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Weekly Chat- May 6 - 12

post #1 of 31
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Here are a few of the posts from last weeks thread:

 

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I am so glad to hear I am not the only one going a little crazy.  38.5 weeks and the bouts of labor are no fun.  I never ever thought I would go much beyond 37 weeks.  At least most of the back spasms have stopped but the contractions come in bouts every day, and now multiple bouts in the same day.  My doula says this is normal for a 2nd and later pregnancy for some women.  Ugh!  What a waste of discomfort and pain if they are unproductive!  Last night they went from 930 pm until about 4 am.  I was able to sleep the first half, but at 1 am they got to be more intense although non-productive.  This afternoon I went for a nap at 5 and the abdominal contractions started again and continue.  I think this is the first day I have had them twice in the same 24 hour period.  I have also noticed that my indigestion/reflux had resolved on it's own about 2-3 weeks ago.  Yesterday, it came back with a vengeance and now every single time I eat, I get reflux of the burning variety.  Ugh.  Not much alleviates it either.

 

DH is being very helpful by trying to find ways to distract me.  We went on a short hike Saturday and today we went to a museum.  This is fun with our mothers that are from out of town.  

 

About the cervix TJ, yeah I hadn't checked mine either until about 2 days ago and it was super high.  It does vary a lot from woman to woman and pregnancy to pregnancy.  Mine was supper high and I checked again this morning and it was considerably lower, and I could touch it easily.  I am assuming this is progress, at least, i really hope so.

 

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Everyone else, I've read but I am not able to keep up!  Hope everyone is doing well with the countdown on!

 

AFM - Sander is such a joy!  I will write up his birth story soon, but I can just say that his birth was very different from DS's in many ways.  It was a surprise that he came when he did, and his birth was short and intense.  It was wonderful to have delivered him at home.  The past week has flown by and we are growing in love as a family.  DS1 loves his little brother and is so dotting on him, givng him lots of kisses, wanting to watch his diaper changes, asking where he is...  He has adjusted so much better than I could have hoped.  Nursing is going well, but nights have still been (as can be expected) tough, as Sander seems to be "awake" from about 11pm-4am and then sleeps all day.  Hopefully he'll make the switch and be on track with days and nights soon.  He is nursing well, and my milk came in very quickly, by the end of his 2nd day, as it had with DS.  He was born at 8lbs4oz and was back up to 8lbs2oz by day 5, so that's great.  Otherwise, just adjusting to having a newborn again.  I feel pretty good, but tired and my core feels weak.  DH is back at work tomorrow, DS will be in dayhome for the rest of May, so I will try to be better at keeping up with everyone!

 

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Jac - I'm sorry to hear that the prodromal labor is so bad for you.  I'm glad you are able to get some distractions, but it seems like you have had to deal with so much throughout this pregnancy!  Hoping it improves soon.

 

N - It is so lovely to read about your family with Sander.  It makes me really anticipate our new arrival and how life will change.  

 

AFM - Still no baby!  40 + 2 today.  In truth, I don't feel much more uncomfortable than I did two or three weeks ago.  I feel peaceful with letting him come when he will, except that we are now kind of on the "deadline" of 42 weeks.  I went to the midwife yesterday - BP was HIGH at 180/92.  No swelling, no protein.  Midwife has been doing reading and research and is comfortable keeping me with just hypertension for the time being, and checking me often.  I feel so blessed by that.  She did say that our appt on Thursday she will sweep my membranes, if I'm okay with that, and do a vaginal exam to see what's going on, if anything.  It will be the first one I've had this entire pregnancy!  I may look into castor oil or black & blue cohosh if it is coming to a hospital induction.  Baby is dropping a lot (everyone is commenting), and lots of strong BH.  Just no labor!

 

DD finally allowed me to drop her at her school today without tears, fears, and guilt.  She has really been struggling with that.  I hate it, but it is the best place for her with our current situation.  

