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Haven't tried. I was pretty exstatic this morning to find that I have cleavage! I hadn't worn an underwire bra in a while and the one I"m wearing today used to be a little big on me and now makes me look like I'm wearing a push-up bra! I was so excited about it I showed my boobs off to DH!

 

Me too! I keep getting a surprise when I look down and see cleavage! I've never had such a thing so it's such a novelty. It keeps giving my OH a surprise as well. My bras are too small, but I can't afford new ones which doesn't help.

post #42 of 92
The shoulder thing is why I kind of hated my Mei Tai. It's a great carrier but since my DS is a giant it was only comfortable for a short period of his life, then he got too heavy to wear with the narrower shoulder straps. I adore my Boba 3G (the Ergo was super comfy as well but too short in the body for DS). My plan is once I figure out how to wrap, just to leave the thing on most of the time and pop baby in and out smile.gif I have a friend who did that and it looked super comfy and easy.

And Serafina it's awesome that we will be wrap twins!! I love the colour of that one becuase it is to me a nice autumn set of colours perfect for a fall baby, and it will work for either a boy or a girl. I had been looking at a gorgeous teal green one but it was $100 more. And this one is already in Canada (the teal one was in the US) so it will get to me faster smile.gif I'd love to have gotten it for $50 but I figure $150 for a new wrap isn't bad... and I have some time to get it broken in before baby arrives.

splath - That wrap is beautiful! I looked at a similar one (or maybe it was the same one) but wanted a linen blend.

haurelia - How do you like your Girasol wrap? I heard mixed reviews, it seemed like people were loving the older Giras and not the newer ones. As a wrap newbie I was afraid to take a chance on them.

Serena - I'm so sorry for your loss greensad.gif Hugs to you and your family. My dad has asbestos in his lungs as well and it terrifies me.

nettlesoup - YEP.
post #43 of 92
Serena - On the babywearing note, you may find a semi-structured carrier will work for you. I have both lower back issues and shoulder issues from a car accident, and the Boba 3G worked really well for me. As a PP mentioned (sorry I forget who said it) the Boba and the Ergo are great for transferring a lot of the carry weight down on to your hips instead of on your shoulders and back. Both Bobas and Ergos claim they can be used with infants (I think the Ergo needs an insert?) but I've never tried it myself. We got our Boba when DS was... about 7 months I think.
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mamana and nettlesoup- My son is 2 years 8  months and I totally commiserate with you on the deterioration of behavior and losing my patience much more easily.  I will be home with him all summer (I work part-time at a college and am off in summers) so I really need to put some steps in place for myself when I feel myself running out of patience.  Yesterday we bought some flowers to plant in our garden and I had all these rosy visions of how fun it would be and he kept trampling on everything, drowning the poor little plants, and flinging dirt everywhere.  Finally, I had to stop and realize that of course he is doing those things- he is only 2 1/2!  So we called it quits on the garden and just played outside for a bit.  He had mostly dropped his naps but seems to be occasionally napping again, thank goodness!  Maybe because of being outside more and therefore more exhausted.  I feel guilty because I cannot enjoy this pregnancy as much as I did the first time around and then feel guilty for losing my patience with my little man.  Being a mom is hard work!!! 

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Serena - I am so sorry for your loss.

 

 

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Can anyone balance their tea mug on their belly yet? It's great having a portable table.

Not yet, but it makes a good ledge for resting hands that are holding a book orngtongue.gif

post #46 of 92

SuzieSmiles - he's gorgeous!

 

As far as the Moby goes, it wasn't as stretchy as I was expecting after hearing that that was everyone's complaint, though I can totally see how having it stretch at all will be uncomfortable or feel unsafe when the baby gets bigger.

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serena, May your dad rest in peace, and I hope you and yours are able to find comfort in happy memories of his life.  hug2.gif

 

LivingSky, I love my Gira. I bought it new in 2010, and find it very easy to use.  Grippy but easy to slide across itself for wrapping, and supportive even until late toddlerhood (used it camping with DS when he was 2.5).  I've used it for little babies (3 months) up 'til about 30lbs.  So soft, and I adore the colorway. I figure that trying a wrap is pretty painless...if it doesn't work for you, they're easy to resell and get most all of your money back (especially if it's barely used). I get intimidated reading on thebabywearer! All that lingo and people's strong opinions, etc. innocent.gif  I've tried lots of different wraps, and the ones I liked the best were cotton Didys and my Gira. I'd like to try a wool/wool blend over the winter, but doubt I'll have budget for one unless I scour for used deals. And inside the house, it's not a big deal...outside in the winter, I'll use my amauti. 

