Lately as my DS approaches his three year old birthday in a few months, and gets increasingly independent, I have been having to struggle against what seems to be an impulse to be overprotective. My own mother was very loving and "AP" with me, but also very overprotective and worried all the time, and it was so stifling. I swore I would not do that with my son. I did great for the first few years (when it was easier!), but now he is getting so independent. I am finding my natural impulse is to hold him back or yell at him to be careful, and I have to be very conscious not to do that, while at the same time striking the right balance by taking reasonable safety precautions!
For those of you whose instincts tend toward the overprotective side, I'm just curious how you manage those feelings, and strike the right balance between safety and fostering independence and confidence?