 

I'm still working a bit - no point in staying at the house all day by myself!  I usually work until lunch, then  head home and nap and do chores and stuff.  The weather is finally gorgeous today, so I will try to take the dog on a nice long walk and trim the shrubs.

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Hey mamas! Babies are coming, it is so exciting!!!

 

Jaq - I hope you get some relief soon!

 

Pastor - sounds like you are at peace with things and dd is too, so good! That boy will be here before you know it!

 

n - so glad your birth went well and you were successful in delivering at home! How is your mom with it?

 

AFM - I woke in the middle of the night last night with nausea and contractions, which made for a crap night's sleep, but it all went away in the am. Every time I think something may be happening, I worry about work, so I am working very hard today to get things in a place at work where I won't worry if things start up again. I feel like I am inhibiting myself mentally with thoughts of work, so my goal is to eliminate that, today! When I told dh this morning that I think baby is coming soon, he got so excited, was all smiles. It was so sweet. It does feel like it could happen soon and my mw even said she thinks I'm next yesterday and she has 2 mamas due before me. We shall see...I don't want to get all hyped up about it, but I do want to be ready and that's my focus...think I am just about there.

post #4 of 31
Just popping in to say hi. Not feeling well today, tired and draggy. Trying to make it till 8pm and then will head to bed for the night.

No BH, contractions, etc. Cervix is still really high.

39+6 today. Really want this baby to be in my arms!
post #5 of 31
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N, Sounds like things are going well and you are doing exactly what you should be- loving on your sweet family! 

 

Jac, I'm sorry your prodromal labor is dragging on.  That's so exhausting!  I hope things will go quickly (but not too quickly) once they get started.

 

Pastor, I'm so glad you are feeling peaceful about baby coming when he needs to!  That always seems to be my biggest battle at this point-just finding peace in the right timing!  Hopefully things will gear up before you have anymore BP issues.

I'm glad your DD is adjusting ok to her new school. 

 

Sheryl, I'm sorry you are having such a rough go of it with sleep!   Maybe you will actually get MORE sleep when your baby arrives and your body calms down.  How fun that your DH is so excited.  I love watching DH in all this too.

 

TJ, Sorry you are feeling frustrated!  hug.gif  It's so hard to hang in there at the end!  Are you still working to keep you busy?

 

Still just trying to lay low and enjoy my girls this week.  Yesterday ended up busier than I wanted but somethings had to be done.  I needed help with the carseat install which was obviously pretty important.   We went to the children's museum today but ended up leaving and going to a friend's house after not too long because it was too crowded.  We have a picnic with our little "tribe"   for Thursday that I am really looking forward to.  I actually managed to doze a little bit this afternoon which was heavenly!  I think I am going to treat myself to some Chinese take-out tonight.  Mmmm.  7 days until this little guy arrives.  Yikes!  Still having a hard time convincing myself that it's really a baby in there!  Spending time with friends and their new little ones this morning makes me soo curious what he will be like!

post #6 of 31
Still here lurking! Seems like the only time I have to jump online is when I am in the bathroom with my smartphone...lol.
post #7 of 31
NStewart-congrats again on the birth of your little boy! Sounds like things are going good! Enjoy the baby cuddles!!

Jac-so sorry about the prodromal labor, I've never had it and I pray that I don't either this time. It can't be easy to have that. Hope that baby decides to come soon for you.

TJ- sorry your frustrated. Hope your baby comes soon too! The end is so hard for everyone. We all just wanna meet our babies!!

Cobabymaker- glad you are getting things done! So exciting that you'll meet your little one soon.

