Is it unreasonable to expect children to behave "well" at paid activities and classes? I'm having such a hard time finding suitable activities for dd.
To be clear, I'm talking about activities where at the very least you need to be able to hear and follow directions - like art, yoga, science projects, etc. and that are for elementary age kids without their parents.
We've tried several different places and the same issue comes up. There's always at least one kid who is so disruptive that dd comes out of class anywhere from annoyed to frustrated to seriously pissed off, depending on how bad it was that day. I've talked to the director/owner of two different places now. Both have rules in place about age limits and how many times you can interrupt before you have to leave for the day but they are never enforced. So we'll have a three year old sibling that shouldn't be in a class geared towards six to ten year olds running around disrupting things or some kids that are the appropriate age but just won't stop making noise, throwing things, etc.
When I pushed as to why there are rules but no one follows them, the first place got defensive and basically told me tough luck and the second said they agreed but couldn't figure out what to do about it? Ummm, maybe enforce the rules you put in place?
So, I'm really at a loss of what to do now. We homeschool so having some outside activities like this are pretty vital for us but I'm getting really angry that I'm paying money from my wicked tight budget when I'm not getting what I paid for and even more angry that my child is constantly upset and disappointed when she's done nothing wrong? I can't keep saying to her that maybe this next place will be better and get her hopes up when there seems to be little chance of that happening.
Sometimes I find other parents who are annoyed but no one to the point that they will say anything. So then I start thinking - It really can't be just me that thinks it's ridiculous for my child to be coming out of an art class that I just paid twenty bucks for without a project or even a half finished one because they couldn't complete it with all the disruptions?