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Lots of #3's in this DDC, anybody totally freaking out?

post #1 of 12
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Such highs and lows here!  Excited, fun, fun, fun and then holy crap.  What did we do?  Especially days like today where the girls aren't doing any thing close to listening and the 20 month old learned the word "NO!!" (except she says it "MO!!" and it's pretty cute and extremely annoying).  Plus, our car has room for three cars seats but it has a lift up seat to make more room and I don't think the middle car seat would be secure enough.  So we are looking into a van.  Grocery shopping is a huge task with just the two, I have no idea about what going out with three will be like.  And our girls, while mostly well behaved and very sweet, are two very intense personalities.  I just feel so overwhelmed.  Plus, we didn't get a ton of support or excitement from family about our second, I'm really just dreading telling everyone.  I have never totally lost all the weight in between kids so there are times I get really bummed about that.  Anyone else with me and my dark cloud?

post #2 of 12
It's #3 for us too, and as long as I keep drinking Peaceful Mama tea, I won't freak out orngtongue.gif

But yes, we're freaking out too. But also happy!!! My SILs have 3 and 5 kids, respectfully, so I know it can be done.
post #3 of 12

Yes!

 

Well, sometimes more than others. ;) I TOTALLY FREAKED OUT when I took my pregnancy test and called my BFF. She didn't answer, lol!

 

DH and I had decided to wait to have #3 (if we ever did), so we were NOT expecting this. I was SO afraid to tell him... When I did, all he could do was smile. I said "I'm so glad you're smiling!" He said, "What else would I do?" :D

 

So now we're excited, but there are a lot of logistical things to think through... We've decided to forgo getting a large car and will try to fit 3 car seats in the back of our 4runnner. We need to buy a new dining set (only seats 4 at the moment), and we need to get the older kids used to sharing a room before baby gets here.

 

I too am already having trouble shopping with my two! I think I'll just have to go on the weekends when DH is home so I don't have to take ALL THREE.

 

We're kind of dreading telling everyone too... We made such a big hoopla about waiting a while...we're Catholic and practice NFP, so I'm afraid the non-Catholic side of the family will be kinda smug about it... while that IS why we're pregnant, we didn't break ANY rules to avoid pregnancy... so keeping with the theology of NFP, it's obvious that God wanted us to have this baby whether we thought we were ready or not!! But really, everything will be fine.

 

Sorry about the religious rant! Once we get past that, I know all of our family will be excited about a new baby. :)
 

post #4 of 12

We made a big hoopla about being done. I kept being told, "that's what you said after the first one". My snarky response that I have yet to actually say aloud is, "yeah, and we got pregnant agai anyway. Would you rather we abort? No? Then STFU and roll with it". My actual response is just "uh-huh".

post #5 of 12
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reneekangaroo-what's this peaceful mama tea you speak of?!  I need it; now!  And, yes, we are just going to have to roll with those comments, too.

 

carriede-Yeah, we were on the fence, too, and even if we were to try again we were going to be spacing them farther apart.  Oh, well.  Best laid plans and all that...And, we are so close to some financial goals (a la Dave Ramsey) that we are thinking of staying the course and making our Jeep work.

 

I set up two appointments, a consultation with a free standing birthing center and an actual appointment (that's all they would do) with a highly recommended OB/GYN at the big hospital.  Two ends of the spectrum!  That will be in about 3 weeks so after those we will probably be telling people.  And we were thinking, we are dreading telling everyone but they're not us!  Their roles in our lives are to support us, wish us well or move on.  So, we are thinking of throwing a big bash.  Who knows, it would be fun but morning sickness kicked in yesterday so we'll see how motivated we are.

post #6 of 12
Verarae, this is only baby2 for us but I'm even having moments of freak out too. I didn't lose the baby weight either. It doesn't help that hubby is freaking out more, like how are you going to handle being so tired with both kids while I'm at work?? Ugh. I don't know but clearly it can be done!

My reassurance to you all fwiw, is that I was told by a friend that going from 1 to 2 kids was way harder than going from 2 to 3. Of course that doesn't reassure me at all right now!! Lol
post #7 of 12
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Originally Posted by verarae View Post

Excited, fun, fun, fun and then holy crap.  What did we do? 

This is me. This will be our second child (if it sticks--I'm cautious) and I am pretty thoroughly freaked out. It took me forever to feel like a functioning adult again after my daughter was born (she just turned two). I still have slept 8 hours in a row just a handful of times since she was born (though my body has adjusted). I have made a vow that I HAVE to prioritize things that feed ME before this next one is born, because who knows when I'll have time again. Writing (I'm a fiction writer), getting exercise, FINALLY putting together DD's baby book and printing photos of her...

 

I'm excited, but I feel like there's a hammer waiting to drop.

post #8 of 12

This is #4, but I remember freaking out about #3, and I'm a little freaked out this time too.  My mom had four kids! Am I really to this stage already?  How do I control everyone?  How do we go anywhere?  Is getting in the car going to take forever now? (Not like it doesn't already lol)  I'm actually most worried about the 2 year old.  He'll be 2.5 when the baby comes, and he's been our most spoiled baby. :)  I'm worried he won't handle not being the baby anymore very well.  I stay calm when I think about the kids we have now.  Everytime I had another one, I was so nervous, but then they come and just slip right in perfectly, and you wonder what you ever did without them.  My older kids are also getting more independent and helpful, and they love babies.  I'm sure they'll be great helpers.  I also have done this newborn thing a few times, so I'm feeling a lot more confident about that.  I think everything will turn out great.

post #9 of 12
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Originally Posted by verarae View Post

reneekangaroo-what's this peaceful mama tea you speak of?!  I need it; now!  And, yes, we are just going to have to roll with those comments, too.

 

It's by Earth Mama Angel Baby ~ Peaceful Mama Tea.

post #10 of 12

Ugh, baby weight. I still weighed what I weighed when I gave birth to my 10lb 43 weeker. I was huge. I'm still huge :( If this baby were planned I would have lost weight before TTC!

post #11 of 12
Same here Reneekangaroo. I thought I'd be like 50 pounds lighter by the time I got pregnant again. I weigh around 200 and I'm 5'4". I was 238 right before guving birth. Anyway I think I'll just eat as healthy as I can and walk daily and just see how my body responds. I kinda wish my belly didn't carry all my weight because people are going to mistake my fat for the baby bump at first lol. At least, that's my fear. But soon enough the curve of the baby belly will align with the curve of my fat and I'll officially look pregnant. ; )
post #12 of 12
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We're kind of dreading telling everyone too... We made such a big hoopla about waiting a while...we're Catholic and practice NFP, so I'm afraid the non-Catholic side of the family will be kinda smug about it... while that IS why we're pregnant, we didn't break ANY rules to avoid pregnancy... so keeping with the theology of NFP, it's obvious that God wanted us to have this baby whether we thought we were ready or not!! But really, everything will be fine.

 

Sorry about the religious rant! Once we get past that, I know all of our family will be excited about a new baby. :)
 

 

Just jokingly remind the non-Catholics that you ARE Catholic - and keeping with the theology of marital intimacy - a baby means all is good! ;)

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