So who plans to find out sex and who plans to be surprised?
I've decided that the only way I would want to find out the gender ahead of time is if they detected twins at the 8 week u/s. I would definitely have to be prepared ahead of time if we were going to end up with 4 boys!
I plan to be surprised as well :) I was surprised with #1, then the doc at my 12 week ultrasound with my son could tell he was a boy and told me even though I has said I didn't want to know (I think he forgot what I said) but this time I'm going to make sure they don't tell me, unless I really need to know for some medical reason or something.
We didn't have any U/S with our first, our second was a difficult surprise and finding out the gender helped me accept the pregnancy and get excited. With this one, I'm tempted to find out just so we can concentrate our naming efforts toward one gender, not that U/S are always accurate. I also would like to be surprised again. I don't know. We'll see.
I am a VBAC mom, and the OB that backs up the midwives I plan to use will want to do a couple of U/S to check for accreta... so, I'll probably know at one of them. I figure, if it is a girl, I'll have another baby shower... but even if it is a boy, there is a lot of stuff I would like to get, as I gave away a lot of our baby stuff to friends in need :P
We didn't find out with our first, but I knew immediately he'd be a boy (without a doubt). I don't have the same sure feelings with this one. I think I'm kind of hoping for a girl, but the idea also overwhelms me a bit since I know what it's like to have a boy. We'd be happy either way for sure! I don't plan to find out -- it's the best surprise!
Nope, we won't find out. No ultrasounds unless medically indicated. (Though I am having one on Friday because something is 'off' to me.) I've found out twice, both times because of a huge bleed. (I have a tendency toward blood clots) With my 12th, we didn't find out until she was an hour old! ;)
I found out with my son, but we will not be having any ultrasounds unless medically indicated. Also - where I live, the ultrasound techs or doctors will NOT tell you the sex of the baby. You have to go to a separate "entertainment-style" ultrasound place (no trained techs, no doctors) and pay upwards of $200 for a THIRTY MINUTE OR MORE ultrasound. Which is great in theory, but pretty freaking scary altogether.
Just the thought of waiting until birth to find out the sex makes me feel panicky and unprepared. With my DD I had her first year's worth of clothing already purchased and sorted by month before she was born. I don't really see the point in waiting. I'm going to have an anatomy scan anyway, might as well find out the sex. With DD my doctor told me he was 90% sure it was a girl at the 12 week ultrasound. Maybe we'll find out that early again.