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What on earth do I wear??

post #1 of 15
Thread Starter 

Any other FTMs tried clothes shopping recently? Oy. I did today and it was DEPRESSING. Between trying to find something in colors I liked, a style I liked, that was nursing-friendly, and good for the hot weather, AND affordable...nada. 

 

I think it was because I was trying to find summer dresses/skirts. I really would rather wear shorts, but I have no idea how to find ones that fit this pooch! Ditto jeans. Anyone know where to find higher-rise jeans and shorts?? I know about Not Your Daughter's Jeans, but $100 is really too much for my budget :-(

 

I think I may just go to Goodwill, find something that will physically stay on my person, and give up on the rest.

post #2 of 15
I can't wear jeans, it is so uncomfortable and everything fits weird. I have been wearing halter dresses and soft palazzo pants with tunics that I can whip a boob out of easily. and no solid colors even though I do not like prints, it's the only thing that hides breast milk, spit up and drool. I would much rather be a nudist right now.
good luck mama!
post #3 of 15

i am not a FTM, and having done this before, i know that it will pass..and for the moment, i wear the same 2-3 shirts. (flowy, prints, light weight). on shorts i'm desperately trying to wait it out.. i have 1 pair of jeans that just happen to fit, they are an off brand, they don't look great. but whatever.. none of my shorts fit, and my skirts are too big.. with my other kids, every single time i buy a new size of pants, i lose 5lbs and can't wear them anymore..  that happened with 3 kids, so this time, i'm trying to just hold out because i know that just when i get desperate enough to pay whatever it takes to have something that fits, i wear it for 2 weeks and then its falling off .. the one way i combat this is elastic wastes .. i have some cargo shorts with elastic wastes that i can pretend fit now with the flowy tops and when i lose 5-10 more lbs i'll be able to wear them a lot more comfortably.. i'm hoping by the time its jean-weather again in september or so that i'll have tons of pants that fit.. the next two sizes below where i am now i have tons of pants.. please please let some of them fit by fall.

 

and goodwill is a great idea.. i wonder if that would work for my 'buy it and lose 5 lbs' trick..
 

post #4 of 15
I am in the same boat. I'm still 25 lbs above my Pre preg weight and my hips got wider so none of my clothes fit. I'm still wearing maternity pants and trying to wait it out but the loss is going slow and my skin is very loose and flabby. I feel gross. I guess some second hand shopping is going to be necessary with summer coming. I only have a few nursing tops and its definitely not enough.
post #5 of 15

I find that if I wear skirts and shirts, it is much easier to nurse, etc and I like the feeling of skirts in the summer.  I pretty much got rid of all my pre-pregnancy clothes when DD1 was little.  Just didn't fit right or suit my needs.  Most people's bodies change permenantly after having kids, either a squishy belly or wider hips, my rib cage is way bigger than before I had kids.... 

 

I have been nursing since DD1 was born and so my wardrobe consists of shelf bra tanks, shirts and bottoms, I don't really have any dresses at all.  I got some 'mom' pants (higher waist) from JC Penny's and they still fit pretty good.  I have to say though, I am not super into fashion, mostly into function.

post #6 of 15

it's been different after every pregnancy- this pregnancy i've been layering like mad (i'm not super modest, but this time round i live around a lot more people who stop by randomly, and have older kids i have to chase out into the yard all day)- so it's been capri's and loose dresses that come down super low so i can pop a breast out the top.  when going in public, i wear a light sweater.  i have 4 different dresses i'm rotating through.  

 

otherwise it's yoga pants, tank top, and loose cover shirt.

 

i never look good right now.  jeans are off the radar for another 6 months at least (hips take a long time, and i don't like them), as are dresses that fit snugly and aren't super low-cut.  my shoes are crocs and converse style reeboks.  today i'm in an organic t-shirt and bamboo yoga pants.  but i can't nurse publicly in this w/out wardrobe malfunctions!  

