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post #1 of 6
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Basically, we may be getting divorced. DH is military so the boys have tricare. What can I do to make sure he can't vaccinate or (more importantly) circumcise our boys without my consent? Does the fact that he's military matter?

post #2 of 6

I would have thought you having a written letter in each childs records saying you do not want these procedures/vaccination would be enough to prevent it.

post #3 of 6

I was going to suggest speaking directly with the doctors and putting it into writing that you do not consent to vaccines/circumcision.   Techinically, I think only one parent needs to consent for these things, but I would imagine that if another parent has formally stated that they are not okay with it, it would at least give the doctor pause and/or reason to contact you.   Of course, this would not prevent dad from taking the boys to another doctor if he is able under the insurance plan.

 

How old are your boys?  I believe that once a boy is over 1 year or age, the procedure would require general anesthesia, etc., so it's not something he could just run into the office and get done after a certain point.  (Nm, I see that your youngest is still little, so it would be a bit of a waiting game.)

 

I can't imagine why being military would make a difference, assuming you both have legal custody of the kids. 

post #4 of 6
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Thanks ladies

 

My boys are 2 months, 2 years and 4 years. With the military the boys never see the same dr, I worry the dr wouldn't even look at their charts.

 

Can I have full legal custody? I don't foresee my husband fighting me much I just don't want him to get mad at me in the future and do it to spite me.

post #5 of 6

You will lose any argument regarding vaccines should your stbx go to court over this issue.  So you will need to get the father's agreement on no vax.

 

As for the mgm (what circumcision really is), you have a better chance of winning this.  What is your stbx's opinion regarding this?  Because it really doesn't matter if a judge will side with you if it is already done. 

post #6 of 6
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Originally Posted by Goodmom2008 View Post

You will lose any argument regarding vaccines should your stbx go to court over this issue.  So you will need to get the father's agreement on no vax.

 

As for the mgm (what circumcision really is), you have a better chance of winning this.  What is your stbx's opinion regarding this?  Because it really doesn't matter if a judge will side with you if it is already done. 

I would compromise on the vaxing issue if necessary, I'm more worried about the mgm but I don't know if I should be or not. DH never argued about it and when he found out couples have horrible fights about it he said "What's the big deal if they are or aren't?" I am trying to be overly nice.

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