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Third Trimester Joys+Woes

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I just got hit over the head with heartburn, a renewal of nausea (now at bedtime for some reason?) and fatigue, a sprained foot from a simple walk in the park thanks to Relaxin, and the tingling sense of my skin streeeeetching tighter and tighter and my belly button looking distressed. I also stopped fitting into the desks at school. Oh god. It just gets worse now, doesn't it? 

 

ETA: But there's joy too! My husband is finally 100% in tune with my pregnancy and getting super excited to match my excitement, my mom's tickets are purchased for her visit to help us post-partum, we are building baby furniture and moving stuff around this weekend so that I can FINALLY satisfy my nesting urges, and at least school is over Monday, and I won't have to sit in the handicapped student's desk any longer. (God, am I glad for ADA though!)

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i just got online to see how everyone was doing with heartburn--because mine came on yesterday and is crazy intense yesterday and today. so not fun. i don't remember anything really helping last pregnancy and i'm pretty sure i had it a lot sooner--this baby is low or smaller...or both. 

 

also after a few weeks of hips getting progressively more upset when sleeping--i realized they needed two pillows- so last night i stacked two pillows together and they are much happier! i still can only sleep on my left side--but at least it's with less aches than the last few weeks. though now i think the heartburn is irritated laying down. :/

 

i am getting super excited to meet the babe! :) and my 2 year old has been practicing with my baby doll from when i was a girl--how to nurse, how to put on a diaper. and we've seen actual babies crying recently and gotten to talk about how the baby cries. i think reading books together have really helped. and he's getting excited. he also came up to nurse today and as i lifted my shirt up he patted my belly and said big baby! :) so cool we will have little ones with us soon.

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I have been having trouble just standing up to do some chores, like dishes. My uterus/abs start aching and I feel like I need to sit so bad. Then, I struggled to take a short walk with the family last night. My uterus/ligaments were hurting and it was slow going. Once I got home my ankle hurt, but thankfully, that has gone away. I have been slacking on my pilates and need to get back to it since I think that helps some even if it's getting harder and harder to do.

One big motivator is being strong for labor is known to possibly reduce pain. I have been sleeping fine at night. I fold a body pillow in half and shove that between my legs and that gives enough support. There are some occasional nights where I am in too much pain to sleep well, but for the most part it's been alright. 

 

I'm getting really excited about meeting the baby too. It's hard to believe a little less than 6 weeks from now is when I had my first, 7.5 weeks from now is when I had my second and around 8.5 weeks from now I had my third. I'm hoping this baby chooses something toward the earlier side though. :) 

I've got most of my stuff together for baby, a bit more house organizing and cleaning needs to take place and then a keeping up with things after that. I need to have pretty much everything ready to go in 2.5 weeks or so because my midwife is doing the home visit most likely in the 35th week. My husband is getting a 4 day weekend because he put in lots of overtime(but not paid since it's salary) and the boss decided to reward him. So, this weekend I must get LOTS accomplished. 

post #4 of 84

Reflux here (which feels like nausea), and allergies in spades. When the reflux gets really bad, I'm taking the lowest dose of zantac/rinititdine, which really helps. I'm also off anything tomato-based, which seems to make it worse. My tailbone and hip are also killing me (to the point of my leg giving out at random times. Seriously not good). I've started PT, but holy cow it's painful (and scary).

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These babies are taking up every inch of space possible, and their parents are very excited about their (above average!) sizes, so they keep reminding me they can gain half a pound a week - or more! - from now on...EACH! dizzy.gif Where will that go?! My belly went OUT as far as it could, they are UP as high as they can go, the u/s tech had to go to my BACK to find the rest of the baby on my right...I'm concerned they are going to start ripping my abs to shreds. greensad.gif I feel like I hit a wall physically this week; everything aches, and I'm so tired (I know it sounds crazy, I'm on bed rest...what do I do all day?! But I think from not using my body for 10 weeks, plus just being third tri pregnant - with twins! - I don't even have the energy to want to do anything.) I have started not being able to sleep at all. I wake up every hour or so all through the night, and recently had the realization its going to get worse before it gets better. I am hungry all the time because I can never fit enough food in to be satisfied; its getting hard to drink, even! I just keep looking at the calendar, studying everything I have on each day and counting down. I make and re-make lists to feel like I'm accomplishing something. Its getting too hard to sit up for any period of time to crochet my little projects, and I don't have any more photo books to do at this point. My breathing sounds like I just ran a marathon after I take a shower, and I can't even bend down to dry my legs by myself anymore. redface.gif I've been taking baths for some relief, and it does help while I'm in there, I just wish there was more room to stretch! Luckily, it doesn't happen too often, but reflux is just gross and heartburn is uncomfortable - never experienced either of those with my previous pregnancies. When I go out for appointments, my stomach is so heavy, I can feel my muscles pulling carrying it around. Then I ache the next day, like I exercised beyond my limit. And car rides are simply torture. My patience is short, I don't tolerate sounds (like kids talking, doors opening/closing, etc.) or movement (bed I'm on being banged into, someone sitting on the couch, an accidental bump into my actual body, etc). My nipples hurt, my belly button is tender, my vag is swollen and sore. And I'm sick of hearing myself complain - not sure how my husband puts up with me...

