I am a mother to three children ages 5 months, 1.5 and 3 and am having problems dealing with my mother in law. Both me and my husband work so she looks after both of them, while the oldest is at school. My mother in law does not listen to directions about anything. She has no goals for my kids and is stuck in her old ways. Everytime I go to the doctors, they tell me my kids are underweight by a lot. I've tried telling her to change her feeding habits, but shed rather just feed them milk because she doesn't want them crying. My oldest is ok because he is older, more obedient and spends more time with us, but my middle child only listens to the grandma and has quite a temper. My mother in law only spoils my kids and would allow them to do anything even if it is dangerous. I have had a few situations where my children accidently got hurt under her care. I have spoken to her about it on numerous occassions, but she just doesn't feel like she is doing anything wrong. I have thought of moving my mother in law out just so my youngest won't develop bad habits like my middle child. I know we need her help and she probably doesn't mean any harm, but I am started to get worried about my kids when I am at work. Any other solutions you guys can think of? Any help is appreciated!