 

 

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chispita, I used our 12 year old cat as a practice model for baby carriers while pregnant as well. thumb.gif  She loved it, really.  But she's the kind of cat who enjoys being squashed and prefers to be carried around tightly in arms. 

post #48 of 92
Thanks livingsky I'll have a look on line. And look after your dad
post #49 of 92
All this talk of wraps made me realize that I have an amazing Girasol wrap that I've been wanting to sell since it is WAY too long for me. I've held on to it for years thinking ill cut it down in length to fit me but I can never get myself to do it. orngtongue.gif It is 15ft long and 25inchs wide. One side is mainly brown with the blue stripes faintly visible and then other is distinctly blue and brown striped. I love the colors and contrast between both the front and back side of the wrap when its on. I pulled it out 2 summers ago and quickly popped my 3year old in it. smile.gifhere is a pic

I can get more info and pics if anyone is interested smile.gif I would love to see it go to a great home!! Just pm me.
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I normally use a 16' long wrap!  :)

It was me about the ergo shifting weight down on your hips and away from your upper body and being so much easier to carry the weight that way.  Serena, you might want to give it a shot.

 

Happy Mother's Day, everyone!!!!

post #51 of 92
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SuzieSmiles - he's gorgeous!

 

As far as the Moby goes, it wasn't as stretchy as I was expecting after hearing that that was everyone's complaint, though I can totally see how having it stretch at all will be uncomfortable or feel unsafe when the baby gets bigger.

Thanks chispita - yours are gorgeous as well:)

 

We tried on a couple of wraps at a baby store that has some samples for people to try on. We wondered about the stretchy wraps, concerned they might not be sturdy enough  - although they only had a toy doll to use as a model, I'm sure it will be completely different feeling with an actual baby in there! While we were trying these on, we ran into a mama using a ring sling (carrying a 6 week old), she loved it, raved about it... I thought it looked really sturdy, etc... What's everyones thoughts on the ring slings?

 

haurelia - love the pics, so cute!!

 

Happy Mother's Day!!!

post #52 of 92
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So... I may have accidentally found out what we're having (girl or boy)... We had our 20 week scan on Wednesday and the tech gave us a strip of five pictures and only one was any kind of full-length shot because baby was not cooperating for picturesque pictures. She knew we weren't finding out but I think she included that frame on the sheet so we would have some sort of full shot. And I happened to be looking at it yesterday when I clued in to just what exactly I was looking at at the bottom of the torso. Some googling makes me think I'm right.

Not telling anyone but my husband and it's still a guess since I'm certainly no expert... But this is weird "knowing" when my every intention was to not know.
post #53 of 92
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We tried on a couple of wraps at a baby store that has some samples for people to try on. We wondered about the stretchy wraps, concerned they might not be sturdy enough  - although they only had a toy doll to use as a model, I'm sure it will be completely different feeling with an actual baby in there! While we were trying these on, we ran into a mama using a ring sling (carrying a 6 week old), she loved it, raved about it... I thought it looked really sturdy, etc... What's everyones thoughts on the ring slings?

I like my ring sling but since it only sits over one shoulder, it became uncomfortable to use once my DS got a bit heavier. I needed to support his weight on both shoulders. But, I didn't get my ring sling til DS was almost 5 months old IIRC, and he's a giant so by that time it was already getting uncomfortable. I'm definitely planning to use it much earlier with this babe! Quick and easy to throw on and pop baby into and a great position for nursing the babe too.
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LivingSky - thanks for your input on the ring sling, that definitely makes sense. It just seems like an easy way for a newbie to get used to baby wearing in the beginning (when they're still small - like you said). I found that the wraps seemed like such a chore to learn and all of the wrapping around and around when you have a delicate newborn to try to stuff in there is a little daunting... They were just soooooo long to me, but DH liked them, he didn't have to wrap it as much as I did... I really like the look of wraps and I'm sure they'd be more comfortable, especially for balancing the weight on both shoulders and I'd get the hang of it after some practice. I'll hopefully be able to get both options and maybe I'll try some other wraps that aren't quite as long as the wraps I tested so far.

