How do I get my 2.5 year old, A, to SLEEP MOAR without, you know, adding hours to the day? Here is our typical day, and perhaps I could get some advice as to what we could try.
230am: Wakes to nurse. His bed is pushed up against ours to make a super bed. He climbs over my husband, who then rolls onto his bed. Nurse back to sleep.
630am: Wakes to nurse, but it's the hungry kind, as he switches back and forth and is very restless.
7am: Gets up with my husband, eats breakfast and watches TV while my husband gets ready for work.
8am: I get up and pout on the couch over my breakfast (I think I need to take up a caffeine habit), which I share with A.
9am: A asks to nurse, could curl up in my lap for hours. I usually cut it off around 15 minutes and get up to start getting dressed, etc.
930-10am: Try to get A dressed and ready to go, but it's a big fight. He is already acting tired at this point. So behaviors such as ignoring me and "wrong kind of attention" behaviors. TV usually goes off at this point (I am very open to tips on how to be a morning parent, I don't like using TV, but holy hell, I find it very difficult to crash racecars that early in the morning) because he's not listening to me.
1015am: Finally leave the freaking house to whatever activity, be it errands or playdate or what have you.
1130am: Is showing his need for a nap with more difficult behaviors, like not playing nice or ignoring me again, or losing it over something minor.
12pm: Goes down quickly and easily for a nap, which includes nursing in his bed.
1pm: AWAKE, after nursing through the entire nap.
130pm: Lunch, he doesn't eat much, prefers to play.
230pm: Finally convince A to get some pants back on and go do something, usually a park or a walk or working in the yard or having friends over.
5pm: I start making dinner.
530pm: Starts whining that he wants to nurse.
545pm: My husband arrives home and does his best to entertain him until dinner, but A usually engages in those same tired behaviors from earlier.
630pm: He either plays a bit or has a bath.
7pm: Potty, pj's, snack and books, brush teeth, nurse.
8pm: THE FRENZIES!!! I swear his eyes roll back in his head and he becomes possessed by the devil. He doesn't want to be rocked, but if we put him down he runs around and jumps on the bed. He hits and kicks my husband, asks for everything under the sun (turn white noise on, turn white noise off, close door, open door, now a snack, now some water, now a song, etc. etc. etc.) laughs maniacally, arches his back, spins his head around 360 degrees... Well anyway. We stay with him, we leave him alone (he just comes out, he has never fallen asleep without company and very rarely without being held), we throw our hands up and walk away, we hand him back and forth for sanity breaks...
845pm: Usually at this point everyone is fried enough that at least one of us is crying. Usually it's him, because usually he will konk out after crying a bit on my husband's shoulder. He's crying for me, but if I go in there he goes back into playtime mode.
9pm: Husband emerges from bedroom questioning WHY we are trying for #2.
General information: He grazes throughout the day but eats the most in the morning and while I'm making dinner. On weekends when I'm at work, he fights his naps with my husband but ends up sleeping ~2 hours. He is not any easier to get to bed on those days because the fighting means his nap starts way later than it would with me. No matter what time he goes to bed, he always gets up at 7am. I read "Sleepless in America" and we tried all of her tips for awhile about keeping the exciting stuff in the morning and the more boring stuff in the afternoon, but it didn't help. We ended up fighting a completely awake toddler instead of an overtired one. Where is the happy medium!?
Now, after writing all this out it kind of seems that he's ready for a nap in the late morning, and ready for bed at dinnertime. How the hell? Do I try to accommodate this ludicrous schedule or try to tweak it, and if so, how?