxieties about awful potential "worst nightmare" situations. But I have been practicing meditation and mindfulness and grounding techniques that have really helped.
About cosleeping while side-lying nursing: I never swaddled, but amadora is always right next to me so she didn't startle herself awake bc when she was that young and did starle, she was always against my body with my arm around her. Sort of swaddled by mama. As for pets, they were kicked out of our room at night until Amadora was strong enough to turn her head I'm case they were laying too close, just as a precaution in case of suffocation, but it also helped that by the time we let them in the room, we knew how they each react to her. Now our dog and cat sleep in bed with dw and dd and I. The dog sleeps down by dw's feet bc he gets touchy if he's startled awake sometimes. The cat is great, only sometimes I have to stop her from stepping on Amadora so she won't wake her up. Ama can pull her fur and she won't even react. The dog we have to be more careful about.
I got Amadora an amber teething necklace, and she is having fun experimenting with eating food a little bit. So far squash and avocado, but she isn't eating regularly yet.
Pets while cosleeping
Sorry, @Cananny, I don't have any specific advice... But I can attest to bag balm as being great on my own chapped hands.
I'm jealous that your dog stays at the end of the bed, @CocoBird... Mine is more of a head-on-pillow type :P
We dropped by our midwifery clinic today to weigh Z, and though we didn't speak to a midwife at the time, she left a message later in the afternoon: Turns out Z isn't gaining weight fast enough. I still haven't talked with her so i don't know what the full story is, and am trying not to worry. He was 9 lbs 4 oz at birth, then went down to 9 lbs, and now at 12 days of age, is 9 lbs 2 oz.
Still, everything else has been going so well! And he seems fine, though he does have a noticeably tight frenulum... Despite this, breastfeeding hasn't been a problem at all. It's possible that he not getting as much milk as he should, I suppose. Sigh. I guess we'll find out tomorrow.
they said in the hospital that losing up to 10% of their body weight was OK in the time before mom's milk comes in. more than that is worrisome. and then, of course, they gain it back as they get better at breastfeeding. keep us posted, granite. do you have access to a baby scale you could use on your own to assuage any concerns you have? we got a hand me down scale and it has been wonderful (for my anxiety) to see the boys gain their textbook number of ounces every week.
I hadn't been writing down his nursing or "outputs", which made it harder to answer the midwife's questions... I mean, he nurses like all the time & goes through at least 10 diapers a day, half of which are poops, which seems totally healthy & normal. I started keeping track now, though, including which side I nurse on & for how long.
I heard back from the midwife & we're going in tomorrow for another weighing & an exam. She said they want to see at least 1/2 oz of gain a day at this age. The clinic is literally 3 blocks from my house, so I could bring him in daily for weighing... And I might!
A different midwife on the team told me a few days ago that sometimes babies who start out big & don't lose much to start with, just don't gain weight very easily at the beginning. I'm liking this theory right now!
I have a little piece of paper from back when E was born, with maniacally tiny writing recording all the friggin' weigh-ins, due to her 14% weight loss after birth and being so tiny to being with. Cue the onslaught of feeding/gaining struggles.
Epically long, tedious story made short, so long as you've got healthy output and baby is meeting milestones and isn't lethargic, then carry on, Mama!
You, my dear, are doing AWESOME!
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As you were, folks.
Ha, I'm glad I'm not the only one who has kept notes on a newborn's inputs/outputs...! And DP just said to me like a minute ago that there's got to be an app... Glad to know there is, @mrsandmrs; I'll go look shortly. Yes, it is weird that no one suggested tracking this data from the beginning... It certainly didn't occur to me to do it.
Of course, today turned into an incredible day of marathon nursing, with Z only taking a couple of 45 minute naps in the past 12 hours. Huh... Maybe he knows he's on a deadline to pack it on!
Thanks again, y'all... I'm feeling a lot more calm. I'm glad to know your kids have thrived, despite being smaller or losing more than Z did at the start! I think my midwives are just being conservative, which I'll do my best to appreciate.