AFM- I had my appt today. I got to see the more experienced midwife and she measured me at 35cm today. Still a couple cm off (as I'm 37 weeks) but she said that baby is lying really low. Plus baby was anterior with her bum sticking out. And as she was palpating baby's bum, she said the baby doesn't feel small either, she has an average sized bum! So that made me feel better about measuring 32 cm last week. She also said that according to the other MW's notes for last week, baby was posterior, and that probably made for a lower measurement as well. So she didn't seem concerned at all! What a relief. No growth ultrasound either!
I'm officially full term at 37 weeks today, so that makes me happy! Hopefully baby will choose to come sooner rather than later! I feel like I'm finally ready. I put all my girl clothes in the dresser and they are ready to go!
I'd be okay waiting another week, as my Sister in law is my Doula and she is flying in from Ontario a week from today. I'd love to have her there instead of miss the birth! But at least she would be here to see the baby if she's born before 38 weeks. (I'm guessing it won't be though!) my son was born right at 38 weeks. So kind of hoping for the same this time around! We will see smile.gif
post #8 of 31
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Mama4life, that's great news!  I am so glad that everything is looking good.  That must feel like a weight lifted off your shoulders.

 

I woke this morning feeling like I am fighting a cold.  I spent the morning on the couch feeling crappy/heartburn/upset stomach.  I managed to doze a bit again this afternoon and am feeling a little better now.  Nausea has been back which is no fun at all.  All I want is toast which is too bad since we don't have any bread.  We are supposed to meet friends for a picnic tomorrow which I am hoping I will feel up to or at least take my mind off of things.  DD2 was really fitful today which was tough since I was not feeling well.  Whine Whine Whine.  Sorry.  Today was just sort of icky.  Looking forward to tomorrow and hoping for a better day!

 

On a more positive note a friend offered to let me use her co-sleeper.  I think I will have to wait a couple weeks since I'd have to climb down past it and I can't do that right after the c-section but I am excited to be able to give it a try!


Edited by CoBabyMaker - 5/8/13 at 8:10pm
post #9 of 31
Well I hope all the waiting mammas are doing well today. All this waiting is certainly difficult.

My prodromal labor has been low key these past 2 days when today I started again and I thought it might actually happen this time. I think this is the most frustrating part. After 6.5 hours of increasing pain and contractions, it slowed and stopped...and I fell asleep. I was exhausted. I didn't know what had happened until my doula called to check in on me and the phone woke me...sigh. I was nauseas this time, the pain was more intense and more regular, but only within a range, like 10-12 min contractions.

Midwife is starting to talk induction. Maternal fetal wants me induced by my edd which is in 1 week. Not sure how I feel about that, but because of the increase risk of still birth with my rheumatoid arthritis, I am not taking any chances. In fact I may ask to be induced 3 days before. I am not looking forward to the induction and it was not part of my plan. But at this point, I am so tired and getting worried. Too much history here to take the chance. I will have an ultrasound for growth on Friday, non stress test on Monday and another ultrasound on Tuesday. My only reassurance this week has been baby moving but I'm now concerned I made the wrong choice last week to stop all the monitoring (2 nonstress/week and an ultrasound each week in addition to the midwife appt). I will talk to my midwife tomorrow I think.

At least it's a relief to know that regardless of when I am actually induced, within a week I should be holding our long awaited son. What a ride this has been!
post #10 of 31

Hi everyone!

 

Bailey, I hear you on lurking!  I am good at reading but not having tons of time to actually respond to posts!

 

Jac, I hope that everything is ok with that baby boy of yours!  Yes, soon you'll be holding that sweet little one in your arms!  I hope it is soon, and on your time and you don't have to be induced!  Although with all the prep your body has been doing I bet it will go quickly either way!

 

Co, I'm sorry you are feeling crappy.  I hope you kick the cold quickly, not fun.  We have the co-sleeper set up in our room, but Sander hasn't slept in it much as of yet.  He likes to sleep on me or beside me in the bed, although I have had a little bit of luck with putting the bassinet in the cosleeper and getting him to sleep in there!  I think that in a few weeks or so it will be really handy though.  DS was in our bed until he was 10 months old, so I am hopeful that the cosleeper will give just that bit more room!  I hope it works well for you!

 

PM, sounds like you and DD are doing well.  I'm glad that your DD is getting settled.  40+2...any time now.