 

Phew. Rant over... shy.gif

post #6 of 84

MonkeyPrincess, I can't even imagine. hug2.gif

post #7 of 84
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An amusing discovery: a small birthmark that used to be directly over my belly button is now 3" away from it! We've grown so much new skin, it's crazy.

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I get the really bad heartburn too. So bad that I am almost in tears. I have not found anything to make it better. I can't sleep at night, I wake up every hour to go to the bathroom. I guess this is good preparation for when the baby is actually here. It is hard to drag yourself to work, and be nice and cheerful on pretty much no sleep. My right hip hurts to bad when I lay on it. But when I lay too long on my left side, my ribs are killing me because I think the baby just settles into them. I can't put on my shoes on my own, and I can't pick up anything I drop. At work, I started pushing things behind the trash can with my foot when I drop it. I am so worried about my pants or undies sliding down past my knee when I get up from the toilet and not being able to pull them up!! 
I get out of breath just sitting down and talking. I am constantly hungry. Nothing fills me up. 
I also made a list of things to do before the baby is here and I am sooo overwhelmed by all the things that need to get done yet and so little time to do any of them. I leave the house at 7 in the morning, and usually don't get home until about 6. 

 

BUT I am also really excited to meet Mason! I love just sitting in his room and looking at his crib. He is kicking me so much now, that while it is uncomfortable, it is also completely amazing. My husband tried to sooth some of my anxiety. I always say that I feel like someone should be giving me an instruction manual on what to do with a baby. Like "Sing this song, do this etc". So for mother's day he got me the book "What to Expect the First Year". :) so thoughtful and sweet. Now he got his own copy and starting highlighting things :) 

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Now he got his own copy and starting highlighting things :) 

Aww, that's sweet! 

post #10 of 84
Man oh man. Gals, we are a mess around here. We are at least all feeling eachothers pain.
I'm with you all, swollen feet and hands cause it's hot, heartburn (walking around with peppermint and red raspberry leaf tea all day) cranky cranky cranky... Can't nest worth a dern and my DH just started grad school classes this week and is gone until 11 at night twice a week for the next two years.
And my one day off a week keeps getting overrun by dh's court dates and so my chiropractor visits keep getting bumped out. Which means I can't walk still. So I feel like a hot puffy cranky slug with a sleep disorder and leg cramps.

We have what amounts to two weekends between now and July to build shelves and move furniture around to make room for another persons stuff here in this tiny yurt. My dh calls me turtle woman.

My children are working me like crazy, too. I never thought I would say this but I'm about ready to outlaw mud. So much extra work in my life because of mud.

BUT, as I cleared their sandbox of broken/destroyed toys today I thought of how sweet it's going to be in a couple of years to plunk down another dark haired? white haired? boy into the sand with some shovels and buckets and watering can and let him go to town... Not to mention getting to actually see his face (What??) in some weeks time.

I'm glad to still be pregnant, considering the alternative. Soon enough we will be seeing the first pictures of squishy new babies on this board- someones baby like Tenk's!!
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Awwww... you guys make me feel so much better about myself!  Thanks for that, by the way ;)

 

I have 2 weeks plus two days left of work hallelulah!!  DH took a week of holidays so help out with the last push since I was um... not coping well at all (understatement of the century) with being single-working-pregnant-mom while he was away.  What a blessing it has been to have him home.  Our nanny quit in March and childcare has been an absolute nightmare, so I'm really glad that that part is over.  It's been a rough last couple of months, so I'm hoping the third trimester is miles better.

 

I've stopped wishing for baby to be a preemie just so this can be over, so I think that's a step in the right direction.

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Woes: Cramps. I saw my MW and she did a bunch of tests for pre-term labor, UTI, yeast infection etc. and they all came back negative. I'm guessing that it's gastro-intestional because a lot of foods have been making me sick lately and TMI I farted aaaalllllll day yesterday and today I feel AMAZING!! My husband wasn't too happy but it's not like his opinion matters anyways whistling.gif

 

I'm so tired also. I swear I thought I reached my sleep record in the 1st trimester but I am totally beating it lately. Or I don't sleep at all. I think tuesday I slept a total of 4 hours with 4 one hour naps, then last night I slept from 7:30-4:30 and I've taken two hour 1/2 naps today. Allergies are giving me a ton of headaches and I am crossing every finger that my daily migraines from 1st trimester don't come back since my SIL said that "a lot of symptoms from early pregnancy crop up again during the last 2 months." NOOOO!!

