One of the stereotypes that you hear about pregnancy from the man’s view is that the pregnant woman will turn into an emotional wreck, crying, demanding things and in general being difficult to deal with. I realized this morning that this is happening to me and my husband. I used to be a very crabby wife, so much so that we joked about it, but after counseling, changing my diet and improving my health I am no longer depressed and a much happier person. In the last week, however, I’ve gotten into two fights with my husband and I can feel that old me coming back.
Clearly, I don’t want this and it’s not very nice for my husband either. I do feel that I had a point in both cases. (In one instance, I expected him home at 6 or 6:30 and he didn’t make it home until 9 p.m.—to top it off he didn’t tell me he wouldn’t be home until later until I HAD TO ASK what was going on, past when I expected him home. I wasn’t mad he was home late, I was mad he didn’t let me know what was going on.) But I know I didn’t go about expressing myself very well. I yelled, I wouldn’t let it go when I knew it would be better to take a break and talk about it later and I even hung up on him at one point.
I need to be more careful about not taking my emotions out on him, yes. But I also wish he could cut me some slack. I’m a little hard to deal with right now? Oh really? I can’t imagine why. I’m exhausted, having trouble sleeping, nauseous for weeks on end and I’m BUILDING HIM A BABY. If that’s not worth a little coddling, I don’t know what is.
Is anyone else noticing a difficulty with your emotions? I expected the crying, I will cry at the drop of a hat and my husband has been understanding about that. But the short temper has caught me, and I think him, by surprise.