 

Mama, glad to hear that you got some re-assurance today!

 

AFM - Sander and I are doing pretty good.  He's eating and gaining well.  At his 9 day check yesterday (how is he already 9 days old??) he was up half a pound over his birth weight!  Sleep is so/so, just depends on the night.  Last night was not so good, Sander was up a lot over night but not to eat, and so baby blues hit me a bit hard today.  I'd planned to go and do some shopping with my birthday money to get something to wear for pictures on Saturday, but ended up crying for no reason and couldn't stop and feeling really down at around 11am.  So on my mom's good advice, I had a nap and slept with Sander on my chest (how can skin to skin with your newborn not help you feel better, right?) and didn't get a ton of sleep but at least some.  The sleep helped some.  Still didn't feel quite myself all day, for the first time since Sander was born.  I know that this will pass, and it's not that bad, really.  I just want to not feel like I want this first few weeks to pass because they are so special and go so quickly but at the same time the lack of sleep and trying to take care of yourself, your family and a new babe is hard.  I just hope for some good rest tonight as a good friend and her DS are supposed to come for lunch tomorrow and DS1 is home with me and Sander for the whole day tomorrow.  The weather is supposed to be beautiful, so some outside time will at least be good.  So on that note, bed time for me.

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Jac, I'm right with you on the prodromal labor. I have contractions all day, sometimes 2-3 min apart and requiring my attention and some vocalization, don't touch me and let it pass ... but I'm still here today at 39 weeks pregnant. The contractions started about 3 weeks ago.

I'm measuring 49cm now at 39 weeks and for the past week, during bh especially, I can see two baby bumps. I'm about 99% sure that we're having twins! Exciting and a bit nerve wracking at the same time! Lots of low pressure/pain today. I never thought I'd make it this far with all the contractions, but I'm also happy that I have. I love watching my belly move with all the kicks, and am enjoying all the time I can before life gets more stressful with two newborns!
post #12 of 31
Ignorant first time mama question- can I go into labor if I haven't lost my plug? I've been going to bed the past few nights thinking "maybe tonight will be it!" but tonight I realized that I still haven't had any "bloody show" or anything. Does that mean I won't go into labor?
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Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker View Post

TJ, Sorry you are feeling frustrated!  hug.gif   It's so hard to hang in there at the end!  Are you still working to keep you busy?

Yep, still working, but have cut back on my hours.
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Originally Posted by Mama4life14 View Post

AFM- I had my appt today. I got to see the more experienced midwife and she measured me at 35cm today. Still a couple cm off (as I'm 37 weeks) but she said that baby is lying really low. Plus baby was anterior with her bum sticking out. And as she was palpating baby's bum, she said the baby doesn't feel small either, she has an average sized bum! So that made me feel better about measuring 32 cm last week. She also said that according to the other MW's notes for last week, baby was posterior, and that probably made for a lower measurement as well. So she didn't seem concerned at all! What a relief. No growth ultrasound either!
I'm officially full term at 37 weeks today, so that makes me happy! Hopefully baby will choose to come sooner rather than later! I feel like I'm finally ready. I put all my girl clothes in the dresser and they are ready to go!
I'd be okay waiting another week, as my Sister in law is my Doula and she is flying in from Ontario a week from today. I'd love to have her there instead of miss the birth! But at least she would be here to see the baby if she's born before 38 weeks. (I'm guessing it won't be though!) my son was born right at 38 weeks. So kind of hoping for the same this time around! We will see smile.gif

What a great update! Sounds like you'll get an average sized babe!
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Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker View Post

On a more positive note a friend offered to let me use her co-sleeper.  I think I will have to wait a couple weeks since I'd have to climb down past it and I can't do that right after the c-section but I am excited to be able to give it a try!

