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"Bad Mommy!"

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When my daughter (age 5) gets up set, she has taken to yelling "Bad Mommy!" at me as a means of expressing her displeasure.  Mostly it's when I ask her to do something that she doesn't want to do, like clean up toys, turn off the tv, whatever.  I've tried telling her that it hurts my feelings when she says that, I've tried saying that I don't care that she calls me that, but that she still has to get dressed, for example.  I've tried saying that I'm sorry she feels that way and is so upset, but that she still has to do whatever.  Or I just walk away from her if I'm feeling upset or angry.  Even worse than me not knowing how to handle it is now my 22 month old son has started saying it too!!! Ugh.  If anyone has any suggestions as to how to handle being called "bad mommy" and her major screaming fits, I would greatly appreciate it. 

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That must be so hard to deal with! I have no answers but I am bumping it up in hopes it'll get more attention. 

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Maybe say "Please say I don't want to Mommy instead of bad Mommy. We don't call each other names in our house!". I'm sure you'll have to tell her many times but I guess that's how it goes :/ FWIW, my DS calls me mean occasionally when I am firm with him to get him to follow a rule. I just remind him I'm not mean, he's just not allowed to do certain things like climb on the table and I'll help him stay off wink1.gif
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I've totally been there! I say "I'm sorry that you feel that way, I love you very much" and then either walk away or move on with whatever she is supposed to be doing. I'm sorry you are dealing with this!
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Originally Posted by sere234 View Post

Maybe say "Please say I don't want to Mommy instead of bad Mommy. We don't call each other names in our house!"

 

Yes, this is it.  This needs to be my consistent reply.  She needs to learn to express her emotions using words, and this will help her do that.  I also tell her that as a mom, it's my job to help her learn the right behaviors (like not climbing on the couch)!!!

 

Thank you!

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"Please say I don't want to Mommy instead of bad Mommy. We don't call each other names in our house!".
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"I'm sorry that you feel that way, I love you very much" and then either walk away or move on with whatever she is supposed to be doing.

I need to start this with my 18mo who is very verbal but still not quite enough to express emotions and thus the epic tantrums and "no no no mommy!" that she tells me when asked to do things orngtongue.gif  I don't think she's called me anything yet but she has taken to calling the dog bad when he walks up to her (she baits him with food then when he goes for it she tells him "NO! Bad Q!")

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