 

as for the squishy tummy, it really does get a LOT better!!!  i'm only 5-7lbs above pre-pregnancy weight now, and the tummy is annoying.  but it has always gone back down for me, so i have hope it will for all of you too!!!

post #7 of 15
Thread Starter 

Thank you all so much! It really helps to hear it's normal. I'm actually 5 lbs below my pregnancy start weight, but...that's kind of a long story. Cliff notes: Anorexic (mildly, I guess) for years, gained A TON once I stopped starving myself, pregnancy start weight was about 30-40 lbs above a healthy weight for me, and 50 above my highest weight at which I'm actually comfortable (more like 60 above where I want to be). 

 

SO. Lots of baggage there. I could see my face, arms, and upper chest getting thinner during my second trimester, and I was so excited, thinking that once the baby was born I'd be a bit thinner. So having the same big tummy from early last year, only worse because now it's all jellyish....I guess I'm just scared that I don't have a normal weight to get back to, and I'll just be fat forever. People say, "Oh, you'll lose the weight," and I think, "I HAVE lost it, and it's still awful!!" 


End rant.

 

Let's all start a postpartum nudist camp - jelly bellies required for membership!! Til then, I'm going to remember these ideas and try to get to Goodwill rather than continuing to torture myself.

post #8 of 15

I'm nearly back to the way I was pre-pregnancy but my belly is a good 3-4 inches larger than it was before, so it leads to this weirdness where my pants and shirts all fit perfectly until they hit my waist. So frustrating.

 

The worst thing about clothes shopping (other than the fact that I can never do it due to being a work widow and using the Ergo everywhere) is trying to find something that I like which is also nursing friendly. That said, I found this dress that is so perfect in function and flattery that I bought it in two different colors and plan to wear it as much as humanly possible.

post #9 of 15
Thread Starter 

Oooh, I like that!

post #10 of 15

wow- that is a great dress!

post #11 of 15
I'm definitely going to check out old navy. I don't usually wear dresses but I think this summer I might have to!
post #12 of 15
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Originally Posted by TallToriV View Post

Thank you all so much! It really helps to hear it's normal. I'm actually 5 lbs below my pregnancy start weight, but...that's kind of a long story. Cliff notes: Anorexic (mildly, I guess) for years, gained A TON once I stopped starving myself, pregnancy start weight was about 30-40 lbs above a healthy weight for me, and 50 above my highest weight at which I'm actually comfortable (more like 60 above where I want to be). 

 One step at a time! Remember to shoot for healthy and attainable goals.  I also had eating disorders in High School and weighed 105 lbs and was 5'5 inches.  I am now 5'6.5 inches and am steady at 150, which is top of healthy range for me.  I like to be at 140, which is still completely healthy and do-able for me.  I know that I have the tendency to want to be lighter than 140, but since that is where I am at my healthiest, I have to remind myself of that.

 

Sounds like you are working to get a good handle on it.

post #13 of 15
Thread Starter 

ChloesMama, I just need to find that sweet spot where I'm not overweight, but not getting sick all the time, either! So glad you found it. 

post #14 of 15
I love clothes so I kinda took on this breast feeding and pp body challenge and had some fun with it. I have some nursing tank tops, and some soft bandeau bras as base layers. I also love the Spanx leggings for giving a little support. I have a couple of pairs of jeans that are a bit stretchy and seem fairly comfortable. My "boyfriend fit" shorts also work great. For tops I've been layering a wide oversized T or blouse over the nursing tanks. I can slip baby under the t shirt, unhookthe bra or tank top and nurse anywhere. I also have a bunch of soft maxi-skirts that are forgiving on the waist and very comfortable. For warmth (just left Singapore for the US and am freezing) I have been layering drapy cardigans and wearing chunky scarves.

... and adding a little inspiration here







Edited by typebug - 5/18/13 at 11:23pm
post #15 of 15
Typebug, I love it. I've been utilizing my nursing tanks a lot, and wear them under drapier blouses or sweaters. If I wear a low cut top, I use a cami I cut the bottom off of underneath for cover and just lift it and boob out to nurse. Or just regular tee shirts with a regular tank top and nursing bra underneath- lift tee up, pull tank&bra down.

I like jersey stretch skirts and gauchos for bottoms, but do fit most of my pre-preg pants too. Oh- SHOES! By golly, I DO wear cute shoes to dress up an outfit. Makes a world of difference.
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