I think much depends on whether people are Christian like you are, or "Christian" in the sense that it infuses even relationships.
This isn't necessarily a bad thing. DH's extended family is devoutly Christian, and many have entered ministries and become pastors. Even the most politically liberal uncle is a minister. I've stopped being surprised when family letters sudden;y pop "Bless Jesus and all his good works!" or whatever. Some family, every other words seems to be "praise the Lord." These are good people, too. People I really like having as family. And people I do not feel comfortable around musing on the metaphor of the Solstice and the rhythms of the Goddess nature of the divine.
Nope. As much as I think these folks are really great folks, I don't feel like I can let my hair down and be myself. I would love to talk Christianity with people the way that I did with dh's dad, a former pastor whose deep thoughts were welcoming and open to someone like me who loves to talk spirituality. But those kinds of Christians are unfortunately not most of the Christians I know.
As for homeschooling, I am beyond uncomfortable when a children's math book (given by a family member, of course) states, after explaining 3+3, that isn't God wonderful for creating this? Sigh.... I'm glad they groove on God's creation, but their wording seems more.... loaded with baggage, I guess. "God is great, and you should see it that way, too, or your children will have a mother that will burn in hell." (Actual statement made to my mother when she held us back from Sunday school when two of us were sick.) Or, being casually told by a 10th grader that one's father (once divorced) was going to hell (which my niece believed because she, too was Christian, but hadn't heard that bit.)
Yeah.... some people ruin things for the rest. I'll agree. I would rather find a group unrelated to religion at all. Then the fact that you are Christian, Jewish, Pagan, Muslim, Hindu, Atheist, is beside the point from the beginning, and if someone does speak (unintentionally or not) out of line, you can say "this is not the place, but thank you."**
ETA: Appropriateness moves both ways, and would totally understand C-hristians wanting a group of their own to let their hair down and exclaim "Praise Jesus!" without feeling like such statements are inappropriate, or to hear people like me groove endlessly on ancient mythological/spiritual nonsense.
Edited by SweetSilver - 8/3/13 at 10:48am