post #55 of 92

the thing that confuses me about woven/ring slings (they are the same thing, aren't they?) is that i never see them as hand-me-downs. we have received 2 ergos and 2 moby wraps as hand-me-downs. i live in a very crunchy place, so i see a ton of people out and about with woven slings, but for some reason they seem like heirlooms that no one ever passes on. is that right? or am i just living in a weird bubble? 

post #56 of 92
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LivingSky - thanks for your input on the ring sling, that definitely makes sense. It just seems like an easy way for a newbie to get used to baby wearing in the beginning (when they're still small - like you said). I found that the wraps seemed like such a chore to learn and all of the wrapping around and around when you have a delicate newborn to try to stuff in there is a little daunting... They were just soooooo long to me, but DH liked them, he didn't have to wrap it as much as I did... I really like the look of wraps and I'm sure they'd be more comfortable, especially for balancing the weight on both shoulders and I'd get the hang of it after some practice. I'll hopefully be able to get both options and maybe I'll try some other wraps that aren't quite as long as the wraps I tested so far.

You really should give loooong wraps a try.  They are long so that you can do wrap cross carry holds which are great.  For a floppy newborn you will love that there's a piece of fabric going horizontally over baby's back, then the pieces that come down vertically over each of your shoulders fan out over baby's bottom to position their legs in their rightfully froggy ways, and when you get baby positioned just right, it feels great that it's so very very hands free.  After you've done it a few times it becomes second nature and so very fast to put the wrap on yourself and tied, and so fast to pop baby in and out. 


I hate hate hate ring slings. I hate a clunky piece of metal that can dig into my body, I hate having all the weight on one side, and I hate feeling like baby could tip out if I lean over, so I always have to use the opposite arm to hold him in place if I am bending for housework.  The wraps are so hands free I'm very lazy about anything that requires more work from me.

 

I have been using the word 'woven' to refer to the fabric weave, as opposed to 'knit' (stretchy) material.  Woven is less stretchy but does have stretch in the diagonal.

post #57 of 92
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Well it's been a bad week for me, my dad passed away yesterday after battling lung cancer caused by asbestosis for 5 and a half months. The exact length of my pregnancy. It was peaceful, me, my mum, brother and DB have been with him 24hrs a day since tues. I now have to help my mum and keep an eye on my bipolar brother.

Chispita- I love your cats. Awesome, made me smile

 



Serena,  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I know with my experience of losing my mother-in-law last month that grief takes on a whole new dimension during pregnancy and it seems to me that the grief of losing a parent is incomparable.  If it's worth anything to you, a bioenergetic therapist that I know stressed to me the importance of living and experiencing your grief and not trying to maintain a false sense of peacefulness just because you're pregnant because the tension that comes with holding back emotional release is more damaging than simply living and experiencing human emotions.  Sending you and your family lots of light and strength during this time.

post #58 of 92

Serafina33 - thanks for your description of the wraps, they do sound great, look great, etc. I'll give the longer wraps a try:) I have to admit that there's a small part of me that is scared to trust a soft piece of fabric wrapped and tied around your body to safely hold your baby, I fear that it will come undone or move and the baby will fall out or whatever (laugh at me, I'm probably the only one with this stupid fear). It's a beautiful thing to see them in use, both mama and baby always look so comfy and happy. As I said, I'm sure I'll get the hang of it, just seems so complicated and daunting as a newbie:) And, I'm definitely leaning towards buying both as I'm sure I can resell any that I don't like (or that don't work for DH - I've heard that we'll probably use different sizes or types as the baby will fit differently on us).

Question: do you prefer the woven/fabric weave to the knit/stretchy wraps? I just think I'd feel more confident with the less stretchy material...?

post #59 of 92
I wore a baby i nannied for. I used the sling around the house for quicker chores or errands, but wore him in a woven wrap for longer outings. For the wrap I just bought fabric at the fabric store and gathered the ends with a rubber band and then turned them inside out. There used to be a website about baby wearing that showed how to make a no sew wrap as well as having tons of info.
post #60 of 92
Thin and stretchy is great with a newborn and tight woven fabric is awesome for a heavy older baby! Just Try them and your fears about it coming undone abs dropping baby will be alleviated. That said I would feel paranoid with a shorter wrap that holds baby against you in fewer ways. I just love the secure wrap cross carry that supports and secures several times over so it's just taken care of (unless I'd do a handstand maybe).
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