How nice! I moved my nightstand out of the way so I was able to put the co-sleeper up at the top of the bed. Makes getting in and out so much easier. Can't wait until our babe is in it!
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I will have an ultrasound for growth on Friday, non stress test on Monday and another ultrasound on Tuesday. My only reassurance this week has been baby moving but I'm now concerned I made the wrong choice last week to stop all the monitoring (2 nonstress/week and an ultrasound each week in addition to the midwife appt).

Hope the ultrasound goes well tomorrow! Please let us know!
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AFM - Sander and I are doing pretty good.  He's eating and gaining well.  At his 9 day check yesterday (how is he already 9 days old??) he was up half a pound over his birth weight!  Sleep is so/so, just depends on the night.  Last night was not so good, Sander was up a lot over night but not to eat, and so baby blues hit me a bit hard today.  I'd planned to go and do some shopping with my birthday money to get something to wear for pictures on Saturday, but ended up crying for no reason and couldn't stop and feeling really down at around 11am.  So on my mom's good advice, I had a nap and slept with Sander on my chest (how can skin to skin with your newborn not help you feel better, right?) and didn't get a ton of sleep but at least some.  The sleep helped some.  Still didn't feel quite myself all day, for the first time since Sander was born.  I know that this will pass, and it's not that bad, really.  I just want to not feel like I want this first few weeks to pass because they are so special and go so quickly but at the same time the lack of sleep and trying to take care of yourself, your family and a new babe is hard.  I just hope for some good rest tonight as a good friend and her DS are supposed to come for lunch tomorrow and DS1 is home with me and Sander for the whole day tomorrow.  The weather is supposed to be beautiful, so some outside time will at least be good.  So on that note, bed time for me.

I hope you're feeling better! Have you been able to get a little more sleep?
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Originally Posted by Trisha Kalous View Post

I'm about 99% sure that we're having twins!

Whoa, really? It's so mind boggling for me to think about not knowing "for sure" if there were 2 babies in there or not! Have you had an ultrasound this pregnancy? Have you found 2 heartbeats?
post #13 of 31
TJ- when I went into labor, I started bleeding and didn't know I was in labor, when I went to the hospital, they told me I was in labor and then checked me and said I was 1 cm dilated, then I lost my mucous plug shortly after. And 17 hours later my son was born! Up until that day, I had no bloody show or mucous plug fall out!! So chances are it'll all happen at once for you!
post #14 of 31
TJ, mucous plug is typically lost when dilatation starts to happen. Sometimes it can drop in the toilet without your knowing, but sometimes it can be sticking around in there even when you're dilated to a 3-4, and sometimes it'll come out gradually in small pieces. Really there's a great variety!

For me, we did have a scan at 19 weeks which showed just one baby, but I'm pretty sure at that point that they were stacked on top of each other, which makes it really hard for the tech to see both. It's happened to others I know. Its hard for me to hear heart beats in my fetoscope sometimes, but my friend did find heartbeats in two opposite places yesterday. I'm more convinced though because of the size if my belly and amount and shape of baby I can palpate in there smile.gif
post #15 of 31
I guess posting was all i needed... Started losing my plug this morning!!! Freaked me out a little to see blood. Hopefully it means things are imminent!


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post #16 of 31

Congratulations TJ! Hope baby is on their way to you now...
 

post #17 of 31
Thread Starter 

Hooray TJ!  Hopefully you'll be holding your baby soon!

post #18 of 31
Yay TJ!!! Bet it'll be soon!
post #19 of 31

TJ - go girl!

 

Trisha - how exciting to really feel confident that its twins, I hope you've been preparing for that in terms of "stuff".

 

Not much going on here...work is keeping me busy, sleep is ok, tons of bh's, tired all the time, the littlest bit of mucus and just kind of waiting and hoping things will happen soon. I'm planning a Mother's Day dinner out full of labor-inducing foods. I am far too anxious for this to happen with still a week and a half to go till my EDD. I just feel ready. And I can't wait to be done with work!

post #20 of 31
Working a full day today, no contractions yet. Fingers crossed, hoping soon!
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