So who plans to find out sex and who plans to be surprised? - Page 2
This is our plan too. I would really love to have a surprise.
I just hope that my daughter will not mind too much, she would love a little sister and will likely want to know ahead of time. It was very important for her to find out last time, she was with me at the ultrasound and she crossed her arms and told the doctor that she needed to know if she was getting a little sister or a little brother (she was seven). I hope that now that she is older she may appreciate the idea of being surprised more. Well, we will see what happens.
We found out with our first, but I think I want the surprise this time. Plus, I know it will drive my family nuts if we don't find out and I kinda think that is great. But really I just want that surprise factor after I deliver! I already have a little girl and honestly don't care which we have this time! I have all my girl stuff already and my sister just had a boy 6 months ago and already offered me all of his stuff. So I feel we will be pretty prepared either way!
I thought I'd always want to be surprised, but with DS I had a hard time bonding after his birth (combo of Pitocin and difficult birth) and I wondered if knowing he was a boy would have helped pre-birth bonding. This time around, I am for sure finding out because having a girl is going to cost me a bunch more money to clothe it, vs if I can use some of DS's things!
For me, just being pregnant has been such a big surprise each time that I feel like I will burst if I wait. I still have to check at birth though, I don't really believe it until I see it. Having said that, DD2 didn't give it up until not too long before she was born. LOL Because all of my pregnancies have been "High Risk" I have to have regular scans and just pray that my babies will be ok. I also really can't deal with preparing without being able to know what I'm preparing for.
My little ones have had both boy & girl clothes, although DD2 showed a strong leaning towards all things girly (especially shoes) since she was about 9 months old & started showing preferences for clothing. The first time she picked out a little pair of shoes, they were a little red satin pair with bows, especially for her first birthday party. She was faced with a wall of hanging little shoes and totally focused on that pair, grabbed them and held onto them so tightly, we had to hand the baby over to the cashier to scan the shoes!
I really love the idea of being surprised. I wanted to with DD, but DH didn't, and then around 30 weeks I gave in and we peeked at the card from our doctor.
This time, I was sure I wanted to be surprised, but we are looking for houses, and may find out because if it's another girl that could affect how many bedrooms we need (because they could share long term).
I just got my results a few days ago (we had two losses last year and one was chromosomal so I really wanted this test in addition to the nuchal scan for peace of mind) and baby is negative for defects/abnormalities and is a girl.
We already have one of each but this still was exciting to find out.
The test extracts fetal DNA from the maternal blood ad is a great alternative that is non invasive to the amnio or cvs.
Actually, it can be performed any time after 10 weeks (the amount of DNA in your blood doesn't decrease or anything after 13 weeks). It's the nuchal translucency exam that has to happen by 13 week.
The test is also known as cell-free fetal dna. Because it's so new and is not considered the "gold standard" (like amnio is) because it's not diagnostic (not 100% accurate), most insurance won't cover it, but what we were told is that most labs will discount it so your out-of-pocket ends up being around $200 (or less). All this is based on what my doctor told me.
We thought about getting it because I'm over 35, but opted for the nuchal scan because it was covered by insurance. But it is crazy stuff! Here's an interesting article about the test and the history of prenatal testing: http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2012/12/ff-prenatal-testing/all/
OrchidZ, congratulations on your healthy baby girl!
I did both the same week. It does make sense if you would want to know early in a pregnancy about any defects/abnormalities to get it done around week 11 or so. Firstly the test takes 2 wks to process.
I personally wouldn't recommend doing it week 10. I did my first draw for it in week 10 (and 5 days to be exact). I was told sometimes in week 10 they can't get enough fetal DNA to process the test and that's what happened to me after a 2 wk wait for results. I did a redraw at week 12 and got results at week 14.
I believe mine was covered by insurance. My OB's office said pretty much everyone is opting for it since they began offering it bc it's non invasive and over 99% accurate.
It makes me so especially happy to see those of you here now after having experienced losses. I just wanted to say I am rooting for you (as of course we all are) and really looking forward to celebrating the first cuddle of those beautiful rainbow blessings with you. It makes me happy & tearful every time you share another "milestone" covered.
(Okay, I feel awkward now, and wondering if I'm being "emotional pregnant woman".....lol. It's just that I keep wanting to express this individually, and I am so far down the threads that I have too many to catch up on. I hope you get what I am trying to express. I won't go into details, but rainbow babies and their angel sisters and brothers are very dear to my heart.)
Blanca, thanks for that article! It was interesting. My OB told me that Materniti21 wasn't available for me... that I have to be over 35. Do you think he doesn't know what he's talking about? I decided not to do the quad screen, but I might have done the other because the results are so much more reliable! I still have to give my official decision on the quad so maybe I'll ask again about the materniti21 at my next appointment.
As far as sex though, we're planning on being surprised. I wanted to know last time, but DH talked me out of it. I went through my whole pregnancy thinking DS was a girl, heheh. But it was a fun surprise and in the end, I liked the idea of my baby not having any kind of identity before it was born. That sounds weird, but what I mean is that, I liked that the possibilities were endless for it. It could be anything. :)
Sono is on Wednesday August 7th. I do plan to find out the gender if I we can. Had two surprises in the past. Both of those were girls. I just knew. The first time, all girl dreams. The last birth, Before checking the for gender I yelled out, "I got you baby girl I GOT YOU!!!" as I reached in the water to pull her out. Instincts kicked in. I knew! It made the pregnancy awkward because there was no real confirmation. Hubby found out because he didn't want to be surprised.
I was suppose to get the quad screen this last Friday because I'm 35 and would like the reassurance this babe is healthy. The test is nearly $700!!!! INSANE! Insurance won't touch a claim until I meet the 3k deductible. Like that'll ever happen. Which, I'm sure, is what they bank on. So I had to cancel it because I just can't afford it.
The only one I'd be interested in having done is Materniti21. But I'm 32 not 35 so I guess I won't be able to have it done.
Blanca, thanks for sharing that article. It was very interesting and informative!
I had a dream about my son last night. He was in a tiger's pen crawling towards a pond and I had to go in and chase him to keep him from falling in and drowning.
My next appointment is Monday @14w2d. I will get another scan and get confirmation on gender then.