 

I'm not sure if it's pregnancy related or not but I FOUND A DEAD MOUSE IN MY BED during my second nap today. Literally 6 inches down from my pillow right where I was sleeping. My mom said that she thinks my cat brought me a present but when I put her by it she acted like it's the first time she's seen the thing. Now I'm wondering if I squished it in my sleep, which is even more disturbing. I'm a big fat murderer who took multiple showers today and is washing every piece of fabric that was on my bed.

 

Joys: I feel so much better about my body. I wouldn't say that I feel sexy but I definitely feel new energies within the more that I grow. I am starting to feel more connected with Jaya and interpret her movements. For example, at night she kicks me in the spleen to say "Ma! Roll over to your other side!" Or if I forget to eat she moves like crazy to say "FEED ME!!" My anxieties about whether or I can handle being a mother are starting to subside also and I'm becoming excited to get to know and raise her.

post #13 of 84
Oh my god a dead mouse! In your bed with you!

I think you win best gross out story of the day.
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Woes: Cramps. I saw my MW and she did a bunch of tests for pre-term labor, UTI, yeast infection etc. and they all came back negative. I'm guessing that it's gastro-intestional because a lot of foods have been making me sick lately and TMI I farted aaaalllllll day yesterday and today I feel AMAZING!! My husband wasn't too happy but it's not like his opinion matters anyways whistling.gif

 

I'm so tired also. I swear I thought I reached my sleep record in the 1st trimester but I am totally beating it lately. Or I don't sleep at all. I think tuesday I slept a total of 4 hours with 4 one hour naps, then last night I slept from 7:30-4:30 and I've taken two hour 1/2 naps today. Allergies are giving me a ton of headaches and I am crossing every finger that my daily migraines from 1st trimester don't come back since my SIL said that "a lot of symptoms from early pregnancy crop up again during the last 2 months." NOOOO!!

 

I'm not sure if it's pregnancy related or not but I FOUND A DEAD MOUSE IN MY BED during my second nap today. Literally 6 inches down from my pillow right where I was sleeping. My mom said that she thinks my cat brought me a present but when I put her by it she acted like it's the first time she's seen the thing. Now I'm wondering if I squished it in my sleep, which is even more disturbing. I'm a big fat murderer who took multiple showers today and is washing every piece of fabric that was on my bed.

 

Joys: I feel so much better about my body. I wouldn't say that I feel sexy but I definitely feel new energies within the more that I grow. I am starting to feel more connected with Jaya and interpret her movements. For example, at night she kicks me in the spleen to say "Ma! Roll over to your other side!" Or if I forget to eat she moves like crazy to say "FEED ME!!" My anxieties about whether or I can handle being a mother are starting to subside also and I'm becoming excited to get to know and raise her.

the dead mouse in bed...and you possibly being a murderer had me laughing so hard! i have two cats and they've brought me all kinds of gifts i don't want in the middle of the night! it's the yuckiest to wake up hearing one eat something! anyways i understand the need.to.wash.everything. 

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Oh my god a dead mouse! In your bed with you!

I think you win best gross out story of the day.


I agree 100% this is SO disgusting !!!  LOL and makes me glad I don't have any animals ... of course having 5 + 1 children is definitely comparable to having an animal or 2 in the house as well LOL

post #16 of 84

That mouse thing is gross, but I'm pretty sure it was the cat. I really doubt you squished a mouse. 

 

AFM: My DD just turned 2 and appears to have chicken pox... Thankfully, I've had a pretty strong case of those at age 10, so think I should be fine. 

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That mouse thing is gross, but I'm pretty sure it was the cat. I really doubt you squished a mouse. 

 

Oh I def. squished it or, at least, the body. Whether that is the reason for it's demise or my geriatric declawed cat actually got something was the source of my confusion.  

post #18 of 84
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Sometimes, the truth isn't worth it. Just tell yourself it was the cat 100% until that's how you remember it... wink1.gif
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Just tell yourself it was the cat 100% until that's how you remember it... wink1.gif

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I was having a rough couple days because of no sleep, so my woes came out readily when the opportunity presented itself. winky.gif

After a chiro adjustment, acupuncture, a bath and a massage last night, its much easier to see past the woes to the joys...

 

I'm happy to be 32 weeks pregnant with these girls. Its such a neat experience to have two babies moving around inside of me, feeling a sense of their personalities, wondering what they will look like - the possibilities are so endless! I'm grateful for a good relationship with their parents, that they include me in their excitement and planning and celebrations of the babies. I'm proud of myself for doing something I've always wanted to do. I'm excited, looking forward to their birth, and seeing their dads meet them for the first time! I am thankful to be able to indulge in cravings and self care through the pregnancy. I'm grateful for the effect this pregnancy has had on my marriage. And to the place it brought me in my life, what an amazing gift this has been...and its not even over yet!  

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